Choices

Every single living being makes choices in this world, from the time your born until the day you die. I witnessed a woman struggling in life and a thought came to me. At what point in her souls journey did she make the first bad choice that led her to where she is today? One might say destiny but we are given free will so at the end of the day it comes down to choices. Do you choose to call it a tomato or a tomato see it's the same thing we just choose different names for it. Take these two older gentlemen who had been rivals for what seemed like forever and there latest feud was whether cola was called “soda” or “pop” now from the outside looking in we can all agree it's the same thing but we choose to give it a name and therefore it has power. Power in the belief to know it as the name you know it as. Your father and his before him all called id it “soda” or “pop” but it is and always has been simply the same thing, a carbonated beverage. We are arguing about the same thing, both trying to argue the same point but only able to in one's own words. Blinded that there could be another outlook or another angle to every situation. Only being able to see what your able to see until that one day arises that something or someone challenges that point view. Do you at this point stop because your point of view is correct and it's not possible that it could be wrong? Or do you stop and analyze the situation and see if there could be fault to your own point of view or to validate it. But again “soda” or “pop” at the root of every argument your both seeing it from your own point of view. From what you were given in life up until that point in time that something or someone was introduced to offer you a choice. When one is able to simply see that you are both arguing about the same thing then you can understand the other persons point of view “soda” or “pop”. At some level most of your beliefs are probably the same but your getting hung up on semantics. Agree to disagree on that one point and you'll find your a lot more informed and able to create a new hypothesis on the subject at hand in a healthy way. Stop getting caught in the weeds, tripping over the pebbles that seem like boulders but once conquered were merely stumbling blocks in retrospect. Maybe these have always been the choices we choose every day that slowly pile up onto each other like the biggest game of pig pile ever created. One day spiraling out of control and waking up and asking what happened? Then someone like myself witnessing one from afar asking again when in her souls journey did she make the first choice that got her here now.

Let's say I was born with a condition at birth that would alter my life, this current life. Is it possible that I through the laws of karma earned it in a different life time? So both good and bad you may have earned over many lifetimes. You ask how can you believe this, your talking nonsense. But again “soda” or “pop” just because that's how you've always done it doesn't mean that's how it should be done. Look at it from another angle and in a more positive light, instead of dwelling on the negative things that life throws at you remember the good ones. You cannot change anything in the past only build the current you for the future. Have you ever met someone who was going through something terrible but they are the most humble and divine like that they exude positivity. They have finally learned to slow down and appreciate the little things in life although in pain in so many ways both mentally and possibly physically. They keep this positive attitude because they realize we all are going to die at some point and no matter what your plan is or what your think your doing, your time like mine will come. The only thing we can do is heal both our spiritual and physical bodies. Learn to Love yourself so you can then Love the world. Through love nothing is impossible, think to yourself what you have already done and or what you would do for the people you love the most in your life. If we all learned to spread that love we would be paying it forward one person at a time. One of the problems we currently deal with is we are unable to slow down and show a shed of patience. Sometimes things may take time and all the layers of choices you have been piling on over the years take time to sort through on the decent to get to the root. Ask yourself this, if you were born somewhere that never had any outside disturbance from the outside world. They lived there life very simply and lived the best they knew how. They heard stories of what happens when you leave the island and it scars them enough to never leave. On this island I'm sure they follow some type of order of hierarchy. Now at it's most basic level they are happy, there needs must be being met or they would have people trying to escape this island. Not knowing any better I'm sure they get cold and hot just like everyone else and in there own way they have figured out a way to ease the suffering the best they know how. What do you or they need more than good people around them? Think about everything you've ever worked hard for in your life. Some of these things you haven't thought of in years and most are distant memories. There is a saying, your just someone I used to know. This same statement can be applied to yourself throughout your entire life. Look at some old pictures of yourself and you will quickly think “what was I thinking” when looking some of your youth pictures or last nights pictures no judging here. But every last one of them you learned from and it helped mold you. They were all just stepping stones or choices you made. If your in a tough spot or riding high all were choices given to us on our journey to remember why where here. All the accomplishments no matter how big or small are the same just some thing I did a long time ago. Why then do we stay in our heads and dwell on the past or scenarios of how things could have gone? They didn't go that way so start looking at the positive outlook of every situation. See the good in everything even though it may be really hard at times. One can always find something in every situation to smile about. Think positive and be positive and allow positivity to guide you with a smile. All the accomplishments you have completed or are looking to accomplish will it make you happy forever? Most as you just stated you forgot about along the way and there are so many more to complete most likely. If we know we are only here for so long as death is inevitable then there must be a reason for our repeated birth and death. Could simply be to learn our “why” and move on. If your still reading I assume you have some idea that there might be a higher power above and saying so I would assume you believe in some type of heaven. When you die, we all agree you can't take anything with you when you die. There have been studies that show the body does get lighter after it dies by 21 grams. With that said then the only thing you take with you when you die is your soul. Shouldn't we focus more on our spiritual life then since we are the soul not the body and this current body would be your rental car. Some of us have let our rental fall apart and others it still looks new as ever. Learn to really love yourself as a precious spirit soul that yearns to be happy, happiness is all within. Learn to love yourself and you will come to see life will start to become more simple and with simplicity comes happiness. They on the island don't want to be disturbed for they are happy and don't want to BUY your happy.

