This Is What My Husband's Friend Said to Him After our Marriage

We’ve been married for almost 2 years now but have known each other since 4. And I must tell you, the 2 years I’ve known him from far were entirely different. However, living with a person is just another journey of ‘getting to know each other on a different level’.

Jeremy has been a very dedicated husband, there’s no doubt about it. But this is not an appreciation post. Read on, you might relate to it.

We married off very young. It’s very true as a general fact, we got married earlier than an average adult in a big city. Well, the point here isn’t getting married early. I’m here to share a part of my marriage journey which I’m sure many females out there would relate to.

Jeremy was all I needed in a husband. However, with time I started noticing changes. And I always wondered what the future would be like if he’d keep on negatively changing. After almost 1.5 years of constant struggle and suffering, I found out the actual cause. And you won’t believe, it was HIS FRIENDS. They used to discourage him if he’d say ‘Vanessa is waiting I have to go home. I read those messages and listened to those voice notes where he was called a ‘simp’ for simply being a caring husband. I had my heart broken several times reading those messages from so-called friends where they’d encourage him to stay out mostly and engage elsewhere. Only one thing that kept me together was Jeremy’s true self which I had known for years.

I’d forgive all those who had tried to manipulate him, except his ONE friend. In one of his voice notes, he went like, ‘Jeremy Listen To Me! You will definitely regret taking this much care of your wife. Don’t value her this much, Learn to be a man, please! Stop doing this much for her.’

And on another occasion, he tried to convince Jeremy not to visit his My Family because it might decrease his value. I wonder what their families teach such dudes? Out of where do they learn such stupid philosophies? Such men contribute to misogynistic mindsets.

Moreover, I did not want to encounter excuses because every time I’d think about it, I’d reason ‘why would you let someone else dictate you? didn’t you know of your own motives?’ Nothing would be sufficient to calm my mind. No reasons were good enough for my understanding.

However, I realized at one point how a person can be influenced by his company. How men advise each other regarding females.

Loving and caring for your wife is an insult to them.

I’m sorry, I wish your father had given better treatment to your mum, so you wouldn’t ever utter such filth.

So I prayed very hard, and I stuck to God and I told Him about the sorrows of life. And no one can disagree, my constant hope and my fight during the darkest hour have paved a way out of it. During the process, I always knew what I was worthy of. And I stood up for myself. If you’re also into something similar or facing the same circumstances, just know to stand up for yourself and never let yourself down.

With time Jeremy boycotted that friend, and our life finally became peaceful.

Today, I wish that companion nothing but worse. He took away those happy days from me which I had expected to spend with Jeremy hand-in-hand.

People were doing every sort of reasoning to the series.

Yes, the manipulated ones do know what they’re doing. I myself never stood in favor of such negligent behavior. Despite knowing you’ll just make your own life hell, you still get influenced.

I’m not vouching for anyone who has done this to their spouses. It’s just I wanted to share the ‘influenced mind’s perspective’ since I’ve seen it very closely. So this happens sometimes you do it because you do not want to stand the odd one out in the group, especially when you’re the only one married. You do it for the heck for it, for being cool, or whatever. Also, speaking the language of your friends in front of them makes you feel validated, this is what I’ve observed.