7 Reasons Why Men Shouldn’t Take Dating Advice from Women

Women Say One Thing—But Choose the Opposite

Have you ever wondered why the guys who do everything "right" get ignored—while the men that women claim to "hate" always seem to win?

That's because women don't know what makes a man attractive. They experience attraction but can't logically explain it—so when they give dating advice, they unknowingly mislead you.

Here's the cold truth: If you follow women's dating advice, you're setting yourself up for failure. Instead, learn what works by avoiding these seven dating myths women keep pushing.

1. Women’s Advice Sounds Nice—But It Doesn’t Work

Women aren’t lying to you when they say things like:

✔️ “Just be yourself, the right one will come.”

✔️ “Be a gentleman, and she’ll appreciate it.”

✔️ “I don’t like jerks, I want a guy who listens.”

But if that advice worked, why do so many “nice guys” get ignored?

Because what women say and what they respond to are two different things.

Women don’t chase the guys who worship them. They fall for the men who:

✔️ Challenge them instead of pleasing them.

✔️ Show confidence and mystery—not emotional overexposure.

✔️ Make them work for their attention instead of handing it over.

Women give advice based on what sounds good—not what works in real life.

2. Women See Dating Through Their Lens—Not Yours

A woman can open a dating app and get 50+ matches overnight. A man, on the other hand, has to earn attention.

Yet women will still say:

“Just be patient, the right one will come.”

“You don’t need to change; someone will love you as you are.”

That’s easy to say when you’re the one being pursued.

Reality check: A man who “just waits” will get left behind. In dating, men compete—women choose.

If you listen to a woman’s advice, you’ll stay passive while other men take action.

3. Women’s Advice Makes You Weaker—Not Stronger

Most of the advice women give men turns them into submissive, predictable, “nice guys.”

• “Tell her how you feel!” → Wrong. Attraction builds through tension and mystery, not oversharing.

• “Always be there for her.” → Wrong. Women don’t respect men who make themselves too available.

• “Put her first, and she’ll appreciate it.” → Wrong. Women admire men they pursue, not men they can control.

Men who follow this advice end up friend-zoned.

The men women truly desire are:

✔️ Leaders.

✔️ Decisive.

✔️ Men with their mission—who don't revolve around her.

Follow women’s dating advice, and you’ll be the perfect friend—not the man she craves.

4. Women’s Advice Protects Their Ego—Not Your Success

Women don’t want to admit they’re drawn to:

✔️ Dominant, confident men.

✔️ Men with options.

✔️ Men they have to earn.

That’s why their advice is designed to:

• Protect their social image (“I don’t like guys who play games!”).

• Keep them in control (“Men should always make the first move.”).

• Avoid accountability (“It’s men’s fault relationships fail.”).

Women aren’t trying to help you win. They’re trying to keep the game rigged in their favor.

5. Women Find 80% of Men Unattractive—Their Advice Keeps You in the 80%

Stats don’t lie: Women rate 80% of men as below average in attractiveness.

That means most men are already at a disadvantage. If you take the same generic, “be a gentleman” advice that 80% of men follow, you’re guaranteeing yourself a spot in the forgettable majority.

The top 20% of men—the ones women chase—don't take women's advice. Instead, they:

✔️ Lead, not follow.

✔️ Build their value instead of waiting to be chosen.

✔️ Prioritize self-respect over blind devotion.

Women don't chase men who make it too easy. They crave rare, dominant, and high-status men.

6. Women’s Advice Is Based on Feelings—Not Results

Women give dating advice based on:

✔️ What sounds socially acceptable (not what works).

✔️ What they wish would work (not what they respond to).

✔️ How they feel in the moment (not long-term success).

Attraction isn’t logical—it’s instinctual.

If you listen to what women say instead of watching what they do, you’ll keep playing a losing game.

7. The Men Who Win in Dating Don’t Listen to Women—They Watch Them

Ask yourself: Who gets more women?

• The guy asking women what they want?

• Or is the guy paying attention to what works?

The men who win in dating don’t listen to what women say—they observe them. They notice the patterns. They refine their approach based on behavior, not words.

Women don’t fall for men who ask for permission. They fall for men who understand the game.

Final Thoughts: Stop Asking—Start Winning

If you keep listening to women’s advice, you’ll stay stuck in the same cycle—hoping, waiting, and losing.

Instead, watch what women do, not what they say.

If you want real success in dating, learn from men who've mastered attraction. Understand what works.

Stop asking. Start winning.