How To Accept You Don't Need Everyone And Their Approval

At some point in our lives, we tend to be eager to have someone understand us or have the support from those that we care about because we know that we would do the same for them without a second thought. We may have an idea or started a new chapter in our lives and hope that others would be happy for us or agree. Unfortunately, it's not always the case you are going to have their approval. Some will not think that your idea is the best and that you are doing something different for your better or believable life. It'll probably hurt you because you wanted to have the support and more encouragement to go forward with things from others you looked at to say something was all right, instead they denied you in a way where you feel like you can't go on without knowing their opinion is positive or uplifting.

You need to know you shouldn't feel hurt because you don't need people to accept what you do and what you want to be for yourselves. As long as you believe in yourself and know what you want it shouldn't matter what people think. Plus Look! The reality is not everyone is going to have something good to say, Not everyone is going to care about how you feel and what you want. Not everyone is going to want to invest their time in you, sadly. Some people can be assholes for fun or just because they don't want to see you go far in life and aren't happy with their own.

Some ways to get over it and come to the realization that not everything is going to be good to everyone around you is by trying these four steps that can prevent you from feeling as though you're unimportant or it's not worth doing.

1. Take a moment to yourself. Realize people may not have the same interest as you. For example; As a writer, not everyone is interested in reading books around my age. Most of my work appeals to an older audience that prefers reading physical copies and e-books from their phones or kindles. It's even much more difficult to get people's approval when the genre is not what they want to read.

2. Be Patient. There are people out there who'll give a damn about what you do and appreciate every bit of it. They'll encourage you to keep going. DO NOT RUSH IT, EVERYTHING TAKES TIME. It's uneasy but it'll happen.

3. You Matter. Even if people aren't on board. You have to be the one person that loves what you do and what you want. No one is going caring about it more than you.

4. Take it as a grain of salt. If you do get criticism, rather they are family, friends or strangers. It's just opinions and their thoughts. Take it as lightly as possible and turn their opinions into determination to push yourself to continue or to do better.

You've got this, You are going to be just fine as long as you try because that's what's important. No matter how much you fail or if that person doesn't understand you or want to know you. You are still accomplishing something every day that you try. You don't everyone and their approval because that takes a toll on your mental state negatively if you constantly expect that. Something you can do is try getting involved in groups that fit your interests and things that you want to talk about.

Some sites/apps I think that is good that has support groups are :

1.Instagram: Depending on what you are into or like to do. You'll find many people that have the same interests and want to talk to you.

2.Facebook: I don't use it, but I know that I have a wide range of groups to join that's how most people businesses thrive because of groups.

3. Friended: It's pretty okay in my opinion, you always have the option to delete or block people that you don't want to talk to. This app connects you with people based on topics or updates you post. They may answer or probably you might to theirs and end up being friends.

4. Better Help: It's a therapy app for you to talk to professionals about how you feel about things you think you can't say to others. The price isn't bad to pay for one. Only 40 to 70 dollars per week depending on how much you want to talk to them (if you find the discounts, it's even better.)

All I'm saying I thought I needed to write this because in my life I thought I needed to be a certain way to get the approval of those I wanted to notice and care about what I say and do. Eventually, I learned it wasn't going to benefit me but drive me crazy or just end up consistently be sad. It's hard for me still sometimes but I know as long as I keep going for me that's all that matters.