Why Won’t These N*ggas Go To Therapy

When I decided I wanted to start back blogging, I had a hundred ideas for topics. The day I decide to actually start, my mind of course goes blank. :)

For some reason the first thing that popped into my head was “these n*ggas need to go to therapy”. I was gonna move on to the next idea but dvsn’s “Do It Well” was playing in the background. Have you heard the song? He’s serenading this person by telling them that they’re the only therapy he knows. Now based on his current works, I would like to think he could have benefited from actual real life therapy 😭.

I bring this up to basically say it was fate for me to write this so don’t be mad at me, be mad at the stars. 😙

So I ask in all seriousness… what do they (they,being n*ggas, or for the uppity and dignified, Black Men) have against a little healing via a licensed mental healthcare professional? Do y’all remember, or were you even ever made aware, of the Black woman therapist who got FIRED over a TikTok addressing Black men? When I finally saw the video and what everyone was so upset over I was actually shocked. She said nothing derogatory. The woman was literally just suggesting that these mfs expand their emotional vocabulary to better communicate with their partners and the internet blew up. I really don’t get it.

For a demographic that considers themselves to be superior to mine, you would think they would be open to any opportunity to further their “value”. High value men don’t value emotional intelligence I guess 🤷🏾‍♀️

Some of this would be funnier if it wasn’t actually so sad. The things I’ve heard in my day to day dealings with n*ggas is that literally of a comedy show. Sometimes I’m looking around for the cameras like am I on an episode of Punk’d, or better yet, Boiling Point (I know I took it back with that one 😂)?? But seriously it’s nothing short of the classic “my grandma just died and I’m going through it” shit. It’s actually like my life is a Future meme.

If I was more invested I would start asking them to elaborate on their bullshit, but I already know I’ve heard it all before. Some girl (emphasis on girl because the story, 83% of the time, takes place in their adolescence) broke his heart and now he can’t trust women. 🙄Doesn’t want to take us out, doesn’t want to share personal tidbits, doesn’t want to open up their home, doesn’t want to commit … all because of what one person *supposedly* did. Like sir you are 35. At what point did you want to seek help?

A lot of what inspired this story definitely comes from my own experience with men romantically, but that’s not to negate what I see on a platonic and familial level as well. It’s actually sick the amount of babying and coddling I see, and sometimes partake in 🤢. We’ll get to that later, though.

I ask this question not out of curiosity, but out of damn near desperation. I like dating Black men, but it’s frustrating when the pool of them that won’t respond to this post with malice, but with an open mind is actually microscopic.

Every time I speak out on my experience there’s always some man trying to invalidate MY OWN FEELINGS! This is not the place to do that. My blog = my opinions. My blog also = FOR BLACK WOMEN! I don’t care about what anyone else has to say on this topic 😘

If you’re still reading this, you’re 600 words into my first blog in 2023 and I really appreciate you. Come back soon for more. 😌✌🏾