Adults, the 3 most important truths to see through

The world of adults does not have the word "easy", everyone has unspeakable heartaches and sufferings.

If you ask what adults are most afraid of, it must be a failure, poverty, confusion, and loneliness.

Fear is fear, but we still need to understand: that no one can live a lifetime of smooth sailing, there will always be a variety of difficulties, a variety of setbacks. When we were young, we lived carefree under our parents' wings, and when we grew up, we had to fill our wings and take on the burdens of life.

As an adult, if you want to pursue success, live a rich life, and be fulfilled inside, you must understand the following three words.

These three words are also the most important truth that adults should see through.

01. Blindly adhere to, rather than re-choice

Want to make a thing, what is the most important thing? Perhaps most people will say, is to persist.

Undeniably, want to make a thing, persistence is very important, but if the blind insistence, the results are not only unsatisfactory but also let people suffer a blow, loss of confidence and fighting spirit.

There is a literary friend who is determined to become a great short story writer, specializing in contributing to some of the larger platforms.

To achieve this goal, he insisted on writing and submitting, but he didn't pass once. The reason is that all the platforms he submitted to were big, and the fees for a single article were in the thousands.

The big platforms, with high fees, mean high requirements and competition, and it is never easy to stand out.

Every time a manuscript is rejected, he feels frustrated, but more than that, he is not willing to give up. Because of his reluctance, he did not give up and insisted on writing and submitting. His persistence seems to be more and more frustrating, but, more or less with a bit of gambling, writing out the manuscript is not much breakthrough, natural also failed to succeed.

Later, he finally gave up the big platform, and re-chose some small and medium platforms to submit, a single manuscript fee of one or two hundred, two or three hundred kind, soon over the draft. Although the manuscript fee is lower, at least not in vain to write. The fact is that you'll be able to get a lot more than just a couple of days to get a lot more than just a couple of days.

There is a saying: "Wrong direction, effort wasted."

In other words, choose the wrong direction, and then how to persist, and then how hard, there will not be much gain, or even meaningless.

Adults, first of all, must have the right self-awareness, not because of the high-minded, pretentious, at the beginning of the wrong direction, and then blindly insist on the wrong path, wasting time and energy.

Instead of blindly insisting, it is better to choose again. Sometimes, giving up is not cowardice, but a kind of wisdom.

02. Negative complaints, rather than efforts to change

Everyone has energy, some are positive energy, and some are negative energy.

Positive energy makes people positive and progressive, negative energy makes people negative and depressed. The two kinds of energy are growing and growing, affecting a person's words and actions.

When people encounter bad times and difficult situations, their performance can best reflect the essence of a person.

When I used to work, my team faced a lot of pressure to perform, the leaders above were watching every day, and my colleagues were all suffering, one of them was so anxious that she couldn't even eat. When several people were together, she was always complaining about the company, spitting out the leadership, and even moving to say, "Let's quit together!"

At first, everyone comforted her and encouraged her, but she not only did not adjust her mentality, but also became more and more serious, and completely lost enthusiasm for the work, the whole day sad face, long and short sighs, and meetings are not active, work perfunctory, her negative emotions let the whole team was affected, but in time the leadership above found the problem, the colleague was transferred to another department so that the team returned to normal, and the performance was completed as scheduled.

Whether it is work or life, there will always be such and such difficulties, encounter difficulties do not want to find ways to solve, but negative complaints, and self-denial, are destined to be defeated by the difficulties.

Adults, must have a strong heart, dare to face difficulties, take responsibility, maintain a good attitude, be optimistic, and never let negative energy will be swallowed up.

Instead of complaining negatively, you should try to change. Sometimes, a change of mind can change a life.

03. Rely on others, rather than on independent and self-improvement

We have all lived on others, and we will eventually become independent and self-sufficient.

The only way to live in peace is to be independent and strong.

When we were young, we relied on our parents. When we grow up, we have to become dependent on our parents.

These are simple truths, but not everyone understands them and can do them.

Many adults are still gnawing at their parents, and they feel comfortable doing so, thinking that their parents should give everything to them.

Many women still rely on men to live, treating men as ATMs, thinking that women do not have to work so hard to find a reliable man.

Many men still can not afford the responsibility of the family, are lazy, idle, and the burden of the family to women, living heartlessly.

Whether it is gnawing, or relying on men, relying on women, is not right. People in this life, if you can not do independent self-improvement, are losers.

As the saying goes, the mountain will fall, the water will flow, and the people will run. The only reliable thing is independence and self-improvement.

Adults, do not think about relying on others but try to make yourself strong and become dependent on those who need you.

Instead of relying on others, it is better to be independent and self-reliant. When you are independent enough and strong enough, even if there is no one behind you, there is no fear.

Conclusion.

As an adult, the sooner you understand some truths the better, the sooner you see through some truths the better. After all, there is no turning back in life.

If you want to make something, you must choose a good direction, choice is more important than effort, and do not blindly insist on the wrong path.

If you encounter bad, in difficult situations, you must adjust your mindset, positive face, try to change the status quo, believe that there are always more ways than difficulties, do not be affected by negative energy.

If you feel that life is very bitter, tired of living, and want to find someone to rely on, you must wake yourself up, the most reliable person in the world is always yourself, and never give up trying.

Adults, it's not easy, but no matter what, still have to face life positively, try to improve themselves, and always run towards the sun rises.