Damage Control- Be A Welcome Space but NEVER a Doormat

On this journey called life, your path will lead you to an exuberant amount of people. Some that stay only for a minute, a year or an entire lifetime.

As they walk into your life, you’ll find that some may find more opportunities than you’d have liked to take up more space than you had perceived from the beginning.

The right people will never take advantage of that space in between but some will definitely think that they own it, never contemplating that it’s only an easement and that it was never for sale.

It can be hard to build the necessary walls up to make distance a priority and to make them fully understand that you do have distinguished boundaries! People will try to break down that barrier every chance they get, however, it’s not their choice, it’s yours.

People will try to take advantage of others time and zone. This is yours and unless the agreement is mutual the word NO should be used loud and clear.

It’s hard to believe that a topic such as this should even need to be spoken about but real life shows us that it does.

You are the one that gets to decide if a person has worn out their welcome. If they have respected you and your life, this could be one of those people that get to remain forever however if thats not the case, a minute in your life is way too long.

No is a hard word to verbalize even though you’re feeling it’s vibe. You want to say no so badly and then somehow yes spills out. We’ve all been there. That’s your kindness showing up. You may even be gritting your teeth as you say it but you will still say yes.

You somehow feel obligated to this person, not because of them but because of your heart and your giving nature however there are so many people looking to walk in and never reciprocate back to you.

These people look at you like a doormat, wiping their feet on you anytime they please. Walking through the door just taking up space that can be used in so many other positive ways and yet somehow they keep manipulating their way into your life.

Stop the chaos. You stop it by saying No! Use your voice. You’re not a doormat to be trampled on by anyone. It doesn’t matter who this person or people may be, recoup the power of you and your life, it’s your life, your choice.

Don’t remain accessible to anyone that takes advantage of you and your kindness. Lock the door and throw away the key. They don’t deserve you. They’ll go find someone else to use and manipulate, because that’s all it is and it’s all it will ever be. Thank your lucky stars that it’s no longer you!

You’ll cross paths with so many amazing people. People who will love you and that will truly care about you. These are the only people to hold near and dear to your heart and in your life. Keep your space yours. You decide who stays and who goes. Manipulators manipulate. They don’t care even when they say they do. Words are cheap. Integrity is gold. Real people are priceless.

Stand in your power. Be confident. Know deep down in your soul that not everyone deserves to be in your presence and this right here, the feeling of “this is my life, not theirs” will distinctively change your life forever!

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