What if our Friends are our Soulmates?

As someone who grew up with parents that were high school sweethearts, achieving a love like their's was always a goal. I imagined that one day I would meet my soulmate and everything would just instantly work out. As I've gotten older, I've really thought about that word- soulmate- and what it actually means. If you search Google for the definition of soulmate, they will define it as "a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner." If someone would have told me when I was younger that my soulmate could be a friend of mine and did not necessarily have to be a romantic partner, they would have saved me a lot of stress.

Maybe it seems like a far fetched idea, or maybe that it's a reach. I think its not only refreshing to view friends as potential soulmates, but a much healthier way to look at the idea as a whole. I feel like so many young people invest a lot of their time trying to figure out if the person they're dating is their soulmate and could be "the one." In actuality, most of these people probably already found their soulmate- but it's their friend and not a romantic partner so they never realize.

Truly, I feel I have friends who are soulmates. Very, very few of my friends do I look at this way. However, the ones I feel are soulmates of mine are the most solid, genuine relationships I've had to any extent, ever. The amount of trust I have in these people is unreal. Never a doubt in my mind that they will ever betray it, ever.

I feel like its so special to experience soulmates as friendships. Romantic relationships have other layers friendships don't that could add extra complications, obviously. Friendships can be complicated too, and hold their own importance for loyalty. I've had friendships that seemed solid until they completely and quickly fell apart. I've had friendships that seemed strong but didn't hold up over time. My soulmates (friends), provide a sense of love, trust and loyalty no one outside of my family ever has. Its almost hard for me to imagine that a romantic partner could ever offer me these things to the same extent where I could consider them to be a soulmate of mine.

Some signs your best friend(s) might be your soulmate:

1. You are comfortable asking them for help, no matter how many times, without having to worry about "owing" them or returning the favor. You know they won't hold it over you, guilt trip you about it, and surely there will be plenty of times in the future they'll need your help as well.

2. You either spend more time with them or speaking to them than your family members.

3. You refer to each other's parents as "mom" and "dad."

4. Being painfully honest with each other is a given.

5. You can spend time with each other wherever, doing whatever, and still enjoy each other's company.

6. There are no limits to digging through your childhood traumas, darkest secrets, anything. Neither of you ever even have to think about what you're going to tell each other, because you know its safe with them.

7. The second you have a new secret, they're the first person you want to tell things to.

8. And they're the first person you want to go to when something good or bad happens.

9. You can be in each other's company, in complete silence, and it isn't uncomfortable.

10. You genuinely take on each other's successes as your own- and each other's loss/pain as your own, too.

11. Even if you don't talk for a while (life gets busy), when you finally do again its as if nothing has changed.

12. You can't picture "big" life moments without them being there/playing a role. They're first in line when picking your wedding party, godparents of your future kids, the list just goes on.

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