The Honest Truth About Loving A Smart, Sexy, Independent Woman

Today, I once again shared my top vocal story "The Dating Diary of a 40 Something Year Old". I have almost 500 reads on this article. I know I am still just a rookie but the climb to reach my goal of being a best-selling author gets closer in my sights every time you read what I write. It is exciting to me. I am becoming more confident with each story I write and post. Writing is such an amazing outlet for me. So to know, the words I use are something others relate to, is so very cool! I am learning so much about myself as I openly share my experiences and struggles. I truly put my heart and soul into everything I write.

Words to me are the lyrics of my soul. Some are filled with deep bass and others soft and slow... Regardless, of the beat... my words always have a flow.

I had friends comment on how funny, inspiring, and honest my article was. Which I always love to see. Then, of course, there are the few that feel the need to add commentary that makes no sense and instantly makes me roll my eyes. The guy that states "Being single is a choice". He actually misspelled most of that sentence so it took everything I had to not reply "So is spell check". I guess I was feeling grounded and adult-like at the moment. Instead of commenting or arguing my point... I just deleted his comment. He can thank me later for saving him from that moment of social media stupidy.

I said I was feeling beyond honest tonight. So please take your assigned seats and buckle up for this ride...

Yes, being single is a choice... an easy one at that because men seem to have forgotten the rules of being a gentleman, keeping their word, or actually trying to romance a lady (more than one night). I am so over the messages asking to be my man or wanting to know if I want to see a picture of their Rooster.

What happened to old-fashioned values and a man actually putting effort into thinking of some special plans?

I get I am good-looking. Smart as heck too... but that doesn't give you a right to disrespect me or treat me like I am some flavor of the month. I am beyond sick of trying to figure out what is considered "easy" and what is considered "hard to get". I mean how far do we take all this before we just tap out of whatever all of this dating madness is?

I am seriously getting tired of making sense of all of this!

So here is the secret, the cheat codes to actually falling in love with a smart, sexy, independent woman. Stop trying to change that about her! Yes, when I go out, the odds of someone attempting to hit on me is pretty good. Trust that I know how to deal with the situation. I have been here before. I know what is funny, out of line and when to pull you in closer to handle whatever it is I am dealing with feels best suited for my man.

Stop letting your ego get in the way of who I am!

When something needs to get done, please dont assume I see any other path then figuring it out on my own. I am not doing this to shame you or make you feel like less of a man. I am doing all that I know and can count on. Your encouragement, and pride in my badass ways is the door to me opening up to you and exposing my heart and soul in ways... You aren't going to mind!

Know when to take the lead, when you sense I am tired or feeling overwhelmed.

I know this seems like alot to learn about me but I promise I am well worth it in the end. The more you boost my independence and yet share future goals with me... the more you are going to feel and see the walls crash down around me. I need you to understand my actions are not done to harm you or make you feel like less of a man. Its all I have ever know or could count on. It is sad if you really think about all of it. I truly do want to trust you and know that I am safe in your hands...

It's those that hurt me, used me, and lied to me that you are fighting against.

Stupid I know and yet that is how I roll. I dont see multiple paths or think about the ways we can get things done. My instincts tell me you will let me down or become insecure by my confidence I have worked so hard to find. Communicate with me. Honestly, about how my independence makes you feel. Help me see that you are truly open, honest and real. The more you do to help me feel safe with you. The more I can drop my guard and the more I will deeply love you.

Please done assume I am slutty or a whore just because I know my self worth, my sexuality and all the ways I want to explore.

Trust that I am loyal and bound to you. I crave security just as much as you crave doing all the things I am programmed mentally to do. I put my heart and soul into everything I say and do. So if you show signs of not trusting me or feeling insecure by my bold attitude... you will only give me reason to pull away from you.

Embrace the smart, sexy, independent woman I am and work with me on all the ways I need to show you that I do need you not just want you.

I promise if you are strong, secure, and confident enough to do just that... You will forever have me. The woman that men drool over. The one that gets weekly rooster pics and has to endure boy behavior in the ickiest form. I promise I will not take on more than I can handle and I will learn to soften my badass core. I will be the woman of your dreams. The one you have always longed for and more.

Work with me and I will show you what love feels like when it is raw, real and straight from my core.

I dont want to feel like I am living this thing called life alone. I have so much experience, deep emotion and a perspective that will open up doors you never dreamed before. Being with me means, you will not have to worry if I am okay or able to handle myself. You will know without a doubt that I am capable of taking care of myself on levels that define what badass is really about. You will also know that if I am presented with something that is beyond what I feel I can handle... You will be the first person I run to. I was made to be a wife. I crave chemisty that cannot be forced. I know you require me to "need" you and I promise I will work on making that happen.

Me wanting you is far more impressive than me needing you.

So, if you can be honest, real, and expressive with the emotions I envoke in your heart. You will find one badass, smart, sexy lioness that will do anything to protect your mind and your heart. I may be guarded but there is reason for that. At least in my mind.

So be my biggest fan, The one who has such pride knowing they are my man.

Work with me to build our empire... a life that feels good. Filled with simplicity and yet intertwined with such depth... we both know there is no one or no situation that can ever break what we have.

If you can be that man... You will have the smartest, sexiest, most badass independent woman forever by your side.

I am not the type of woman you meet and just let go. Whatever path we meet on... will shake your world and flip your mind. I am not just a challenge in the making...

I am the one you always dreamed you would find.

So now the only question you must ask yourself is... are you tall enough to ride this ride