4 Tips for an Inner Change

If you expect someone to accept you "as you are," then you're a lazy idiot. Because, as a rule, "as you are" is a sad picture. Change, you bastard. It's working on you. Or die alone. "

Faina Ranevskaia

This woman always said things by name. But despite this truth, there is one that psychologists talk about and that we have written about repeatedly. You have to accept your body as it is today. Change and accept yourself as you are - these truths do not contradict each other. You just have to understand what you have to change and what you have to accept.

If the man is short or tall - these are characteristics that cannot be changed. But vices, such as smoking, should not be tolerated and accepted. Character traits need to be changed. Visions, priorities, attitudes toward things, people, and situations can all change over time. Life can be changed. Nowadays, physical appearance can also change. If you think about it, there aren't that many things that can't be changed and you have to resign yourself.

If you don't like your way of life or a certain side of it, admit that only your passivity has brought you to this state of affairs. Change is beginning right now.

# 1 Let the changes come into your life

First of all, you have to decide what you want to change.

Ask yourself a simple question: what will my life be like in a year (2, 3, 5 years) if I don't change anything? Specify who will surround you? What emotional and physical state will you be in? See the whole picture.

Now ask yourself the same question, imagining that starting today will change your life. In that case, what picture do you see around you in a few years?

Now compare the two images and make a decision - whether or not to make a change. If you are not satisfied with life in 5 years, it will only be a consequence of the fact that now you have not assumed the responsibility. By the way, lack of action is also a choice that you are prone to make out of fear of responsibility. So you won't be able to hide in the trenches.

# 2 Declares war on vices

For a start, she's working on changing her character traits - it's a complicated task. Free your life from addictions and addictions of any kind. Quit smoking and alcohol, learn to spend less time on the Internet, go to bed earlier, consume less sugar, etc. You know what harmful habits are specific to you. So - STOP IT.

# 3 Organize a day of silence

You have all the answers to your inner questions. Sometimes it is enough to try to perceive them. But it's not that simple when you're absorbed in the hustle and bustle of everyday life, when the brain doesn't have a moment's respite, when we don't have time to dwell on our thoughts, we don't listen to our inner voice. Or she can whisper to us what, how and when we have to do. This is why if you are on the path to change and self-development, you will need to learn how to hear yourself. To do this, avoid communicating with all people for at least one day a week and do a digital detox. Catch your life wave. Ask yourself questions like:

● do I live the life I want?

● Can I call myself a happy person?

● I deal with what I like?

● Do the people I love surround me?

● When was the last time I had inner peace, harmony, security, and calm?

● What can I change to try those sensations as often as possible?

On this day you will see eloquently how many useless thoughts are running through your mind, how many vain relapses are draining your emotional resources, how much time you spend on useless things… don't be afraid to see them all. To identify them, to make them aware, to be terrified, and to want a change. This is a colossal step towards real change.

# 4 Find your mission in life

Often "depressions" (those types that can be taken in quotes), the crisis of middle age are related to the loss of meaning in life. As abstract and philosophical as it may seem at first glance, at a certain stage of development man desperately needs a sense of life.

Find him. Or rather, make it. This must be a great idea, which will benefit many people. When a person begins to share his or her time, knowledge, and abilities with others sincerely and utterly disinterestedly, it gives you wings, takes you out of any "depression," and helps you breathe freely.

Write on a piece of paper: "My mission in life is next" and listen to your inner voice, see what you want to complete? If you find the meaning of life, your life will change for the better, no doubt about it.

Arm yourself patiently to accept what you cannot change and wisely to learn to distinguish these things.