LEARN GAME

LEARNING THE COLD APPROACH

Cold approach is when you talk to a girl that you don’t know at all in a public space. Imagine going up to a cute girl at a grocery store, bookstore, street and starting a flirty conversation. That’s cold approach.

Cold approach is difficult that’s why most guys don’t do it but you are not most guys. The first challenge you must overcome is building your immunity to rejection. All else flows from that critical initial step. Immunity comes with repeated exposure.

More than anything else, beginners need to OVERCOME FEARS through action. “Feel the fear and do it anyway” is real advice, and it’s really important for men much more than for women, since men need to create value, and women need to protect their value and as a man, the more you can break through fears, achieve new & difficult things and reach higher levels of competence and skill –THAT’S where a lot of our self-love and internal validation comes from.

Learning game and cold approach has helped me tremendously with my self confidence –which has helped me like myself more. And this new skill and self- confidence has brought many new girls into my life –which has also helped me like myself more.

“Confidence is overrated. Confidence is just another word for repetition and skill. You don’t need confidence, you need ACTION. And then you need to repeat the action until you feel confident about what you are doing” - Yohami

Beginners – when you approach a girl don’t try to be confident. The most important thing you want to be is INDIFFERENT.

Your attitude: I don’t care if I fail. I don’t care if she ignores me or if I get her number. I’m just going to talk to her because every girl is practice.

The attitude you want to project is SELF AMUSEMENT. Go into the approach thinking: What am I going to say to this girl to make myself laugh? I don’t care if she likes it or not, if she takes as a compliment or as an insult. I’m just going to have fun.

You want to create a vibe of PLAYFUL CONFLICT. A great way to do this is to push pull her – a tease followed by a compliment.

If you only compliment her on the approach, you’ll come off as too predictable and too boring. When you PUSH PULL her, you come off as more intriguing, more discerning, more demanding. You show her that you’re a man of high standards

The first four things you need to master are:

1. A killer yadstop, like superman stopping a train

2. Coming off as very strong and forceful

3. Coming off as being very sexual

4. Coming off as totally indifferent of her opinion of you, completely unafraid,

no fear in your eyes, just “bulletproof” to what she thinks of you.

I pick these four because for most of us, who comes from this “nice guy” mentality, all our lives we have been hiding our cocks, being too polite and considerate, not wanting to show sexual intent, not wanting to offend her, not wanting to scare her off, etc – it is of course the wrong way to go – that is what red pill teaches us – but the only real way, or at least the quickest way, to get out of that bad mindset is to take it too far, go to the other extreme, and then over time calibrate back to something more sophisticated, nuanced and subtle.

I wouldn’t be worried about coming off as too intense, or too weird, or scaring her – the goal is to get in touch with your masculine sexual intent, your masculine core and masculine drive, because that’s what’s been missing all these years.

Really get in touch with your masculine core, because that is the foundation. After that, build on top of that, stack on top of that, with excellent cold reads, excellent push pull, excellent frame control, excellent storytelling, great logistics and sharing an emotional connection and knowing when to escalate etc – but it all starts with having a rock hard masculine foundation to build on.

That’s why if I am teaching a newbie game, the first thing I would do is put him in a boxing match, telling him to come off strong, to overdo it, to come off as a man of authority, a man of high importance, a man who is used to standing tall and ordering people around.

You got to start off by overdoing it, by taking it too far, by really developing your masculine presence in front of pretty girls.

The bottom line, taking it to red pill territory, is girls *love* to be bossed

around by strong, powerful, important men. It makes them wet like nothing else. (Well the only thing that makes them more wet is knowing you fucked hotter girls, or the social proof pre selection of seeing you with hotter girls, but now I’m getting of topic.)

So yeah developing your masculine core and presence is the #1 thing a man needs to learn.

Clearly if you are very good looking, or tall and muscular, it’s much easier to pick up girls, but my guess is most guys are not that, that’s why we are in the manosphere learning.

So, to recap:

1- Killer yadstop

2- A strong, masculine vibe – a killer yadstop does this, also you don’t talk to

her until you have eye to eye contact. That’s important. Stop her like a cop, then deep eye contact, *then* start talking to her

3- Sexual vibe right off the bat. This is obviously a vibe, but it’s great to reinforce it with sexual spike within the first 30 second to a minute. Boom! You aren’t the average nice guy afraid to show your cock. You are a real man, a confident man. The best sexual spike is something like “you have nice legs I got distracted for a second” or even something more basic like “you have pretty eyes”. You’ve got to go sexual right from the beginning. Later you can let your eyes and swagger do more of the work, but you’ve got to get over your fear of coming off as sexual or rather the fear is being afraid of coming off as a pervert, weirdo, etc. fuck that. You are a sexual man, with a big beautiful cock. You are her dream come true, because she is a horny girl dying to be manhandled by a real man. Her dream is to get facefucked, dominated and abused. She just finished reading 50 shades of grey and wants to get tied up and spanked. Are you man enough to do that to her? That is what she is thinking, even if she doesn’t realize it.

4- Completely unafraid of her. That comes off already partially from #3, with sexual spike and the eye fucking, but to really make it clear, you push pull her or even neg her. Come up with teases. If she is tall, tell her she is tall like a giraffe. Ha! When was the last time a tall, beautiful girl was called a giraffe? Never! So immediately she gets wet. Who is this guy comparing me to a giraffe, instead of kissing my ass, buying me expensive gifts? He must be a stud who gets hotter girls than me. That’s her thinking. I started using this line on dark skins, “I usually prefer light skin girls, but something about you caught my eye” if she’s light I usually prefer dark skins – boy does that get their attention. You got to do something like that within the first minute too, to really stand out and get her attention.

