6 Ways to Avoid Adulting Problems, Without too Much Fuss

Adulting isn’t easy.

Each day requires something new and exciting to tackle.

We get married, change or develop our careers, bring some babies into the world, get a couple of animals and then mortgage a house.

Every stage seems to have some teething problem and challenge to face.

As we become older and wiser, it’s a lot easier to see our mistakes and instantly view their source.

But, back when the journey started, it wasn’t always that easy to see what was obviously in front of us.

Here are a significant number of important adult induced problems, which have gathered over the years from my own personal experience’s, those of friends and much older and wiser people in my life.

I’m sure some of them will resonate with you too.

One: Get rid of people immediately if they disempower you

That also means people who do not build you up when you’re down, those who criticise everything and anything you do, plus those general negative Nancy’s of the world.

If we start living with people like this, it’s pretty easy to become infiltrated with the antagonistic banter day in day out.

We start believing what they say, as it’s repeated time and time.

We are learning from who we live with & this drags down our moods and outlook on life.

You can’t change people, so you must first change your plan of action by getting rid of them for good!

The longer you leave it, the worse it will become, and the harder it is to change your mindset.

Two: Learn to make passive income

Life and work are uncertain.

We don’t know what’s around the corner, and it most likely will be another Covid variant that leaves us homebound — or perhaps without an income anymore.

These are scary times because lockdown doesn’t allow a lot of potential work offerings, although it does depend on your profession.

To counter-effect this problem, having streams of passive income you can rely on is the best way to overcome any income freezes.

There are so many potential openings everywhere, but it’s best to stick to something you are interested in and have some decent skills to back you up (or be willing to learn).

This could be digital products, courses or affiliate marketing.

I would recommend starting something low-key, which doesn’t require a lot of capital.

Stick to one thing and keep at it until you work out how to make money.

Invest your time in devouring all that you can online. There is always a free source of information if you know where to look — and look long and hard enough.

It’s not easy, but you will develop more and more knowledge and skills over time. That can be great for any future endeavours.

Sometimes we forget to appreciate the wonder of sticking power.

Having the guts to stick with something, even though it’s not working, will set you apart from many people.

Learning to make a passive income is something you should work on outside of business hours.

Over time, you can make more money than your full-time job and allow the passive income to become your mainstream cash source.

You get your freedom and time back and will probably be a lot happier!

Three: Don’t put all your eggs in one basket

That goes for investments, passive income streams and money.

Never entirely rely on one source of anything — have options & flexibility, which will give you a lot more leverage to cope with a downturn.

This also holds in the workplace.

Make sure you have your eyes open for different opportunities to help you excel in your career or life.

Never settle comfortably in any situation because it can change in the future.

Always keep an open mind, build relationships, and regularly update your LinkedIn profile. You never know when it might be helpful!

Four: Keep your heart where it belongs

Too many people expose the goodness of their generosity by leaving a window to their hearts open to anyone.

Most people like to stomp all over it when given a chance.

I like to see my heart with two strings.

One side attached to me, and one to other people.

I like to save some for myself, not out of selfishness but necessity.

People might let you down, and you have to be ready for that.

Don’t hold your expectations too high with anyone.

It’s a lot of pressure to put on human beings, as we’re not perfect.

Everyone makes mistakes, and that includes us.

So, keep your heart in its place, but also let some of it loose — just don’t let it go 100% because it will take too long to come back.

Five: Think long and hard before you have a child with someone

Children are hard work, and it doesn’t take much to instil bad habits in them.

Seeing parents fight or not get along is one thing, not to mention a breakdown in family dynamics.

Kids don’t get the choice as to whether they want to come to this world.

That means as parents; we’re obligated to give them the best we can — without spoiling or sheltering them too much.

The person you marry or have a child with can make or break foundational parenting dynamics.

If you don’t share the most fundamental values, your kid will become confused and perhaps make wrong decisions.

It doesn’t take much these days to have a dysfunctional kid.

Social media and obsessions with devices will do enough of that.

It’s up to the parents to care enough to agree on non-negotiable subjects and stick to their guns.

Kids can break you, but you have to be stronger together. One parent on either side of the stadium with different views just doesn’t work.

Rearing children in the best way possible should be a high priority on every parent’s list.

Six: Spend time doing what you love — if not all the time

Without a doubt, if you love what you do, you won’t need to motivate yourself continuously.

Being engrossed in a labour of love is what makes life just that little bit more worthwhile.

If you aren’t doing something you love, ask yourself why.

Why are you grinding it out without any passion or love for what you do?

Are you living by your terms or that of someone else’s?

I don’t know what your situation is, but we all have a gift, and usually, when we spend our time doing that very thing, something magical comes over us.

Isn’t that feeling something you’d like to have all the time?

What’s stopping you from doing that as an offside passion?

Paint, draw, create apps, garden, or do anything you love.

Although many people think fulfilment is doing what we love all the time. For some people, that might not be realistic — right now.

But if you spend a little bit more time engaging in what you love, giving it everything you’ve got, then who knows what the future holds.

Takeaways

Adulting is a challenging and sometimes painful progression.

Sometimes we can’t help but make the wrong decision.

Unfortunately, we’re not given a guidebook on adults a lot better. That comes with making mistakes and doing what we can to correct them as we go along.

Although it hurts initially, one thing is for sure —somehow, things work out in the end.

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