WHY MEN DELAY GETTING MARRIED

1) FEAR (MARRIAGE PHOBIA)

Many bachelors actually fear Marriage

They fear the financial responsibilities that come with Marriage. spending on her, and then when the kids come, extra demands on him. Local man cannot can.

They fear the emotional responsibilities, tell her you love her everyday, take her out on dates, kiss her daily, be responsible and accountable to her, forgive her, it's all too much for them to handle

While some Men fear Marriage because of the things they've heard or seen, maybe their father or a close friend of theirs had a bitter marriage experience

2) THEY DON'T WANT TO LOSE THEIR FREEDOM

They know they may not be able to hang out with the guys on Friday night as before.

They will be expected not to go anywhere without her knowledge,

They know they won't be be able live carefreely as they were doing before as bachelors and they still value that freedom above all.

3) NO NONEY

Among this category are two types.

✔ The ones who have nothing at all to use in doing wedding, and then running a home after

Even her bride price they can't afford with their current account balance, so they're still single or engaged, they are currently working hard and saving money toward their marriage, with plans to quit bachelorhood soon.

✔ The ones who have money, have a good job with a good salary, even accommodation, but they want to be millionaires first, buy car, buy land and build house before they now settle down. (of course this is stupidity.)

4) THEY ARE NOT READY TO QUIT MESSING AROUND (PLAY BOYS)

They are still busy sampling ladies, playing around wiyu Ada, Juliet, Zara, Shade and 20 other ladies.

They don't want Marriage to slow down or hamper their philandering.

5) STILL SEARCHING

This one's haven't seen the one yet.
Among them are;

👉 THOSE who honestly haven't found the bone of their bones and are still searching,
These ones are praying and waiting to hear God.

Amongst those who are praying, there are the ones that God hasn't answered yet, and the ones that God has answered, but they are not understanding.

👉 THOSE who have seen, plenty ladies around them, but they are too picky, forgetting that nobody is perfect, physically and character wise, so they are still searching for the perfect one. We wish them luck.

6) SPIRITUAL PROBLEM

Yup, some guys are always having Issues finding and sustaining a relationship, anyone they propose to ends up leaving them no matter how nice they are to her, something must happen to scatter their relationship.

Either due to sins they COMMITTED or sins they INHERITED.

These ones need to come to God, get saved and set free.

AND LASTLY

7) THE MARRIED BACHELORS (COHABITERS)

Thsese ones aren't married, but their girlfriend/fiance lives with them,
she cooks, sweeps, washes, she even gives him sex 24/7

So he sees no reason to get married, some eventually even start having kids, yet no bride price paid, and no marriage in sight for the poor lady.
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Dear lady,
When dating a Young Man, and he is delaying, find out why. So you can know what to do, to contribute, assist him with advice, wait, or find your level.

Mat God help our Brothers.
May they not delay themselves unnecessarily.

Here's a short story exploring some reasons why men might delay marriage:
The crisp autumn air nipped at Ben's nose as he stared out the cafe window. Across the street, a couple strolled hand-in-hand, their laughter echoing down the cobblestone street. A pang of envy, sharp and unexpected, pierced through him. He was 32, successful in his career, yet marriage felt like a distant, unattainable dream.
Why did it feel so hard?
* Career Ambitions: Ben, like many men his age, felt a deep-seated pressure to establish himself professionally before committing. The fear of financial instability loomed large, making the idea of supporting a family seem daunting.
* Finding "The One": In a world of dating apps and fleeting connections, finding a true, lasting partner felt like searching for a needle in a haystack. The pressure to settle down clashed with the desire for genuine, meaningful connection.
* Shifting Social Norms: The traditional timeline of marriage – finish school, find a job, get married, have kids – felt increasingly outdated. Men were exploring different paths, prioritizing travel, personal growth, and finding their own definition of success.
* Fear of Commitment: The weight of lifelong commitment, the potential for compromise, and the fear of losing independence all contributed to a sense of apprehension.
Ben sighed, the warmth of his coffee a poor substitute for the warmth of companionship. He knew deep down that marriage wasn't about a timeline, but about finding the right person. Maybe, just maybe, he needed to stop searching and start living – and let love find him.
Disclaimer: This is a fictional story and may not reflect the experiences of all men.