Children are the best example of choices. Soo many choices around them and about them. Until they grow up they will never understand all the choices that were made. But they are you and you are they, when you realize this you can start to fix your own issues when you see your child doing exactly what you do. Do they yell and fly off the handle or do something wonderful? Where did they learn it from? We need to stop blaming each other and fix ourselves before we will ever be able to fix the world. Love yourself so you can love and appreciate the world. If you were in charge and you told all of your employees to complete a task in certain way but you went ahead and did it a different way because that's how you always done it. Knowing your way was dangerous or slower you just didn't want to change. People come to you with questions about this new process but you in your own stubbornness unwilling to change snap and get grump because you find it hard to just say I simply don't know. We need to be the change we want to see in the world. It all starts with you and me and I and he, they, she, her, it. It starts with YOU. So in the end everything comes down to choices we make. What do you choose to do with your life? Do you believe struggling to barely pay the bills and going to a job that if they stopped paying you wouldn't show up again. You may enjoy this job NOW but most people are looking for a reason to find something else. Always looking for something new, when in fact we have everything we ever needed already but over the years we have inflated our NEED. All we would need to survive if on a deserted island would be food, water. Have you ever asked yourself how someone got to where they are at in life both good an bad? Take this guy over here who can't get out of his own way, yet has all the luck in the world. Do you ever ask why? Or how this other person was born into a wealthy family and from the outside looks like the perfect household. Is it, we will never know unless we live in those shoes. We are given the life we were given because we asked for it with our choices. Choices we make can alter history in the blink of an eye both good and bad. Do you choose to run aimlessly through the world or work on yourself so you can be the change you want to see in the world?

I once heard someone say they were upset watching people buy food they clearly didn't need. Knowing what they themselves have done to stay in shape it makes them mad. Mad at themselves for having the will power to keep doing it and pushing forward and upset at the people for have no self control at all. One, why worry about anyone but ones self? Everyone is on there own path, are they ready to hear the truth? Until your ready it will not matter what words anyone says. It will like they say, go in one ear and come out the other. But it is said that everything you have heard is in there somewhere, the questions is where? Get out of your head and your own way then ask yourself what's holding you back? What stops you from doing anything? Choices, you choose to be lazy or choose not to be. I know to lose weight I simply need to eat less and when that slows down then maybe I'm simply not eating the right foods. We cannot change the past and the future is ever changing, then why would we do anything else but live in the NOW? You have always known everything you need to do in your life, you just choose not to listen to your instinct. Have you ever looked upon someone and just by looking at them you knew they were at complete peace inside and out. The simplicity was very inviting and beautiful all at the same time. Thinking, I want some of what they have. It's always been there you just need to grab hold. What stops you, no one but you alone stops you from doing anything. You are your own best friend and worst enemy, learn to love yourself and the world will get easy. Who gets on you more than yourself? Nothing is ever as bad as you make it out to be in your head. When you start to slow down and see this the world becomes more manageable gets easier to handle. We choose to be who we are, for example when you were young and moved to a new school. Or Went off to the military or college, you at this time had the chance to create a new you. No one from the previous place knows these new people. Be you, be the you - You want to see in the world. You choose to create the new image of you or not or maybe your comfortable with who you are then everyone just gets you. What's better than the world getting just you, with no baggage, the you YOU were when meant to be.

Why does therapy work? Are all the therapist, people with lots of life experiences? In some cases but at it's root they are good listeners and because everyone pretty much has the same issue it's easy to see over time that everyone is hurting in the same way they just don't know it. When you finally seek therapy and ask for help they are going to tell you exactly what you need to hear. But because you “hit rock bottom” and asked for help your more receptive to listening. The answers to all your problems are staring you in the face. Choose to get out of your own way and start looking at things from all angles and instead of always thinking negative, put a positive spin on it. Why? Why not? positivity increases happiness, who doesn't want to be happy? We choose to be unhappy, we choose to be mad and we choose to be happy. Choices we all must make daily and it's our choice our free will to do so. What do you choose to fill your ears and your eyes with? What you consume will in return consume you if your not careful. Don't believe me, it's already begun so hang on, the ride will only be as bumpy as you make it. When people give you advice be receptive. They care for you and they can see you can't get out of your own way and they are telling you what you need to hear. Will you be open to hearing what needs to be heard? But, not everyone cares for you though so we put up guards just in case that advice is bad. Sometimes we get burned again and again until that wall is built so high that nothing is breaking it down. So if you've looked out and you keep returning back to the same point, then look up and see what happens. I promise if you learn to live in the now and not in your head you will find your life will start to get better in ways your current mind can't even perceive.