Be the kids' mate, whom they love

Some believe that friendship with children starts when they are adults or adolescents. However, it is too late at this point. According to psychologists headed by Eric Erikson and the Attachment Theory, a kid must have an attachment model and a figure to speak with if there is love, tenderness, and warmth, which is the language of interaction between a child and his parents. However, if the connection is strained, the youngster will seek an alternate role model, a buddy, or something else. If a crisis happens, he seeks this model instead of his parents, who failed to be this model.

So listen and hear what they say. You will need this hearing tomorrow, but you won't get it tomorrow if you don't start today. Hear what they have to say. Know them. Listen well without rushing to solve problems or give advice. Sometimes it's hard for us to listen to our kids talk about problems or everyday things without getting excited and starting to lecture them to help them as much as possible. But the children want to find someone who will listen to them, acknowledge their feelings, and tell them that they are not alone and that their parents are always there for them.

Talk to them, and don't correct them if you don't want to put up a wall between you and them.

Communicating your emotions to them via words and gestures is best, so they may learn to communicate their emotions themselves.

Find common points of interest and spend enough time together to practice them, such as playing football, shopping, or going to the mosque to pray. Share their hobbies. Engage them in your small actions so that they will join you tomorrow in their interests and ideas. Please enter the world of the children, learning about their thoughts and encouraging them to communicate.

Children often make mistakes, and parents quickly lose their temper in front of those mistakes and rush to express their anger and follow this anger with different types of punishment. However, punishment is an ineffective method for achieving the principle of friendship with children. This is why we have to be patient and resort to positive guidance methods that lead to sending a message of tolerance and love before anger and punishment, and this is a very important educational message if we want to win children's trust and enjoy their friendship.

Moving away from traditional punishment methods and replacing them with what is beneficial produces real and long-term results in modifying unwanted behavior. This is achieved by controlling anger as an initial step and then following it up with an acknowledgment of the feelings. For example, we can explain to the child that we love him very much in the first place and that the role of the father or mother is mainly to help the children correct their mistakes and support them with many life lessons. Thus, we have helped the child understand that making mistakes is expected and an integral part of life. There is no need for the child to feel ashamed or embarrassed. Instead, he should quickly fix the mistake and ask his parents for help, knowing they will help him immediately and accept his apology.

Talk with the children about your childhood memories. This is a very effective training with the children because they rejoice when they listen to these stories, so they feel very close to the father and mother, and they are friends talking together about their lives and sharing their memories with their parents in life.

So the simple advice is to make your children feel loved from a young age. Start this initiative quietly, patiently, and from an early age. Our friendship with our children begins the moment they are born. Since they sense our delight in them and our desire for them and meet their needs for food, warmth, and, most importantly, love and tenderness, the stages continue to hand over to each other, and friendship is the natural result of an interest that began at birth. Do not miss an irreplaceable opportunity to positively influence children's psyche, convictions, ideas, and future.