Why I've Washed My Hands Off Men - Waje

Nigerian singer and songwriter, Waje, is opening up in a new interview with Diary of A Naija Girl about why she is making the decision to wash her hands off men, at least for now. During a candid share, Waje explained why she's come to a point where she needs to take a break from men, and explains what led up to the decision, and the work she thinks she needs to do too to be able to mentally reframe her view on men as it stands right now. Here is what Waje had to say about her decision.

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Speaking about why she's deciding to wash her hands off men for now, Waje said:

WAJE: I don wash hand for man matter. I have cleaned my hands. I think it's time for me to take a pause you know. I can't deal with more nonsense.

You want to deal with people who are also willing to work on themselves. Cuz what's the point of you working working working and then you meet someone who--because we are all carrying trauma--let's be honest, but then you're working on yourself and you meet someone who's not working on themselves per se or don't think they need to work on themselves. There's no way it's not going to be a symbiotic relationship because that person is always going to keep drowning you, and then you will now start responding in a way that you're not even supposed to respond because remember, you're coming from trauma.

So I just kind of feel like in my own case, I feel like there are some things I need to deal with and that would take me being honest with myself and just kind of remove myself from the equation until I know say ehnehn. Cuz now I question everything. Even if you're honest, I'm like "na so them dey" and that's not even a healthy way to think because they're great people in the world y'know. So I'm just like pausing for now.

If I'm being honest, I started getting to a point where and I thank God for my friends cuz I have a group of male friends that have taught me. When I see them with their significant others and how they relate to us, the females in the group, they've taught me that friendship and relationships and kindness, respect can be something tangible and beautiful for everyone to experience even while growing because no one is perfect.

But for me I'm getting to a point where I won't call it a resentment, I would call it a "I don't want to deal" cuz I kinda just lost my respect for men giving easy excuses rather than taking accountability for actions.

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