The Truth About Being Engaged

So I'm engaged and people have lied about how it really is. There is so much people don't tell you. People will tell you that this is the most amazing time of your life. Let me tell you the truth of my journey and others.

People may get jealous of you. They may be jealous that you are getting married or that you're getting all the attention. This you will just have to work through. Try to include them and make them feel special.

You're not guaranteed to have warm, happy, encouraging friends and family. Some of my family and friends are happy but some could care less. Every time I mention something I get an eye roll or "This is your day, do what you want." My family and friends are no help and I am two seconds from either running away and eloping or just saying okay, if no one cares I'll stay engaged forever. This is why I am writing this post because I'm just so annoyed that I'm on my own for this. I'm also writing this so people aren't surprised when they get a similar reaction from their loved ones.

You may break up or threaten to several times. I think that this is the main reason my man of honor is so skeptical to even help me plan this wedding. I am too because the stress of everything I've got going on and wedding planning is getting to me. It puts a strain on you and if you have already had problems in the relationship, the stress will cause you to be like "What in the actual hell am I doing? I don't want to get married." I've been there a few times and it's not that I don't love my fiancee, it's just the stress talking.

You may change your mind on EVERYTHING. You may even change your mind on the person. I thought I wanted different shades of my colors. I have like six or seven places that I like that I'm not 100 percent sure of. You will change your mind a lot and then second-guess your decision. So make sure and take your time on planning. There is no rush.

You may call it off and that's okay. I haven't called it off but I know people who have and people think there is such shame in it, but there's not. Which would you rather have, a divorce or a broken engagement? Just because you are engaged doesn't mean you have to get married.

People who get engaged after you may get married before you. My cousin just got engaged and she's getting married before me even though she got engaged months after I did. I'm not mad because she's a different person than me and our paths are different. I have to write and do other things to make money for the wedding and she is lucky just to have the one job.

It's overwhelming and you need help planning everything. You have to plan the wedding you want but you can listen to others about what to do next. You will have people crap all over your plans. I finally picked my venue and my grandma kept saying that it's too far away. I also have to remember that according to this grandma, something that is 30 minutes away is far away.

People may make you feel guilty for things during this process; they may make you second-guess what you want. Remind them nicely that this is your wedding. They may suggest things that will be out of your budget, but you have to remember it's your day. I had to remind several people this is my day and my money they are spending.

Just remember that it's your journey and no one can tell you how to do this. People will lie to you and not tell you everything about being engaged. If you don't get married after getting engaged, that's fine, you will find a way to get over it. You may even find that the person you are engaged to now isn't for you and that you may be meant for someone else. In the end, it will work itself out. You may even realize that you don't want to get married and that's okay too. Enjoy this time and have fun planning.