Okay that’s the recap. The new stuff:

5- You’ve got to have that twinkle in your eye. A sexual twinkle. Like you know she is desperate for big dick, that’s why she put on that red lipstick this morning, like you two share an inside joke and also smile. Don’t come off as too serious. That’s almost in direct contradiction to point #2 (strong, masculine vibe), that’s why cold approach is not easy, you got to do so much in the first 30 seconds, or first 5 seconds, it takes a lot of practice to calibrate it correctly – plus every girl needs something slightly different – but I am getting ahead of myself. That is more intermediate level of daygame. But yeah, smile, with your eyes mostly. Have that twinkle. You are approaching her to make her day. She wore that sexy skirt *hoping* that a strong, confident, sexual man would approach. She appears sweet and nice, but boy is she a dirty little whore on the inside.

6- You got to really get good at cold reading. That’s a whole topic in itself. At observing and noticing. You get better with practice.

7- You got to get good at “diffusing” the oddness of the situation. When you approach, many girls will think wtf is going on. If she thinks this, and a lot do even if they don’t verbalize it, I really try to “level with them” and say, “Hey I know this is odd, but I prefer meeting a girl and seeing her as she really is”, something like that. This point is actually one I’m still working on, and that I don’t see discussed enough in the manosphere, how to diffuse. Maybe if she thinks you approaching her Is too weird, then it’s a lost cause, she just isn’t interesting enough.

Don’t worry about ‘she looks busy’ or ‘I am interfering with her day’. She wants you to interfere. The whole act of being a man is to penetrate her day, her mind, her body. She’s on your side, hoping you are that guy she’s been waiting for all this time.

You need to be raising your state and loosening your inhibition, so make your jog loose and playful. Pretend you are thinking of a private joke so a smirk crosses your face. Look at her ass, watch her walk, feel the desire to fuck her

You fully intend to command this woman’s attention. Commit to it. Your body language and eye contact are what will freeze her to the spot, not the words.

She will notice your shoes, she will notice your looks, watch, height, build, haircut, clothes and posture.

She will notice many things about you, but more than anything else, she will notice how you look deep into her eyes with rock solid IDGAF energy and she will love it.

Your body language, eye contact, and voice tonality are what she will mostly notice. In other words, the sum of radiating masculine energy.

This is her chance to meet you. You aren’t sold, you are merely interested in what you’ve seen so far and wish to find out more. This screening frame is where you are finding out about her.

The big upside is the fact you are encountering girls in real environment.

COLD APPROACH ACTION TIP

1. Yadstop 2. Cheeky grin 3. Strong eyes 4. Talk slowly

“Hey, you looked nice from afar, but I had to come get a closer look” is a great opening line. Feel free to borrow it.

Here is an example of making conversations when you approach:

Me: Excuse me, can I just tell you one thing really quickly.

I just saw you walking by and I thought you looked really nice, so I wanted to come over and say hello.

Her: Oh Hi

Me: I will tell you what I noticed about you. You look like an igbo girl. Her: I’m Yoruba

Me: Perhaps, but you look igbo. I think it’s the light skin, wide eyes, and neat clothes.

Her: Yes. But I’m Yoruba

Me: Then that means you like beans and pepper

Her: Haha (etc)....

Did I ever tell you why to assumption stack? (You will learn more insight on this on frame control) In the beginning you both have nothing to talk about so you have to create something out of nothing.

The whole point is to get into a conversation –find a subject to talk about. Naturally you’ll talk about her because that’s what you’re interested in. so you make an assumption (I recommend where she’s from) and then tell her three reasons why based on three things you can see. Make the last one a little tease to show a little backbone, a little push to perk her interest.

If your assumption gets any traction at all, no matter if you were right or wrong, stick with it. Use that as the topic. Many guys get too excited about their creativity and keep making too much assumptions. No no no. you aren’t trying to impress her, you are trying to get into a conversation with her. Less is more. Once you have gotten where she’s from, it’s easy to then list three things you heard about her place... make them borderline racist stereotypes.

Just stick with the stereotypes that comes into your head. So long as you deliver it playfully and drag it slowly then she’ll laugh. If you’re stuck, go to The Emergency Togan stack:

My mum told me to be careful of girls from [state].

She said three things. They are all beautiful... good cooks... and sex maniacs.

Well, those are my points on cold approach. Like I said, this is the foundation.

Having said that, learning cold approach is NOT easy. In fact, it’s really hard. I’ve seen tough guys, ripped body builders and really handsome guys struggle with their fear of getting rejected by pretty girls in full public view. It’s a special type of ego challenge.

If you get her number, the vibe is good and later plan a date, On the date, hit these 5 notes

1- Playfully dominant.

I show her authority over her world. She enters my world. I tease, touch, give her a nickname. We have fun. I’m not too formal

2- Sincere and authentic.

I share a story about a past struggle I overcame with courage, talent and faith 3- Ambitious.

I have big dreams for the future. I am bold, optimistic, indomitable

4- Sexual/lustful.

I keep strong, playful eye contact and do at least one verbal “sexual spike” to reinforce the vibe. I don’t hide that I’m a man, she’s a woman and she inspire me with her beauty

5- Standards &snowflake.

I have high standards, her looks are not enough to win me over. I ask her probing insightful questions. She needs to prove herself. I get to know her in a playful way, but always judging whether she is worth my time. This is basis of my push/pull vibe.

As I prove I have high standards – that her looks are not enough – and as she shares more aspect of her personality, character, achievements, activities – then I can approve of her, that makes her feel special. That’s snowflaking her.