What is in the darkness?

We are all human,

We all have unanswered questions, and some of us (not all of us) think we know what is best for someone else.

Whether it be how they parent their child, what religion they follow, what they do or don't post on their social media, and whether they are or are not good people...

I sit here drinking my home made wonderful cup of coffee, with original creamer and some sugar, in my lovely marble coffee cup.. Now some of you might think, Marble coffee cup? Some might think, I prefer my coffee black.

In one way or another rather than just reading and accepting, there will be some who have only read a little of what I have written, and turned the page so to speak, others will continue to read out of curiosity, while others will already be judging based on the smallest of differences already presented.

Point being, the way I take my coffee or what coffee cup is my favorite, that changes by the day. Yet, there are some who believe that we would be less of a match as friends, or even acquaintance's based upon the smallest of differences... Which brings me to my topic, What is in the darkness?

The "darkness" consists of lesser constructs than you might imagine, in fact based upon your imagination, the darkness might be scary, or it might be wholesome. (keep an open mind if possible). Some people are afraid of paranormal things, while others wouldn't give it a moment to believe it might be real. Some believe in angels and demons (which in my opinion also include the paranormal) But everyone has a different opinion.

Our opinions are grown like indoor plants from life experiences, while others are grown like weeds, taking root and taking over everything that was once beautiful. This all starts from the moment that we first enter the world. How our imagination is cultivated, unfortunately is not always up to us.

Now, as adults, how we live our lives, how we relate to others, and how we treat others is one hundred percent up to us. Of course, in that, is our perception. Now our perception is a part of our imagination. This part, is where we get women and men who are paranoid, who don't trust easily, who are constantly worried or bitter to the point of not being able to enjoy the simplest pleasures in life.

So far this might seem like the ramblings of some random person on the internet with too much time on their hands, and I suppose in some ways that assumption might just be valid. But, like you, I am a human being. This writing is one hundred percent my own thoughts, and my own perspective, aw you yourself, have yours.

Imagine this for me: You're a baby, you've just been born into this world, and the only thing you understand right now is that you have no idea where you are, you have no idea the smells you smell, who's holding you, who you're looking at, or even what you're looking at for that matter.

Now, this is to be expected. For a few months, however brief, earth to you was your mothers womb. Then, your thrust into what would be like mars to you from what you now know as planet earth. This is your first step in gathering your own perspective. Do you have fear? No, you do not. Do you feel pain? Yes, you do. Can you smile? Yes, indeed you can. And for the first time, you can also breathe oxygen.

Now, with all these brand new things you're experiencing, one thing is concrete, you feel comfortable and warm in the few arms that hold you closely, and your eyes are bombarded by a brighter source of light than you ever knew before, as well as your poor little nose is bombarded with smells.

Now, you're not thinking in words like we adults do, you're thinking in images and you're reacting based off pure instinct, almost as if you, yourself is not really even there yet, right? Wrong. You are one hundred percent you. You're just on mars right now, and no one else speaks the same language as you. Learning to communicate is yet to come little one.

Now some of us were held dear by our mothers and fathers, while others may never have gotten to know them, others may not have even been born, and even more may have been thrust from the womb of their mothers into incubators, little plastic prisons, due to health problems and such.

Now your perspective is starting to grow, just like when you meet someone new, and your mind (or feelings) immediately start to divulge whether of not this new person is trustworthy, or nice, etcetera. Now imagine if you will, that you were embraced warmly by your mother and father, and always had their warmest of embraces, and someone to talk to, never feeling alone. Your perspective of the world around you, is going to be a bit different than the little one who never gets to feel that embrace, or never gets to meet their mommy or daddy. Right?

Alright, stay with me now, we're going to jump ahead quite a bit here. You've been given a bit of a ground for where I might be headed, so keep following along. (don't forget to keep that mind of yours open here)

So everything that happens to us through out our lives gives our perspective of life and the world around us more of a cultivation. If you've experienced a lot of liars, you'll be less likely to trust, right? Well, of course! Now the reason I am writing this, is to open some minds, to get some people to realize that until the day that we no longer walk this earth, our perspectives and our minds change, and can be cultivated.

Every choice you make, not only affects you, but in some way or another the entire world around you. If you get the chance to make a child smile, take the time and make them smile, change their perspective a little bit (for the better.) If you see someone that has a hard time trusting, Don't say to yourself, "that's too much baggage for me in my life right now". Take a little bit of time out of your busy schedule and help cultivate their perspective.

Give them a reason to trust, a reason to build, a reason to believe, a reason to smile if nothing else. You might just be that puzzle piece that is missing in someone else, even if that puzzle piece was just needing someone to say hello.

The darkness, really, is inside each and every single one of us, for one reason or another. The darkness isn't just when midnight hits, or before the sun rises in the morning. The darkness isn't just paranormal, it isn't just the electric going out. The darkness is inside all of us. It's things that we have been exposed to during our existence, bad things. that we tend to carry with us, rather than let go.

When someone asks you to trust them, and you don't allow yourself to, that's a little bit of darkness. Not only is it hurting you because you cannot be close to people, but it is hurting them because they are needing that closeness, that comfort, and you're too guarded to allow it to happen. And in doing this, you're allowing that darkness to stay within in, and you're allowing that darkness to grow inside someone else.

It truly is ten percent what happens to us and ninety percent how we react to it. I know that there are things in this life that are truly hard, and very painful. But I also know that how we choose to handle those things when they come, decide how long they stay painful, or who we turn out to be.

I have been through my fair share of things, but that isn't what this is about. It's about not wanting to see the rest of the world walk around in darkness because of the darkness that i've walked through in my lifetime.

I'd love to see someone be able to see passed the pain, and see the brightness behind the darkness, or even be the brightness in the midst of the darkness. To make someone else smile, not realizing the pain they're going through. And that doesn't just happen. In order to brighten up someone else's day or even their life, we first have to be able to see outside of our own.

You cannot see the sun when you're starting at the moon, but you wouldn't be able to stare at the moon without the sun causing a reflection on the other side of the world.

The world is much bigger than you, or I. But if you keep an open mind, if you let anger go, if you realize that hurting people, hurt others. People that have been lied to a lot, tend to lie. People that have been lied to, used, the list goes on and on, but we all have a past. Look through that past, get to know the person that is standing before you today.

Each one of us is capable of loving everyone. We make the decision to stay or walk away. They really had it right when they said "all we need is love".

If all we had ever experienced during our lifetimes was love, can you imagine how different the world would be today? Or even better, tomorrow?

Thank you all for taking the time to read this whole thing if you did. I couldn't help but to write my thoughts down like an online journal, my wonderful sometimes annoying stream of consciousness that doesn't know how to be quiet. Haha. I hope that my thoughts have reached some of you, and to the others, maybe it will make you think. if nothing else maybe someone will get a laugh or a smile, and maybe, just maybe this will spark a fire in someone, and we might get a great philosophical novel inspired by this, or a blog. Nothing is too small, not when you realize how big the world really is.

To everyone who has read this, I know it isn't epic! But i hope that you smile! And i hope that you continue your life blessed and open hearted! Have a wonderful day everyone! and happy holidays!