5 Ways to Seize the Moment and Live Without Regrets

Samara is a colleague at work. She's one of the lovely women I know. She is always smiling and has an encouraging voice to give.

You really are the kind of woman you want to talk to on days when you feel like life has taken a toll on you, because you always have something comforting to say. As we got closer, I told her more and more about the challenges I was facing in my life.

I thought his life must be perfect because he has inner strength.

But I was wrong.

One day I noticed that she had a sad face. That was strange because Samara was like the sun itself. However, his sad face did not last, and he soon smiled again at his signature.

But I was not deceived. I knew in her heart that she was in pain, so I asked her what was wrong.

He first smiled and said that everything was fine. But I insisted that she tell me my heart. He looked me in the eye, thanked me for his care, and then dropped the bomb.

“My six-year-old daughter has been in critical condition for the past six months because of my negligence. I saw him yesterday and his condition seems to be getting worse. I think he is going to die. ”

For a moment, I could not speak. I was shocked.

"I'm so sorry," I muttered, trying not to let him see how shocked I was by the shocking news I had just heard.

He explained to me that six months ago, he had stopped at a store to get a few things. And because she was in a hurry, she had left her daughter in the car with the engine running. Her daughter was able to put the gear in and the car sped off, crashed directly into an oncoming trailer, and was seriously injured.

Tears welled up in my eyes as she related this terrible story to me.

He assured me that he had forgiven me and that instead of regretting it, he thanked me for the six years he spent with his daughter.

I remember feeling embarrassed every time I argued over the little things that, because of what I had just heard from Samara, now seemed less important.

My marriage did not work out the way I wanted it to and every day I always regretted marrying my husband. I made a change of job, which turned out to be a very bad decision, and I could not forgive myself.

I realized that I was spending most of my time living on all the mistakes I had made in the past. I spend a lot of time regretting things I can't change. I spend a lot of time wishing things were different. I spend a lot of time beating myself up for what I did.

In the years that followed, I resolved to live a simple life, without regrets. Here are five ways I have learned to do that:

1. Live your life with purpose.

I realized that my job was doing badly because I had no work plan. I had just gone through my days with nothing to look forward to, so my life was a mess.

Be willing to live a focused life. Today, move on to one thing you want to achieve in your life and create a plan to achieve it.

2. Stop making excuses.

I blamed everyone for the way my life turned out. I blamed my husband for the failure of my marriage and blamed my boss for not promoting me.

I am responsible for my own life and not someone else's. Instead of making excuses, I need to take responsibility.

It doesn't matter what the obstacles are in your life. You can achieve almost anything if you put your mind to it. Helen Keller and Jon Morrow are examples of those who found success despite physical limitations.

Look inside you. Something is waiting to be sprayed. Find out what that thing is and do it, without excuses.

3. Choose not to be a victim.

At one point, I thought I had ruined my life so much that there was no reason to try to fix things. So I stopped trying. I was constantly criticizing my mistakes every day and got deeper.

None of this helped me. I started to make progress when I accepted my mistakes, determined not to repeat them, and started to chase after my dreams.

Life is not good for any of us. There will be storms and you will make mistakes. But be prepared to wake up often as life pressures you down. Forgive yourself, learn lessons, and continue working for your goals.

The more time you spend feeling sorry for yourself, the less time you have to spend following the life of your dreams.

4. Stop comparing yourself with others.

I never stopped comparing myself with others. Everyone seemed happier than I was, their marriage seemed better, and I seemed to be the only person with an unsatisfactory job.

This made me feel even worse. I wondered what others were doing to me. Their progress in life seemed to dampen my spirits.

In time, I came to realize that comparing myself with others was one of the biggest mistakes anyone could make. No matter who you are or where you find yourself in life, always remember that you have your own unique way of going.

Never compare yourself, your problems, with your journey to someone else, because that could interfere with your own.

We are all different. Forget about others and focus on fulfilling your life dreams.

5. Take action now.

After setting my own career plan, I lacked the courage to follow my plan. I wasted a lot of time because I was afraid I would fail and I didn’t have the courage to start. So I kept pushing things.

Ironically, many people seem to think that the future is better than today. We set aside those priorities and falsely claim that we will.