The Pressure

What makes a Diamond? Are diamonds just spectacular precious gemstones that are found in the earth as a "Diamond"?. No! Pressure, lots of pressure over time and of course carbon.

"Diamonds are only made up of one element: carbon. When carbon dioxide is buried 100 miles under the Earth's surface and heated to a temperature of 2,200 degrees Fahrenheit, and then squeezed to a pressure of 725,000 lb per square inch, a diamond is formed", quoted from google search.

What do pressure and diamonds have to do with being different you may ask? Well, let's think about it for a minute. Only through time and pressure are they formed. It is the same for human beings. Most people feel like they are different, unique and alot feel so different that they prefer their own company to social interactions through fear of not fitting into some esteemed social circle that may or may not help with their status in society.

As human-beings we all have emotions. Emotions tell us when and what makes us happy, sad, angry, etc etc, without them we would be robots existing to do and not feel. Why does anyone ever feel like a misfit or that they don't fit it? The "Pressure", that is put on people to conform to particular social circles is rampant in society. Just take a look at the plastic surgery industry where people don't want to look like themselves but have surgery to look like their peers or idols or their own perceptions of what is perfect so they can fill the inner void that screams, "Misfit". If something is "Misfit", it does not fit in. But who is this supposed person/s sitting on a social pedestal living in a glass house with the Holier than thou attitude?

It's quite easy to find the answer. It is people who themselves consider that they are the"Plumbline", for acceptable in regards to that particular social circle. Self-worth, knowing your own worth your character, strengths, weaknesses, your likes and dislikes your personality, your integrity etc.

Most people have experienced the "Misfit", emotions at some time in their lives. Whether that be not making the netball or basketball team or not passing a test or tests in school so therefore you weren't considered one of the smart kids, right? What about the kids that couldn't play an instrument at school but every other child could. The lists go on and on.

The truth is, it is a "Mindset". The "Mistfit-mindset" not fitting in is a lie, yes a lie! If you are a human being which everyone is then you are not a "Misfit". Each human-being born into this world on earth was created born to be here. People can be nasty and narrow minded and will create their own perceptions on what to them is socially acceptable according to their own beliefs and preconvieved perceptions of what is an acceptable social reality for themselves and often their will always be someone or others who do not fit that box/reality.

Don't look for boxes to squeeze yourself into but freedom from "Misfitopia", is found in self-worth. You do not need to be approved by another human-being to justify your existence here on earth!

Be yourself, love yourself, love others, do not judge others, be kind, caring, learn to share your gifts yes "Most so called, Misfits are very gifted people".

Fear of the unkown, especially when there is someone who is considered, a "Misfit", or "Outsider", are more often than not socially awkward, shy, highly intelligent and creative unique individuals that given respect and acceptance often stand out because they shine, just like a diamond that are multi talented, just like a diamond is multi-faceted and shines differently from those facets cut into the diamond.

Years of pressure over time creates "Diamonds". So next time you feel like a misfit or you don't belong, remember it is a lie! Gift yourself the right "Mindset". You do not exist for others approval and you don't need to justify yourself because someone else or others find you "Different".

Proudly look at yourself in a mirror each day and say, "Yes I am different", I am special, I am loved, and those that love me, will support & encourage me! Walk away from those that push a "Misfit" agenda, it is a form of abuse. Navigate to people with the same interests as yourself and you will find your own people. Once you find your friends with similiar interests that "Misfit", feeling, emotions, will no longer exist.