You Shouldn’t Wait For People To Come Around To Enjoy Life

Every minute you spend wishing you had people to hang out with is minutes spent wasting your ability to be creative and test out your own adventures. I am starting to hear this saying a lot “I want to do this, but I don’t have anyone to do it with” or “I want to go here, but I don’t have anyone to go with” I hear this from people I know and see it in social media postings. I often see individuals stating that they are limited to do thrilling things because they don’t have friends or a lover to enjoy it with, but the enjoyment starts with yourself. When you relish in alone time, it can be rewarding.

When we want to explore the unique things this world has to offer, we feel that we need another person or multiple people around to enjoy it. Although we may want to try out new hobbies or go places, having another human by our side makes life a lot better. Our refusal to do things is based on the company we’re not surrounded by. If we want to go to a concert, we’ll probably want to go with a group of friends to jam with. If we want to go to the movies, we’ll probably want another person by our side to watch it and share popcorn with. Otherwise, we won’t go at all.

Our time alive is not infinite. It’s a journey that introduces itself and concludes itself. A new generation of humans is created every day to lay out a new future that we won’t be a part of. We aren’t dinosaurs living millions of years. We may be waiting around for decades for good company. By this time, we’ll be all bones or nonexistent. So why exactly do we wait as if we have forever instead of appreciating our company now? It’s simple. Our time around other human beings is what keeps us alive. The interaction makes us happy. Being alone may feel weird or perhaps being alone makes an individual think more, worry, become sad or stressed? Or when they’re in public, they may feel like an outcast that is displayed as a loner.

Everyone has their reasons, and I’m not saying being alone all the time is good either, but can you enjoy what life has to offer if you only rely on people's existence in your life? Wishing upon a star will only waste your time.

Our misery to be around someone to enjoy life taunts us into believing that we can’t have fun on our own. Our mind punctures us with incapabilities of what we can do alone and what we can’t do alone. Now there are some people out there who are completely sane in being alone with themselves, but there are also extroverts, for example, who may be more outgoing and prefer to be around people. Whether you’re an introvert or extrovert, go out there and live your life. When the world says no, it doesn’t mean you have to.

Loneliness doesn’t have to be seen as a bad thing if you learn how to appreciate it as a good thing. How about seeing it as a treat for yourself? Or self-care? Or even self-improvement? You’ll be taking that step to enjoying life for what it is despite the odds of doing things solo.

You can feel happier and more comfortable with being by yourself. I’m not saying that we don’t need interaction or intimacy with other people. This is crucial because we thrive to be surrounded by other people but even when you think you’re alone, you’re really not. People are around us wherever we go. Whether we know them or don’t know them. We thrive as tribes but cherishing life doesn’t always have to be with people.

Our friends, relatives, and partners will live different lives that may not always work around our schedules. How long are you going to keep waiting until you have that free time with them? The chances are the longer you wait for people is the less time you’ll have discovering the excitement of doing things now, without people.

I’m no genius at talking to people but hey, maybe even going out can help you brush up on your social skills. You could be greeting that same worker at the coffee shop, and the next minute, you are close friends. You could go to the gym and run into locals who workout every week, and the next minute they’re talking to you because you visit the gym the same time they do. Boom, there’s your new set of gym buddies. Small interactions like eye contact, smiling, waving, saying hello, and having small talk can make up for your alone adventures and maybe even get you more people to associate with.

The more you wait around for a crowd to join you, the less fun you’ll get to experience actually having time to yourself. I know being alone is overrated for being seen as the worst thing in the world and underrated for being seen as a worthy aspect of our lives. There will be days when we are surrounded by no one and there will be days when we are surrounded by everyone. What are you doing when no one’s around?

You’re not getting any younger so don’t be afraid to live a little while you still can.

Here’s a few subtle reminders to reflect on just in case you missed the point:

“The trick is to enjoy life. Don’t wish away your days, waiting for better ones ahead.” - Marjorie Pay Hinckley

“Sometimes you need to take a break from everyone and spend time alone, to experience, appreciate and love yourself.” - Robert Tew

“Change the way you think and you will enjoy every moment of life.” - Quote Hacks

“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.” - Hellen Keller