Self Grooming

Make the better version of yourself

how to groom yourself, how to develop confidence, how to make your personality presentable, how to keep yourself updated

I’ve always loved the good boys club. When I was a teenager it was hard for me to fit in with my peers because I had no idea of who I am yet at only 18 years old I quickly learned that I had already become their “type”.

You know when you have these amazing super cool friends and you never want to be seen as different and outcasted by them?

Yeah that’s exactly what happened to me. But even though some really cool guys like this have made it known to say ‘no thanks’ to my own self-confidence, there are still many boys who will do anything for you. And now I realize that the real question is why don’t we use technology? Why can’t the best versions of ourselves just live on Facebook and get updates from other people about how awesome they think they are? If we could all just go online and post our thoughts and photos we would lose so much respect to a whole new class of people all over again. It wouldn’t be fair for others to see your personality if you were just walking around with one big black sheet mask covering your face while hiding behind a computer screen. There would be no need for social media and no ‘me time’ either because of course it’s going to be impossible to pretend you don’t like something if you actually like it! All of the things you look up about on Facebook and Instagram are fake anyway! So it makes sense that we should use them and not put every tiny thing down on paper.

But the problem is that once your face has been covered from head to toe it becomes easier to hide behind a screen than to ever have any meaningful personal interaction with anyone else in life aside from those random ‘friends’ you’ve met online. Even if your friends and close family can see you, they will probably stop interacting with you after every five minutes or so. That is because they know they can easily forget you forever. Or it becomes easier to avoid you and have a normal conversation with someone they don’t fancy rather than having an honest chat with you instead. This leaves you feeling extremely uncomfortable in public places (especially after dark) and being able to hold off for a bit until you feel ready to do something interesting, even if that is your favorite meal for dinner.

In fact, a lot of your best qualities about yourself become overshadowed by your appearance on screen. Your body, hair, eye color, clothes — all of this is all designed to dazzle your fellow human beings and make your brand seem better the more times you post and comment on social media. You feel like you don’t deserve to be happy.

So why don’t we take on the responsibility of living our lives in front of the camera? Because if you don’t then no one else is going to and even if society tells us to spend an hour every day staring at screens that really isn’t spent talking to people or making friends with them after all.

We don’t want to ruin everything that we get to share together as humans. We have to learn to love each other enough to let each other be ourselves and in order for it to work we need to give ourselves permission to do so. Now before you start thinking, well of course most of us already do that but we don’t just sit at home and stare at our phones most of the day.

If you want to grow a certain skill or talent you have to dedicate time each week to learning so it doesn’t happen that way again. What do we do? Use technology and create platforms where we can share ideas, stories, and opinions and connect with people all over the world. Don’t allow the internet to define yourself but help bring forth the best version of yourself possible!

Who knows maybe one day you won’t hate yourself but you might find that you are happier now you have put time into improving your skills.