Do you want to be loved?

Introduction:

Love is one of the most precious and important things in life. If anyone says the world would be great without love, that person must have serious mental issues.

Body:

Love is expressed through words, actions, glances, smiles, etc.

Some people suffer greatly just because they are not loved by anyone. Some live in rejection, constantly hated by others. Why do people crave love so much?

Subjectively, people hate themselves more than others hate them. If they cannot even love themselves, how can anyone else love them? For instance, a person who constantly says they are ugly, even though their family advises them to be optimistic, they still criticize themselves, staying locked in their room, refusing to go out for fresh air or meet anyone. As a result, they grow uglier, their negativity becomes an illness. No matter who advises them, they don't listen, and their distrust grows, believing others are lying, so they are truly hated.

Objectively, people dislike you because you are different from them.

A girl with a beautiful face might not be liked because of her tan skin. People prefer fair skin, not realizing that in the fashion industry, her unique look would make her famous, her beauty and talent unmatched.

A person with great ambition and extraordinary talent is often misunderstood by narrow-minded people, unable to comprehend the great things they strive to achieve.

How to be loved:

The condition is to love yourself first. I'm sure you've heard this before. But really do it. Loving yourself doesn't mean accepting your weaknesses or bad habits. If you have acne, would you say you love your acne? If you are cowardly, would you proudly admit that?

Loving yourself means pushing yourself to constantly improve, learning and experiencing valuable lessons, and living happily. If you feel inadequate and want to be more knowledgeable, then make an effort to study, read books, learn new languages, and save money for travel to broaden your horizons. That is loving yourself!

But don't confuse blindly pursuing ambition with self-love. For example, wanting to have a full and comfortable life does not mean you have to become rich like Elon Musk, Bill Gate, Alan Phan, etc. Set your own and appropriate living standards!

Once you love yourself, whether others love you or not won't matter anymore. If you live well with others, they will treat you well in return. So what does living well mean? It means being sincere, not fake, not taking advantage of others, and not expecting anything in return. Sometimes the more you expect, the less you receive.

Sometimes you treat people well, but they are not used to it, as they have lived in coldness for so long. Your kindness is meaningless to them. Or they have been hurt so much that they doubt your kindness. Or they want to live without being indebted to anyone, so they don't need love. Or they think your kindness is a given, so they don't value it.

If someone loves you a lot, do you fear becoming weak? The truth is, once you love yourself, the love of others is just an addition—whether it's there or not, you're fine. If it is there, it strengthens you.

If you want to love someone, help them love themselves. Each person has a different temperament, so love manifests differently. You should understand their character before helping. If their pride is too strong, your help may be seen as a humiliation. Be careful not to let your good intentions turn into harm.

Conclusion:

Whether you want to be loved or not, in the end, it doesn’t really matter. What matters is living with a conscience and responsibility. Love yourself—that is the purest form of love. Don’t force love from others! Let love spread naturally.