How to Get Past Doubt

“Do not doubt everything. Get your own light. ”~ Buddha

As far as I can remember, I have allowed my life to be shaped by external forces.

Outwardly, it seemed like I was just another tireless soul, living in the moment and continuing to live like a leaf in the air. But in hindsight, I could really avoid making serious mistakes and avoiding situations where I had to make difficult or important decisions.

It wasn’t until recently, when I realized that it was four years until now since I had fallen into this job that I despised for what seemed to be forever, when I even stopped seeing this.

But on this day, as I stood looking around and wondering where I would end up, suddenly - and surprisingly - I decided that all that would change.

Before I knew it, I was working on something, until then, which was just a vague idea, even though it kept going around in the back of my mind.

I was applying to return to university.

There was little doubt about this decision; it was something I would have thought about for a while but had been procrastinating for as long as possible.

But really, doubts quickly crept in. I hated formal education for the first time, and this time I was going to learn something that was sure to stop any dead conversation with 99 percent of people I knew and make a great friend of my one-in-law who was deep into crystals and horoscopes:

Consideration.

I knew that was exactly what I needed. And I was glad that once I stood on my own two feet and made the decision. Needless to say, I was secretly relieved that I would not make another big one for at least a few years.

But I didn't know that was far from what it would be.

In making such a great life choice, I would make a complete turnaround with my familiar and reliable avoidance plan and choose to view life directly on the face.

And I had forgotten how terrible life looks.

My work environment started immediately. Maybe this is not what I really want. Maybe I have changed my mind; people change their minds all the time, don't they? Life would be easier if I could just stay where I am and get another job. It's not too late to quit school…

Instead of running away as usual, this time I was shocked. It was like I was making progress, but it was like I was going back - even though I couldn’t go back, forward, or in either direction.

I was paralyzed and literally paralyzed.

And I would learn to be considerate.

It's just perfect.

My disability stemmed from the long-held belief that I needed to be free from all doubts before I made any major decisions and move forward in life. But as I come quickly to see, if that is the case, no one will ever do whatever he wants to do.

It is still mental state to doubt. And while I think the problem is that I rushed into the decision or I didn’t really consider the other options, it was, in fact, arousing questionable doubts about my constant questioning, doing everything but impossible to see things clearly.

For about six months, I had relapses, making more decisions than I had in my lifetime together. I don’t usually feel skeptical, but when it does, I know why it is there, and instead of pleasing it or throwing it away, I would rather let the water settle before proceeding with what I want to do.

Below what I have read in doubt is divided into three steps or rules. If you doubt that they will prevent you from making big decisions and guessing yourself, put that aside for a while while you read and discover for yourself.

1. There will always be a reason for not doing something.

If you try hard enough, you can always find a good reason to do nothing.

You can't go to a party because you didn't get as much work done as you had planned.

You cannot start a family because you need to make at least ten a year a year more.

You cannot run your business because you are already tired and it will be very difficult.

When faced with a choice, our minds often fish for the sake of inaction, we automatically accept those who seem to be intrigued by our fears and excuses for our feelings.

In this way, we meet our experience by going through an ongoing internal narrative about what happened, rather than what actually happens new and constantly changing here now.

It is easy enough to understand this when you read it in the article. The deceptive thing is that when it happens to you, the stories can become so real that reminding yourself feels like an impossible task.

This is especially true with doubt as all this time it will be telling you things like this: There is no point even to try, there is a reason why you can't but you haven't found it yet, too, you will be this way, so you may be defeated by your end.

But no matter how complex and satisfying a story may be, if it contradicts what you want or know within the depths of truth, then you can be sure that it is a dubious mind.

As a function of the problem-solving mode of mind, doubt is a very useful tool that can alert us to the coming danger, help us to think critically, and be able to make better decisions. As we spend most of our time in this problem-solving mode, however, this risk-taking approach can be permanently altered and quickly weakened.

Either way, the skeptical mind is not you. But how do you know the difference between you and this part of your brain? No — you don’t — at least not when you’re stuck in this mode, as by definition what the skeptical mind means.