The Sad Golden Rule in Society: Adultery is Wrong...Unless You're White

You know, if you really think about it, there are racial double standards in pretty much everything in society. Jobs, sports, temperament, you name it, and the list is never-ending. After some deep thought, I also realized that the double standards also apply to the cardinal sin of adultery.

Now, a lot of things inspired me to write this, but here is my main inspiration:

Some time ago, I wrote a story listing Bellamy Young's three best villainesses, and one of them was Monica Jarrow, Young's character on an episode of Law & Order: LA. In the episode, Monica was married to golf pro Chip Jarrow, who had a huge wandering eye. Now, when the hubby cheats, it's normal for the wife to leave him, right? Well, Monica doesn't do that. She actually signs a post-nuptial agreement that states that if Chip messes around, Monica will receive a $1 million payday for each dalliance, as long as she keeps quiet about it. To me, that's the same thing as accepting a bribe to cover up a crime.

But that's just the tip of the iceberg. Monica turns all of her anger not on her cheating hubby, but on the mistresses, and basically tells their son, Luke, to do the same, and even ordered Luke to kill one woman to stop her from outing one of Chip's dalliances. You know, while this is a fictional instance, we see this too much in reality when a White man cheats. When a White man messes around, it's always her fault, and by "her," it doesn't always mean the other woman.

The mistress does get all of the blame when a White man cheats, as she's always accused of "throwing herself at a married man," It takes two to tango, you know. Even worse, the wives play that misogynistic blame game as well, but speaking of the wives, they get blamed when the other women aren't under fire. You tend to hear this said a lot: "Well, if you had pleased your hubby at home, he wouldn't be looking elsewhere." And when it comes to the White guys who have a plethora of mistresses, even that gets condoned: "Well, he's just being a man, it comes with the territory."

So yeah, if a White man cheats, it's her fault. But if a Black or Latinx man cheats, it's his fault. We live in a society where a vast majority believe that Black and Latinx men mistreat women, but if a White man actually does mistreat a woman, he's "asserting his authority." It's reached a point where Black women actually believe this bigoted bullshit, and here's one in particular:

This woman, the first Black woman to ever shed White woman tears, is Beyonce. There are a number of reasons why my respect for Beyonce is even lower than the Minnesota Vikings' miniscule Super Bowl chances, but here's a major one. I was told that Beyonce's hit song, I think it's called "Lemonade"; I'm not sure, but I know it has that "Becky with the good hair" line, was about this claim that Jay-Z cheated on her. Yeah. About that: Jay-Z never cheated on Beyonce. That song was based on a blatant and bold-faced lie! Yet people ate it up, especially Black people, and no one asked questions. It was taken as gospel because it was "Bey."

You know how I know Jay-Z never cheated on Beyonce? Because during the relationship's infancy, literally all we heard about was that couple. The media was obsessed with them; hell, they were probably waiting for those two to wake up in the morning. Literally everything was reported about Jay-Z and Beyonce, so if Jay-Z had actually strayed on Beyonce, I would have heard about on TV or read about it online. Nothing. Why? Because it didn't happen. As if rappers don't get enough slander from racists with that lie about lyrics being misogynistic, here's Beyonce basically slandering her own rapper husband and feeding into the racism against Black men.

But regarding the title, it's not only White men who get excuses. White women do, too. Though in their case, it's always the sympathy card. Bad marriage, mistreatment, lack of excitement, and the main one, lack of attention. The often used, "lack of attention" excuse, to me, is a mutual problem, and there are better ways to work that out. Yet when a White woman cheats, we're all expected to feel sorry for her. Let a Black or Latinx woman tell that same tale. They would get skewered. Not only skewered, they'd get shamed, too. It's a sad state of affairs.

Let's get one thing straight. Adultery's wrong no matter who's doing it. Hell, look at the Seventh Commandment. What I'm calling out is the racially motivated double standards when it comes to that very subject. The racist labelling, shaming, and slander absolutely needs to stop.