IS MARRIAGE COUNSELING GOOD OR BAD?
Don't Be Afraid Of Healthy Marriage or Relationship Counseling.
Let's first take a look at what is marriage counseling. Couples who are in need of assistance generally turn to marriage therapy, which is a form of joint counseling. The fact that two married people participate in each session sets it apart from other forms of treatment.
Many therapists believe that marriage counseling is the most challenging therapy to implement, particularly with couples who are upset, and angry, and use the therapy as a way to discredit their partner. "Couples regard the procedure as a court and the counselor as a judge who would hopefully straighten out their partner," but this is not the goal of marriage counseling.
And I can say that because I've been a marital counselor and have had counseling myself when I've needed it for my own relationship. As I mentioned in the previous paragraph, it's really not a simple task, and it's not pleasant to be on the other side of the desk. However, fantastic things start to happen over time when the correct counselor is involved, and when both partners see the worth of the treatment, these great things can improve the marriage.
Marriage counseling's primary goal is to assist partners in identifying and resolving difficulties in order to strengthen their union. Couples that use it should be able to speak with more compassion and less fear, as well as develop constructive ways to solve problems and handle conflict.
Marriage counseling is not only for couples who are having relationship problems. In fact, if you act now rather than later when your marriage is falling apart, you might get a better outcome. Couples who just want to enhance their relationship and feel more connected to one another might benefit from marriage therapy.
I can't understand why some couples wait until things are at their worst before seeking marriage counseling and expecting things to get better right away, only for everything to fall apart totally or just become two persons sharing a home. So again don't wait until the relational home burns down and then call for help. When you first notice the smoke of continuing uncertainty, disagreement, and ineffective communication, get counseling.
Over the years, I've observed that many couples avoid counseling out of shame, fear, misunderstanding of the advantages of the additional insight provided by counseling, or the belief that serious issues can be resolved on their own.
Additionally, pride plays a role. I can recall several men telling me in the past that I don't need your advice on how to improve my marriage. Additionally, it was challenging to persuade the men to accept counseling, and in this day and age, women are actively avoiding help as well. I want to set the record straight and attempt to enlighten you so that you can see the value of having someone to help both of you navigate through the tough time in your marriage is a wonderful gift to have.
Most couples have a 50% risk of divorce, and subsequent marriages have an even higher divorce rate. Most people don't consider their likelihood of being divorced or the necessity for marriage counseling when they get married. But perhaps we ought to think about what we'll do if things get difficult in the future.
Due to this, couples should definitely consider seeking out marriage counseling. If you stop to think about it, advisors or counselors are present in many areas of life, including education, employment, and the government, particularly for those in positions of authority who are in charge of the nation's affairs, as well as in a variety of other sectors such as medicine and other professions. But when it comes to our marriages or relationships, we tend to keep them secret, not recognizing that many of the bigger issues are really being suppressed in preparation for another conflict when the time is perfect.
I encourage you to try to resolve minor conflicts within your relationship, but when it comes to major conflicts involving name-calling, leaving the home for a few days, going weeks without speaking to one another, lack of intimacy, or even just sleeping in different rooms of the house, we need dependable counselors to support us during the crisis. Never allow pride to get in the way, never be concerned with what others will think of you, and please refrain from talking to persons of the opposite sex to air your dirty laundry because this might lead to extramarital affairs.
Get premarital counseling if you're engaged or thinking about getting married so that you can adjust before the consummation of your union. Premarital counseling enables you to picture the future of the marriage. As a prerequisite for conducting the wedding, certain churches may demand premarital counseling and marriage education seminars. This is a fantastic chance to lay the groundwork for a life of commitment.
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Percy L Craine
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