The imperfection of the world is a "perfect design".

Xiao An is an interior designer, while doing his own job, he must also help the technology company created by her husband to take care of the large and small business.

During the day, she compromises in front of clients, elders, work, money, socializing and bills, but she is not really "herself". At night, because she wants to get and is afraid of losing, she wants everything that makes her happy-real estate, fame, famous brands, friends, feelings, travel.

Recently, Xiao A has a new start-up project to develop, and his work often lasts until dawn. Finally want to go to bed, and insomnia.

On the spiritual level, she often worries and worries that she is not doing well enough and that everything has to be perfect.

In fact, the real culprit is Xiao A's perfectionism.

Xiao A's criterion for fulfilling the responsibility is "to be perfect". So even in the dead of night in the early hours of the morning, she is still troubled by affairs, can not really relax to lie down, of course, the waist will not be good.

The psychological motivation of perfectionism is "to be safe". This stems from the sense of uncertainty about the future-you need certainty to have sense of security, or you will be suffering from fear of tomorrow all the time.

Perfectionism is also a "psychic disease".

Perfectionism can be likened to a set of "virus programs". Its main tone is to do too many things you don't want to do, to be perfect in everything, and to have a "sense of completion". And this perfection does not come from the demands of others.

In Xiao A's work, she submitted the design plan, the customer is obviously very satisfied. But she asked to continue to revise, insisted on the value of 80 yuan to achieve the value of 100 yuan of things, but in the eyes of customers, or the value of 80 yuan.

If we list a mental disease, there can be about three categories--

Mania: out of control, runaway horse.

Depression: low mood, worrying too much.

Obsessive-compulsive disorder: how to force yourself to act.

Perfectionism is actually a kind of obsessive-compulsive disorder. It is not healthy to pursue unreasonable "perfection" too blindly.

Does the world have to be perfect?

For perfectionists, a basic truth to know is that the nature of our inner nature is perfect, so there is no need to pursue perfection.

And we, who are already perfect, deliberately play an imperfect game called reincarnation.

Perfectionism is not desirable because the world cannot and does not need to be perfect.

Because our external phenomena and forms are illusory projections, as impermanent as shadows. Birth, old age, sickness and death, living in a bad space, living and dying, are all illusions, continuous circulation, not eternity.

Therefore, the pursuit of perfection in the Dream is like cooking sand into cooked rice, which is useless and impossible.

A good dream or a nightmare is the same when you wake up, because it is a dream.

Imperfect is a kind of "perfect design"

And a rich heart can irrigate all perfection and imperfection. And can see: the so-called imperfection is also a kind of beauty-defect is beauty, uncertainty is beauty; see clearly is beauty, can not see clearly hazy is also a kind of beauty.

In this way, the pressure is relieved.

There is no need to pursue perfection, because it is already perfect.

We play a life game of "hide-and-seek"--

Deliberately hide the divinity and find it again.

From "not love" to find love again

Set out from the labyrinth and find the treasure.

Deliberate imperfection is the rule of the game, but behind it is the "perfect design": it is precisely because there can be no perfection outside that people finally return to themselves, see that "what is perfect is the soul, not the phenomenon", and harvest the treasure of the game.

Be able to tolerate the imperfections of the external "phenomenal world"

Then the mind shows "perfection".

If there must be an external "phenomenal world", it must be perfect.

His mind becomes "imperfect".

Lotus and Lotus Root

There are also some people whose perfectionism tends to come from the memory of the soul. In the depths of their hearts, they still remember in a trance that there is a state of life, far more harmonious than the world in front of them, with more joy and light.

This is like being a princess in a previous life, this life still carries some memories of the past and wants to live an extraordinary spiritual quality. Aristocrats tend to have perfectionism, taste, style, good use, there is no way to adapt to "vulgarity", neither vulgar nor vulgar.

The ancient monks pursued a realm: "share the same dust with the light". But if you are only willing to be "with the light" but not "with the dust", you will be allergic to the environment and can't help a little bit of dust, which is also a kind of perfectionism.

Such a soul is like a lotus flower, it can come out of the mud without being stained. The fact that this soul can grow from the earth and retain a piece of holiness shows that he has progressed to a certain extent.

In a more transcendental realm, the soul, like the lotus root, can enter the mud without decay. Lotus root can be mixed with rotten mud, not only will not be polluted, but also become stronger and stronger.

A lotus flower, even if it thinks it is otherworldly and makes every effort to maintain its own perfection and holiness, will inevitably wither and return to the mud, while the lotus root can spend the winter in the mud and grow and bloom again in the next cycle of life.

Blindly pursue perfection

Or blindly do not pursue perfection.

It's all a deviation.

The middle way is a more "perfect" realm.

Crack "perfectionism"

How to sort out the circular trap of perfectionism

When your heart is as rich as a spring, it is perfect and complete.

Perfection is measured by "essence" rather than "form".

How to crack the procedure of perfectionism

If the virus program is the "perfect time", the detoxification program is the "progressive tense"-from striving for perfect results to passionately involved in the process.

For example, make sure you get the best results before, but now you can try to be more engaged, creative and happy than you were last time.

How to have sense of security in the sense of uncertainty

Don't want too much. A heart like a dry well will grab a lot, but can never be satisfied.

Communicate with a higher level of self. This kind of communication can bring inspiration and information, constantly "connect" the source, and let the beacon of the source guide the course. This is called following the current with fate, the form is arranged by heaven, and the opportunity will occur naturally.

Let life "go into simplicity", and your state of mind will naturally go into peace and peace.

Go into destiny and focus on talent. To connect with your own destiny, follow the people, things, and things that you feel are full of vitality. From unwilling to do it, to willing to take the initiative to do it.

Act according to your heart and act according to your ability. Do what you like; do what feels valuable and good at it.