These 5 Rules will Help you Matchmake with Your Single Friends

The chances are that one time or another in your life your friend won’t be dating anyone, and you’ll think that you could have the guy or girl for them. Setting someone up should be easy – in theory, but getting yourself involved within the relationships of other people can be incredibly tricky, even if you have the best of intentions. Remember, matchmaking isn’t just about trying to make romance happen, you also have to ensure that you take all of the right steps in keeping your friendship secure, too.

Here are some tips and rules to follow when you’re setting up your single friends

1.) Don’t be Afraid of the Age Gap

Many people seem to have issues when it comes to setting women up with younger guys, or setting guys up with older women. The truth is that age doesn’t make much of a difference so long as both of the people are adults, and they have something important in common. If they fit in other ways but have half a decade between their ages, don’t worry about the gap and just set it up.

2.) Avoid the Sales Pitch

Telling your friend that the man or woman that you’ve found for them is “good looking” or “smart” can be pretty subjective. If you have good intentions, then selling your chosen match shouldn’t be necessary. Try to avoid overused adjectives, and focus on the things that both people have in common that should make them a good match.

3.) Explain How You Know the Person

It’s a good idea to be as upfront as possible about how you know the person you’re setting your friend up with. This is a good idea if you want to make sure that your friend doesn’t think that you’re simply pushing them on the first single person you meet. For example, let them know that you met that guy at college and recently reconnected on Facebook. On the other hand, if you don’t know the match very well, be honest about that.

4.) Be Careful with Venue Choice

If you’re setting up the details for their first date, remember that venue can be important. Try to avoid chaotic bars and loud areas, as the most important thing that your matched couple needs to do is talk. This is the only way they’ll be able to find out whether they actually fit each other reasonably well or not. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you should force them to spend several hours together, as three hours sitting and staring at someone at a table can get awkward very quickly.

Try:

• Places with couples activities
• Cinema or movie locations
• Something that they both mutually enjoy

5.) Don’t Take Failure Personally

Although it’s fun to play cupid, remember that the things that actually happen on the date itself are beyond your control. If your friend actually ends up going out with one of the guys or girls you suggested for them, it’s not your fault if that person ends up acting terribly or being rude. You’re not responsible for other people, so don’t blame yourself if the date turns out to be a bust.