Why the higher the level of people, the less calculating

　　People used to tell me: you have to hold the shelf, don't see the message immediately back, don't have what to say, otherwise you will look very "good talk", they will not take you seriously ......

　　I don't know when "good talk" became a pejorative term, did I open the door for you, and you in turn want to turn around and laugh at me?

　　The actual fact is that you can be a good person, and you can be a good person.

　　I don't agree with them, but sometimes I have to admit that there are always a few "ungrateful" wolves in life who consume your goodwill while laughing at your "ignorance".

　　For example, I have encountered such people.

　　Because of the relationship as a provincial editor, many people will come to consult me some submission problems, in the face of everyone's inquiries, I can answer all the answers will know everything, all the words.

　　But over time, those who asked for help became reckless, at first politely sending you a manuscript, hoping you would give him some advice, and later simply not even thanking you, as if two people could call each other brothers.

　　I don't need that "thank you", nor am I asking them to give me any "benefits", I just hope that when I stay up late to read your manuscript, to tell you everything I know, you should understand that not everyone has nothing to do to help you, those who can respond to you in a timely manner when you ask for help, just from the heart.

　　We have all experienced the difficulty of asking for help, we also understand your state of mind, so we give you help without reservation, so you can easily get the answer you crave.

　　But often things don't go as planned, my kindness is taken for granted and my help becomes taken for granted. So, sorry. I take back my help to you, I was too kind before, now I should use the common tricks of those people, "hard" to you.

　　Indeed, when I stopped being so enthusiastic, those who asked me for help, but began to cherish my help every time, I have less extra workload, but people's attitude towards me is much better.

　　But I know that every time when I say only half of the words, the remaining half left to his own understanding, you will have to go around another bend; when I no longer pay attention to the message that pops up from time to time in WeChat, I understand that there will be a few people who are still fighting on the road of struggle disappointed.

　　It is very cruel, very helpless, but also very realistic, sometimes, the road you take is paved by yourself, we give you to sweep away a few stones you are not happy, then well, the rest left to you, no one will go to help you.

　　The easier it is to get, the less you will cherish, this has become the consensus of all people.

　　This is why love speaks of lust, the girl will not easily agree to the boy's courtship; so the "seniors" speak of the shelf, put up a "nobleman speak late" look.

　　Some people blame each other is too noble, but unfortunately you forget that everyone at birth is a blank sheet of paper, only those who do not know how to cherish too many people, we do not want to be a pay "fool".

　　If you do not cherish the easy to open the door of convenience, then what reason do you have to complain about their own obstacles?

　　02

　　Aesop's Fables" said that when Prometheus was created by the order of Zeus, deliberately hung two pockets on each person - one in front of the chest for the shortcomings of others, and one behind for their own shortcomings.

　　As a result, people can see the shortcomings of others when they look down, but rarely turn around to find their own problems.

　　Very often, we are always complaining about each other's not, nailing each other to the moral cross, as if they are the biggest sufferer under the sky. Why is he not willing to tell me anything?

　　Why is she avoiding me when we go out shopping? Maybe you forget that whenever that person is talking to you cheerfully, you are swiping your phone; every time you go out you are shifting to your own will and ignoring the feelings of others.

　　Many problems are two-sided, other people's attitude towards you, may be your own current state. Reflect on yourself, many of the hundred questions will have answers.

　　However, you can not hit all the sticks to yourself. Maybe you cherish everyone around you and are grateful for everyone's help, but there are still people who are oblivious to you.

　　After all, the chances of meeting a "white wolf" are limited, but human nature is infinitely extended.

　　I remember that I first started to get in touch with editors in my freshman year, when I was assigned to the editorial department of the school newspaper by my teacher.

　　I remember that I was the only freshman in the editorial department, and I did not come from a class, so I knew almost nothing about editing, and I asked my sisters for advice, but they simply said to look at the manuscript, as to how to look at it, where to focus, they did not tell you.

　　Later, someone told me that the editorial department can only be entered by junior students, and you were transferred to this by your teacher when you first started, so naturally someone would be jealous.

　　To be honest, at that time there was a feeling of blindness, not knowing at all what I was doing, but now I think about it but I don't feel ridiculous.

　　Those who refuse to give a helping hand because they are afraid of being surpassed are actually a kind of doubt of self.

　　Your fear of being overtaken shows that you yourself have holes, that you are not so perfect in the eyes of others. If you are making progress, what is the "experience" that you once held dear?

　　What you care about, often reflects your level. Why is the higher the level of people, but the less they care? Not that he has much tolerance, but some things simply do not enter his eyes.

　　You may still be complaining about who stepped on you on the bus, and he may be thinking about how to arrange the work plan for the second half of the year. This is called the temperament, called the eyes, called the height.

　　To this day, I have been able to be the editor-in-charge of the provincial magazine, while those who were in the editorial department are still wandering around the school newspaper.

　　In fact, you don't have to worry about the fruits of your labor being easily obtained by others. You can be the first person to master a certain ability, there must be your reasons, the taught so many, but the blue out of blue in the minority after all.

　　The other day, I got a charting skills, I stayed up until 3:00 am to succeed. After that many people asked me for advice.

　　To be honest, the results of their own hard work to black eyes, so that others can easily go is indeed quite heartbreaking, but you have to understand, you tell him just a result, but in the mapping of this skill, your analytical ability, your way of thinking, your knowledge structure is not available to them.

　　There is no shortage of skills in this world, what is lacking is the method of acquiring skills, that is, the framework of thinking.

　　I have researched a bug, I can teach it to others, on the surface we have gained the same ability; in fact, I also have the thinking and means to solve such problems, when I encounter similar problems, I can still call the last thinking mode, but they may not.

　　Therefore, you do not need to calculate the little "experience", you have, is that those who steal the "fruits of labor" can never be compared.

　　03

　　Where your eyes are placed, your level is set in which.

　　I remember and Mr. F to see "28 years old underage", the film Mao Liang to a pork salesman to buy back the original belong to their own ipid, but because they did not bring enough money, Mao Liang pleaded with the other side cheaper, the other side thought for a while promised, but finally in the ipid cut a knife, said this time it is worth the price.

　　At that time, Mr. F whispered to me, "This person can only buy pork for the rest of his life." I think this should be the best interpretation of eyesight and status. I believe that no one would like to deal with a "Grandpa".

　　We are all running hard on the road of struggle, and we are all eager to get the help of others, but no one is willing to give a "white wolf" as a dowry.

　　When you meet a person who is willing to help you for free, please cherish it; but if at first, that person doesn't care about you, don't care, maybe he wants to keep his "baby" for the rest of his life, while you have the opportunity to get a better one.

　　May we not be the "white wolf" who doesn't know how to cherish, and not those who are calculating "Gretchen". Some things deserve our attention, while some can be ignored.

　　Our road may be full of obstacles, but hopefully it's not ourselves who are causing all this.

　　Cherish what you have, your path will be much smoother.

　　Author: Red Piglet, Franklin Book Club columnist, real name Zhu Hong, female, 95 Capricorn. She is a junior in college and now works as the editor in charge of the provincial publication "Black Land" in Jilin Province. Born in the prairie, grew up in Bohai Bay, studied in Black Land, loves food and travel, also loves words, tries hard to make herself a woman, but still a soft girl, always believes that more important than "the way of heaven rewards hard work" is thinking and skills.