I have dated many men over the years after my divorce. Many of these men find a way to offend me on the first date because they want something for nothing. Others figure out that they need to keep their identity hidden a little while longer so not to reveal their secret identity too soon. It is a little bit like Superman pretending to be a newspaper photographer named Clark Kent so that no one will figure out who he really is.
This last man was very handsome and had a strong male personality. He came across exceptionally smooth and classy. He did not do anything offensive on the first date and acted like a perfect gentleman. I was extremely attracted to him and extremely impressed with his clever comments and conversation.
We had dinner at a nice restaurant and walked around and talked. He asked to see me again sometime soon, and I agreed.
He and I talked on the phone and at first, I was impressed with the future that he had outlined for himself. He was a few years younger than me, not like all these other men I had dated before. This man had created a Tik Tok channel, a You Tube channel, written a book, and knew about passive income.
I must admit, my knowledge of all these things was extremely limited. My approach to earning a living was much more traditional. Even though I am very well educated, I could improve my earning potential and create more of a nest egg for myself and my son. So, I listened to his conversations and took his advice.
The first thing I did was create a Tik Tok channel. My dog was the perfect guinea pig for Tik Tok. She was a natural, and I learned how to use outside agencies to sell our channel to build followers. Then I started studying passive income and the return on certain investments. I also had a book I had written before and was looking into an app that this man had recommended to find an illustrator. I was not as familiar with this app as he was and when I tried to use it, I could not find the information for which I was searching.
One day on the phone, he texted me and told me that he needed me to do better when he asked me if I had found an illustrator for my book yet. I was really taken back by his comment because this was the first time he had shown this side of his character. I thought that he was having a difficult day and dismissed this comment. That was a huge mistake on my part because that was a red flag that I should not have ignored!
Most of the time, he expressed his interest in helping me and his desire in wanting to build his future.
He shared that he was a godly man and a believer. He wanted his relationship with God to be first and then with a woman to be second.
Then over time, some of his comments became a little strange to me. He claimed to be Hebrew and not Jewish. He said that Jewish people had stolen their heritage and were not white. He said that there is God the father, God the son, and God the man.
Then there were the comments about all women. Women know nothing about men, but men know everything about us. He made comments about black women and how he felt about most of them. He also said that America had ruined women and women in other countries knew how to respect men. Women in our country do not know how to use our ears to listen.
Now I am really seeing a whole lot of red flags! All I can think of is that this man is using his Tik Tok channel to preach this mess to people. He is also a Lyft driver and uses this service as a way of reaching people. He is convincing men and women of these distorted philosophies.
He honestly thinks that God destines him to preach to people! Men are superior to women and our job is to respect a man and to listen and follow them no matter what. Men are Gods placed on Earth to rule the Earth.
Now all I can think about is how to do warn other women about this monster? He is a devil in disguise, and he is one of the most conniving narcissists I have ever encountered within my life! He completely lacks empathy and remorse. He has issues with intimacy and cannot have a normal relationship with a woman due to unresolved issues with his mother.
I wish there were a site created by women and used by women that we could warn each other about potentially dangerous dates. It would be like Angi’s List, but for single women that are in the dating world. We would not use a man’s name only his picture to warn each other to prevent someone else from having to endure a horrific experience.
About the Creator
Amy James
I have been an educator in Georgia for 28 years. I am a school counselor and a single mother. I have a son and pets that are my whole world. I am an academic, and I love to read and write.


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