It's all going to work out in the end
Trusting the process will make the journey that much sweeter in the end.
When I was younger, I didn't fully understand the reasoning behind why something never worked out. I always took it as something like, "Well, the company didn't like me or they never responded back to me so there's that. I'll just apply elsewhere." I wish I could tell that little girl that everything happens for a reason and it may not have anything to do with you. It just might be what the company is looking for and the right timing.
Pinning down my exact thoughts and feelings on a certain issue was always something that I struggled with and even to this day it's hard. When I made the decision to end my contract job early, I knew that it was going to be difficult and that not having another job lined up was going to be a struggle. I'll be honest, the first days it was rough because it was like having a death in the family. You are so used to a certain rountine everyday and seeing the same people everyday, that once that goes away, it's almost too painful to see the next day.
I knew that I had to get up and start figuring out my next move and what I was going to do. After all, I had just moved back to Los Angeles and the reality of not working really started to sink in and having that comes to Jesus moment (if you will) that I needed to find a new job fast. I did not want to move back home to Texas ( I consider both Texas and LA home). Not that there is anything wrong with Texas- trust me I needed to be out in nature and having that sense of openness helped me so much during those first few weeks of having nowhere to go. I just feel for me Texas is like going a step backwards and not forward. It will always be my second home and when I need to clear my head and take a breather, I know I can always come to see my family, but LA was my first home and I feel that I was brought back here for a reason.
Figuring out my next move has been a step by step process and a journey that has had many hours filled of hope but also many trying hours filled with tears that have flown down my face like the Seine. I am so grateful for the beautiful people that I have in life that have given me advice and have listened to my endless rants. Some of this advice I truly have taken to heart and honestly I am a work in progress but these are a few of the tools and life hacks that people have given/told me. I think it helps but I'll let you be the judge in your own story.
LIFE HACKS
1. Trust the process- Now this is where I get maybe a little too honest but this is something that I struggle with the most. It is not hard for me to trust but putting your trust into something that you have no control over is something that I struggle with. You know the term "control freak"? Ya it was named after me, having control is what I do and when I lose that, I feel like I have no sense of me. Like a said, a work in progress and learning to let go and let life do it's thing works in mysterious ways.
2. Be patient- Another one that I struggle with and have been learning. Through my endless hours of crying bits to finding something to bring a smile to my face like the cast of Emily in Paris posting some spoilers (Team Erik and Sylvie) takes my mind off of my own crazy life. I have learned that when one thing does not go your way it happened for a reason and that it was God's way of protecting you. When that happens, I've learned that its ok and it wasn't meant to be. My perfect job is coming and it just means that I am one step closer to getting it.
3. Don't ever give up- One of my favorite quotes from one of the best MBA players of all time Mr. Kobe Byrant says, "We don’t quit, we don’t cower, we don’t run. We endure and conquer." I have sat with this quote a lot over the past few weeks, thinking about every single word and repeating them over and over again. There were days when I did not want to get out of bed and just watch Real Housewives of Dubai and Emily in Paris but I endured and conqured the day. I knew I had to get up and do the work to figure out my next move. Of course I wanted to give up when I wasn't getting anything back and I came so close to something once and felt like this was it but I knew that I had to keep going and while I am still actively looking, something will come to be. Kobe never gave up and neither will I.
This blog post is longer than I wanted it to be but those were three of the best lifehacks that people have given me and they are honestly the most that I take to heart. I hope they help you as well.
I appreciate you all letting be here- writing has become very therapeutic for me and it makes me happy to get to share. There is a light at the end of the tunnel for every hardship and knowing that the darkenss is only temporary gets me excited for the bright light waiting on the other side. It will all work out in the end.
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Kelley Misetich
LA Lady but my heart belongs somewhere in the magical land of Europe. How do you become the person you think you, but believe you were meant for something greater? Finding myself has been an enticing journey and one that is just beginning.
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