Wang Luodan: Subtraction of life

Whether your life is a gift or a journey depends entirely on your attitude towards life.

Three years have passed since the last interview with Wang Luodan. At that time, she had just finished shooting the TV drama "Struggle", with an assistant, a busy man. This time, she came by herself on her bicycle, without makeup. You look so laid back.

Surprised, he asked her, "Why? Have you been on vacation?" She smiled and nodded: "In fact, every day can be like a vacation, as long as you change a lifestyle."

Wang Luodan said for a way of life, is that she is now practicing subtraction life

1 Once missed seeing a psychiatrist

Of my film school classmates, I had a relatively smooth career. I have never stopped acting, and I also deeply know that for actresses, the golden age is just a few years, we must take advantage of the young to lay a good foundation for their life and career, so those years are desperate. Filming, advertising, filming MV, dubbing, hosting, what works, and finally get to our class as long as there is no time to meet the work, will say to others, "you go to Wang Luodan, she will be willing to do it." For this, I also got a nickname: Superwoman. I made a lot of money. I put it away. I also often take out the passbook to look at it and looking at the number that has been rising, feel very happy. I have ambitious plans to buy a large villa in the suburbs of Beijing and buy my favorite Mercedes SLK convertible sports car.

Being in the show business, I also deeply know how important the network is. Most of the time, the opportunity is not dependent on your strength but depends on you just know the person who can give you the opportunity. I love going to parties and dinners and meeting lots of people. I always think: go out to rely on friends, more friends more road.

Such unrestrained busy, no quality of life, the direct consequence is that I can not be idle, once idle down, I will be in a panic, sitting is not standing is not, there is always a kind of disaster to happen, inexplicably want to cry, want to find someone to talk. Three thick Rolodex books, nearly a thousand people, and I found no one to talk about. What's more, I began to lose sleep. The more tired I became, the more I couldn't sleep. I kept my eyes wide open all night and got up the next day with two big black circles under my eyes.

It was the director Zhao Baogang who first noticed that I was in the wrong state. He said, "You can't do this, little girl. You should sing and go shopping.

I also think it is not a thing to go on like this, because all aspects of the body have a reaction, crazy thin, rough skin, and often a burst of heartbeat, the kind of irregular crazy jump, especially scary. I knew I had to rest, but I couldn't stop as if I had put on red dancing shoes. Once I stopped, I was afraid and didn't know what to do. It was only when I was in that crazy busy state that I felt at ease.

I thought about going to therapy. I reached out to a friend and asked him to help me find out if there was a reliable therapist. My friend listened to my words and said, "I can see you this problem, the common disease of modern people - endless desire, desire produces anxiety, a long time down, people will collapse."

"What can I do?" I asked in distress.

It was then that I first heard of the term "subtractive life". We want a lot of things, a lot of things we don't need, and then we work ourselves to death, and still feel unsatisfied, and still feel panic. The so-called subtraction of life is that we want to reduce these unnecessary things, not give ourselves so much burden so much pressure, let the body and mind have a rest and adjust the space so that the state of the whole person alive will have flexibility, will retreat will enter, life will have better development.

My friend said to me, "Just think about it. Living in Beijing is neither shabby nor luxurious. Is 3,000 yuan a month enough for a normal person? You can still make $3,000 a month, can't you? Then what are you worried about? Why do you drive yourself to death?"

I thought about it, yes, I am so busy every day, eating and sleeping in the cast, a month still spend less than 3,000 yuan, then I am so hard to do? Is it for a meaningless number that keeps rising in your bankbook?

The lower the material requirements of life, the more active the spiritual life

I try to live by the idea of subtractive life. On THE LIFE, PUT THE VILLA sports CAR ASIDE FIRST, THINK ALSO JUST FOR vanity, I a PERSON LIVES SO BIG VILLA STEM? Sports CAR IS ALSO, USUALLY, RIDE A BIKE MUCH CONVENIENT, JUST CAN FITNESS, IF HAVE WHAT URGENT ALSO CAN TAKE A TAXI, BUY A SPORTS CAR TO COME BACK, MAINTENANCE REPAIR OF WHAT, I THIS KIND OF "MECHANICAL BLINDNESS" DO NOT MAKE AT ALL, SAY I OFTEN TAKE DRAMA, WHEN OPEN! Clothes and cosmetics are also simple. I used to believe in the famous brand, the same thing, I always think the famous brand is better. A lot of clothes I only wear a few times, what's the use of buying such a good brand, cosmetics are also. I was shocked when a friend of mine who sells cosmetics told me that the real ingredient in many expensive cosmetics is just a few dollars. Now I often cook at home and take the opportunity to use honey and eggs to mix a mask on my face, which is healthy and economical. After a month of this, I calculated that it didn't cost anything. Three thousand yuan was less than that.

With less desire for money, there is less pressure. Professionally, I'm determined to stop trying to be a good actor. Meet a good role, even if the pay is low ~ some can also play, a bad role, and would rather rest at home. It is said that show business is competitive and that many things are discussed in bed, but I am proud to say that "hidden rules" will never happen to me. Because I believe that if you are an actor, even if you miss an opportunity, but once the opportunity falls to your head, you can also be brilliant; On the contrary, if you are not cut out for it, even if the opportunity belongs to you, so what? At best, we're familiar with each other.

By not doing so many shows, I can spend more time with my family. This spring, I accompanied my parents to Hokkaido, Japan. I was very pleased to see how satisfied my parents were. I think what I enjoy most about taking old people out is the satisfaction, the pride that I have a good daughter. I'm glad I was able to take my parents out when they were healthy enough to walk around, instead of just giving them money or thinking about spending time with them when they couldn't walk anymore.

I also put my three thick books all thrown away, useless, thousands of acquaintances may not be worth a bosom friend. Instead of spending time socializing with strangers who might be useful to you, have tea and chat with a few friends. And old friends are back before I contact, let me happy is attended a high school classmate party is the party I didn't know there was a boy in the class has a crush on me ten years and has in mind swear university graduate will boarding door of my house to my mother's hand - ten years, so warm pure feeling of the story, I find it hard to believe that could happen to me.

I'm in the middle of a gap in my love life. This is probably the longest window I've ever had. I used to have boys coming and going. At that time, falling in love was a terrible habit for me. I felt that there should be a man around to follow, spoil and love. If there was no man, I felt like something was missing. But how much love this person, also did not see, and simply know that endless demand and do not know to pay for each other. It's scary to think about this attitude towards relationships. Now I'd rather be "alone" and calm down to think about what kind of relationship I want and let it go. It's good to have a lover, but if not, you have to find your fun living alone.