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What's Your Relationship Like?

Is it Real Love or Just Desire?

By Witoon AranyanarthPublished 4 years ago 4 min read
What's Your Relationship Like?
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What’s your relationship really like? What is love, and what is it not? When you start a new relationship, there’s usually a lot of excitement. But what happens when this excitement ends? Sometimes people’s emotions fizzle out and they drift away from their partner without noticing. This becomes a pattern in some relationships, but it can also be the beginning of a new chapter that will lead to true love. Here are some ways to tell if you have true love or just desire.

What is love?

Love is a complex word that brings up a lot of different emotions. It's hard to define, but it's easy to see when you have it. So what does love look like?

To help you figure out what true love looks like, here are some signs:

1) You feel like the other person is your best friend because you can talk to them about anything and everything.

2) You can't imagine life without them in it; there's no point in living without them in your life.

3) They make you feel alive, and they make all the bad moments (and good ones!) worth living through.

Is it real love or just desire?

Many people get into relationships because they desire a connection, but this doesn't mean the feeling won’t wear off. There are many signs that true love is in your relationship, and if you can identify these signs, you'll be able to tell whether or not you've found true love.

True love will lead to openness and honesty with one another. You'll both be ready to take risks together and put each other's needs before your own.

And true love will have a lot of laughter and happiness that'll make it seem like time has stopped. True love also takes time; it’s not something that can be rushed. But that doesn't mean it won't happen quickly as well!

It's difficult to know what true love is until you experience it firsthand. So try to remember the following signs when thinking about whether or not your partner is someone you could call your "true" love:

Is there trust?

Do the two of you care for each other deeply?

Do either of you feel safe when the other is around?

Does your partner have an unconditional acceptance of you?

Are the two of you willing to do anything for each other?

Can either one of you see yourself spending

Love is a process

Love isn't something that just happens. It's a process. When you first start dating, all you want is to go on dates and do things that are fun and exciting.

As time goes on, your relationship becomes more serious, and when you're in love, you feel like the two of you share a special bond and know each other inside out.

But if you're not feeling this way anymore, or if things have changed for the worse in your relationship, there may be some problems.

The truth is you never really know what true love is until it happens to you; but these signs can help you find out if this love will last or not:

1. There’s a deep connection between the two of you

2. You trust each other without question

3. You give each other unconditional support

4. Your partner doesn't put any pressure on one another

5. The relationship builds from a foundation of friendship

6. You value honesty and transparency

Love is not a destination, but a journey

True love isn't a destination; it's a journey. You've got to be patient, work hard, and invest your time to make this relationship last. Love is a process of learning new things about yourself and your partner that you never knew before.

One of the most important parts of true love is knowing what matters to you and what doesn't. When you get too caught up in the whole process, you might forget why you're really in this relationship.

You might start looking for love in all the wrong places. You might start dating people who aren't even compatible with who you are as a person or someone who won't work out long term for either of you.

When true love comes around, it's already been there for a long time waiting—you just didn't know it yet!

If you feel like you're in love, then you're probably in love.

It's hard to describe how you know when you're in love, but there are some pretty good indicators that your feelings are genuine.

When somebody is constantly on your mind and brings a smile to your face, it's probably because they're the perfect person for you. If you feel like they're the one and only person you want to be with, then chances are good that this feeling is genuine.

If you feel like no matter what happens, this person will always be there for you, then it's likely true love.

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