meditate on one's own business

"If it was never our fault, we should not be responsible for it; if we were not responsible for it, we would always be victims."

There are times when most people face this mentality: they feel that they cannot control their own destiny, they are victims of fate, and they feel that the whole world is against them. It's a dangerous thing to get caught up in.

At this time, don't get entangled in a problem and drag yourself down.

Instead, ask yourself: What can I do to overcome or resolve this situation? who can help me? Where can I get information to help me solve this problem?

Do you watch gymnastics on the bars? You've seen it, and the question will be answered. There are horizontal bars, parallel bars and uneven bars in gymnastics. Both horizontal bars and parallel bars are played by men, and the strength type is the main one. The uneven bars is a women's event. It has more skills and looks better. It rolls up and down, and there are surprises and wonderful changes. If you use uneven bars to answer the life questions you mentioned, it will be concise and vivid.​​

There are two bars in life, a high bar and a low bar. High bars is what we often say has pursuits, ideals, and goals. Although it's easy to say, many people don't get it. For us, first, the goal should be high, so that people can look up and look up, and they can work hard. The second is to reach things that are within reach. After working hard for a long time, you will only be disappointed in the end. I remember when I was an educated youth in the countryside, I often worked with donkeys. The donkey pushes the mill, blindfolded, without a goal, but when he stops, he will be whipped. So, in order not to be beaten, the little donkey slowly circled the grinding road. Drive the donkey out of the village to carry charcoal. After loading the charcoal and going back, the donkey knows that it is going home, and when it gets home, it will unload its burden and eat grass, and run happily, so that no one can catch up. If there is no goal, the donkey will not go, let alone people?​​

People are different, starting from different environments. The billionaire's son said he wanted to be a general manager, and his father praised him: "Have ideals, start from reality, and cultivate your ability to do things." If you just walked out of a small mountain village, you said to your father, "I became the general manager. Come back to see you again!" Your father will definitely think, this kid is making excuses and doesn't want to go home! Of course, I am not saying that poor children cannot be general managers. Many general managers today are from poor backgrounds.​​

What is a high bar within reach? Be a person who has the ability to contribute to the society and be a good person. Dedicating to society gets a sense of accomplishment, and being a good person can bring true happiness. I think the high bars that life can achieve are these eight words: contribute to the society and be a good person. These eight characters have two meanings, and one less is not perfect. If there are more than these eight characters, whether the stock market just made you a fortune, or Bole has promoted you, you are all lucky. God didn't take a nap, so you got a few more apples.

There is also a low bar in life, called when you fall, you can continue. A person's life cannot be smooth sailing, and bad luck can happen to anyone. Some were promoted, and some lost their black gauze caps; some made a fortune, and some went bankrupt and owed debts; some held wedding banquets, and some wore white flowers to funeral homes; ...It seems like a coin has two sides, and no one can just pick a good one and put it in his pocket. There are ups and downs, there are losses and there are wins, ups and downs. When falling, people will lose weight and panic, and when they fall into the water, they want to grab a life-saving straw. Feeling flustered is not knowing where the bottom is, and being afraid of falling into the water is not knowing the water. You have to have a bottom line in your heart. There is no wealth, no position, and as long as you can support yourself, there is no obstacle that you cannot overcome. This low bar can give people self-confidence, and when they have no bottom, they are not in a hurry to do risky crimes, so they can grasp the bottom line of morality. The moral bottom line is easy to say, but it also seems to be an imaginary line. However, with the hard work of self-reliance, this bottom line can be kept.​​

This is the uneven bars of life. On the high bar, you can get it as long as you struggle; on the low bar, you can catch it when you fall. Think about it, isn't that the case? You smiled at me: "Oh, the six-character scripture that the teacher of the 'ideal and moral' school hangs on every day. After careful consideration, it is similar to what you said. It's just that the high and low bars you said are very real, as if you can stretch out your hand. Touch it." It's good to touch it! Pinch tight, don't slip!