What Is Your Love Language?
Love makes the world go around. Most of us have an insatiable desire to be cherished by another person. You want to give and receive love but you don’t know how. Unfortunately not all of us are fluent in our partner’s love languages. Knowing what the top five love languages are is only half the battle. You must know one through five. The top five love languages are words of affirmation, physical touch, receiving gifts, quality time and acts of service. Listen, learn and master what you and your partner’s love languages are.
Words Of Affirmation
Kind words pull at our heartstrings like the cords of a piano. Everyone needs some form of encouragement to keep their spirits high. Talk to your partner as if they are the center of your world. Write them love notes or letters, send them texts, or cards that tell them how much you appreciate who they are and what they do to or for you. Show them through verbal praise what they mean to you.
Physical Touch
There is no better way to stimulate a bond between two or more people than physical contact. Showing love doesn’t end with words. Intimacy in any relationship is one way out of many to keep it thriving. Hugging, kissing and hand holding are beloved forms of in the flesh affection that the majority of people love to receive. Skin to skin contact can drive any sane person over the edge. Remember consent is key. You should only be intimate with someone after they have given you their consent. Unwanted attention will always be unjustifiable and unwarranted.
Receiving Gifts
If you don’t listen to or pay attention to your partner it will come back to bite you in the ass later. When it comes to gift giving the amount of effort you put into the gifts you give is crucial. Pay close attention to the small details like what is their favorite color, animal or what type of music they love to listen to. You could make them a gift basket filled with all of their favorite things to show that you listen to and care about them. Remember to have a gift ready to go for special days like birthdays, holidays and anniversaries.
Quality Time
One-on-one time is the primary source that feeds our need for recognition from the ones we love. Give your partner your full attention, engage in the conversation, put away anything that can be perceived as a distraction. Take them to their favorite place or have a fun day at home. The sky's the limit, ask them what they want to do. Yes, days are the best days.
Acts Of Service
Words matter more when your actions match up to what was said. The little things always lead to big things. This love language can be tricky to figure out. Remember it's not what you say, it's what you do. Doing tasks in and out of the house that your partner normally does is the best way to woo someone whose love language is acts of service. Cook breakfast or dinner, wash the dishes, take out the trash. Make sure the house stays organized and clean. Be a perfect guardian angel outside the home. Show them through your actions that your heart is in their hands. Relationships aren’t a cake walk but with the right amount of effort they can be heaven on earth.
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