Don't take credit in marriage

Back then, when Ali and Li Tong got married, they were both employees of a state-run factory. The young couple each carries an iron rice bowl, which is quite enviable. Who would have thought that the good times would not last long, and within two years of marriage, the factory went bankrupt. The bankruptcy of the factory means that they all have to be laid off. This accident was undoubtedly a blow to the young couple. And then on the issue of "what to do in the future", the couple had another disagreement.

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Li Tong, who took over from his father's class and became a worker in the factory when he was a teenager, has only been dealing with lathes all these years, which is technically reasonable. Therefore, his idea is to find another small self-employed factory to work. But Ali said that since the iron rice bowl is broken, we might as well just go to the sea to do a small business and be our own boss.

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The two held their own opinions and argued for several days, but Ali won. At the beginning, because of lack of capital, they set up a street stall to sell small groceries, but the business was not bad. A year later, Ali was unwilling to set up a street stall again. She took out all the savings in the family, ran back to her mother's house to borrow a little bit, and rented a storefront in the center of the small town. The small street stall turned into a big store. A few years later, although the business of the store has been booming, Ali has a new idea - to open a hotel, which is the kind that specially receives wedding banquets.

As the saying goes, as long as luck comes, it can’t be stopped. It happened that the owner of a big hotel in a small town was in a hurry to transfer the hotel because of something at home, so Ali gritted her teeth and sold the store first, and then went to the bank for loan. After paying a sum of money, the hotel was sold. After the refurbishment, the hotel became a mess as soon as it opened, and it soon became the largest wedding center in the small town integrating catering and wedding celebrations. Later, they invested in a flour mill, and the business grew bigger and bigger. But who knows that although the days are getting richer and richer, their marriages frequently turn on red lights.

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There is no foreign enemy to disrupt the situation, and it is not "derailment". The root cause is actually pure internal conflict between husband and wife. Because both of them are my middle school classmates, and Li Tong and I have a very close personal relationship, so I still know a little about their family. And from the time when they were both laid off and set up street stalls to now become rich bosses with a lot of money, I am not only a witness, but also a participant in some things. Every time Ali had a new idea, the couple would call me to help them make up their minds after an argument.

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To be honest, I have always admired Ali from the bottom of my heart, she is a woman with great business talent. They can have today's career, most of the credit lies in Ali. In fact, as a husband, Li Tong is also well aware of it, so he has always been grateful to Ali. But the problem lies in Ali's mouth.

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Especially in the past two years, when there are friends gatherings, Ali's mantra at the wine table is: "I said Lao Li, I am a noble person and a lucky star in your life. You have married me in your life, and you have accumulated virtues from your ancestors. ."

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It's okay to hear this at first, it's what it is. At first, Li Tong didn't pay much attention to it, and occasionally used the words "Yes, this also shows that I was very prescient in choosing a mate" to find a step for himself. But after listening a lot, let alone Li Tong, even those of us outsiders feel a little uncomfortable. Finally, Li Tong was completely angered, and a carbine came on the spot: "Then as you say, I'm a soft eater! Don't forget, I haven't been idle all these years." Ali blushed.

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From then on, the couple began to forge a relationship. They talked to each other either insinuatingly or pointedly at Maimang. They often broke up and even thought of divorce.

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Not long ago, the three of us had dinner together again, and naturally the two of us were arguing again during the dinner. Before I could open my mouth to mediate, Ali began to complain: "It wasn't like this in the past few years! One piece of goods is purchased, the other is busy, and he doesn't care what he says. Why is he so angry and sensitive now?"

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I said, "It's not that he has a big temper or that he is sensitive. The key is that you are always there to cheer yourself up and make him feel more and more embarrassed."

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"No, he actually has the final say in this family. Don't I always let him sit in the position of chairman?" Ali was actually full of grievances.

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I smiled and said to Ali: "Beat the gong, listen to the hammer, and listen to the sound. You can see what you said, and people who understand will understand as soon as they hear it. What you mean is that this chairman's title is clearly a 'puppet'. 'Ah, you 'made' him do it."

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Ali was probably touched. After listening to my words, she no longer refuted. Not only did she lower her head, but there were even a few blushes on her face.

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There is an idiom called "invite credit for reward", which comes from Han Yu's "Huang Family Thief Report" in the Tang Dynasty: "I have no foresight, I intend to ask for credit and seek reward." extra benefits. The credit in Ali's mouth is his own, but the purpose of frequently boasting is nothing more than wanting to get more attention from Li Tong. However, even if the social status between husband and wife is very different, their status in marriage is equal. Li Tong is not her superior, so she certainly won't be able to ask for any additional benefits.

When one person is kind to another, the best gesture is not to mention this kindness, and the less you mention it, the more the other person wants to repay you. Originally, Li Tong's gratitude to Ali was like a strong glass of wine, but Ali's repeated requests for credit were undoubtedly pouring water into this glass of wine. As a result, the wine was diluted, the most serious one was Li I'm afraid Tong has no desire to drink anymore.