If You Want to Make a Good Impression, Don’t Forget These 10 Words

Although it is impossible to control so many things in your life, the first impression you make on other people most often depends on yourself.

When it comes to business, discuss everything down to the last detail, follow all the nuances and pitfalls, completely lose sight of the fundamental factor - which is your first impression.

I spent a lot of time thinking about how to improve my communication skills, I read a lot about it until I came across a book written in 1956 by Les Giblin, "How to Gain Confidence and Strength in Communicating with People."

Contrary to my expectations, in this paper, I did not find a special tactic consisting of many points and tricks. Tips on how to improve and learn how to make the best first impression on people have come to these ten words:

"People perceive you based on self-esteem."

The author of the book explained in detail why this happens:

"If you are not perceived as you would like and deserve, it is possible that you are to blame. Behave as if you were nobody and nothing, and the world will decide that this is your characteristic. And if you change your behavior and start acting like a person who is something, the world simply has no choice but to treat you as important and meaningful. "

This truth seems to be known to each of us, but not everyone can figure it out. To implant this vital philosophy in DNA, you must never forget two things.

1. Pay attention to the way you talk to yourself

The way you relate to yourself, quarrel or brag, carries certain energy in you. Remember how often you overestimate yourself for something and self-flagellate. You criticized yourself, humiliated yourself in your own eyes, and even lowered your self-esteem.

How did this "help" you? Is there a motivation to work on your projects, to improve your professional skills, to eat only healthy food, or to go to the gym regularly?

Most likely, the opposite happened - you didn't want anything at all and you don't believe in anything. When you talk to yourself in the language of doubt and uncertainty, you are killing your potential. And knowing your worth is out of the question.

Therefore, to communicate urgently with yourself, you should change your style. Start by eliminating your vocabulary of toxic words forever. They are no longer in your dictionary and will never be! Even if some sneak in, they immediately reformulate the thought so that it acquires a completely new sound.

Address yourself, behave as you would like others to do. Because when you treat yourself negatively, it immediately creates the same atmosphere and energy around your personality.

2. Make a list of things you can be proud of

If you are only dealing with the great successes, in your opinion, of other people (and in the age of the internet we are attacked with such information from all sides), then you will quickly be convinced that you are not remarkable. Therefore, it is naive to expect to be noticed and appreciated.

Although you probably know that the vast majority of things on social networks are an illusion, if everything you see around you is just a picture of someone else's wealth and success, then this is very bad.

Therefore, you base your doubts even before you try to impress someone. It is very easy to read: depending on the expression of the eyes, intonation, gestures and behavior, internal energy. It is impossible to pretend to be self-confident.

I had to deal with it myself. And to build my confidence, I created a successful file. I keep positive reviews about my book there, kind words about my articles, and letters from my clients who, thanks to me, have changed their lives.

Every time I had doubts and insecurities, I would open this file to remind myself that it was worth something. My advice: if you're just as worried about some important meetings, create the same file. Or write down your handwritten points about all the accomplishments and things about you that you can be proud of.

Although people pay attention to language, signs, such as a handshake, a picture during a conversation, eye contact, and even the color of a handkerchief in a breast pocket, you can forget about a positive first impression if you are unsure.

The tactics of how to behave on the first date are of course important. But focusing only on it is like building a house, completely forgetting about a solid foundation.

The world forms an opinion about you based on your own opinion.