The essence of running a marriage is to improve the ability to resist risk

Every couple in love is eager to step into the hall of marriage. Every person who enters into a marriage wants to be successful.

However, marriage may not always work out the way everyone wants it to. The seemingly beautiful marriage in the day-to-day life of the food and oil in the land of chicken, often makes people tired, powerless, and even dead.

If we spread out the various problems in marital life one by one, through the way men and women confide in each other and express themselves, and then find out the essence of marital conflicts, people can gain the power to resolve them. I think this is an important measure to solve the high-risk nature of marriage.

How to improve the risk resistance of marriage and how to run a marriage, I think we must seize the following three tips.

01 Establish a common circle of interest

The essence of marriage is companionship. The union of two people, from love to marriage, both the romance of the wind and the stormy torment.

The mutual circle of interest is a very important combination, last night on the way back from a walk. A little girl from the bus stepped happily towards the boy who was picking him up across the road to go home. When she reached the boy, she naturally took his hand, the boy took the bag in her hand and on her shoulder, and the little hand took the big hand and went home happily.

I slowly walked in the back, watching them, inexplicably some envy, as if suddenly understanding why so many people want to get married, a home.

When you drag your tired body from work, there is such a person waiting for you at the intersection to go home, you can remove the pretense, rely on him, and share interesting things, that is how warm picture.

Realistic principles and spiritual desires complement each other to form a state of balance, and the balance is the vitality of marriage. I think the balance is the inexhaustible common hobbies and endless conversations between each other.

The most important thing to avoid in a marriage is also too bland. The two people are not even interested in sharing, not to mention getting together.

In addition to understanding each other's outlook, some long-term common hobbies, but also make your life full of more tacit understanding.

Whether you like the same game, read the same author's novels, or love to watch the same network variety show, the effect is very obvious.

If you don't have one now, then cultivate one together.

Growing together

Good love is to include "common growth", two people step in line, and naturally will have nothing to say.

Love can bring two people together, but to last, two people must grow together. And when the height difference between two people is greater, the distance between the heart and the heart will be more and more distant.

The best way to stay fresh in love is to progress together, and only by progressing together will you have a chance to see the bigger world. You do not need to please each other to get a sense of security, do not need to desperately show love to get a sense of superiority, and do not need to be jealous and jealous to brush their existence.

The most important thing is to have a person who walks fast, "I wait for you" is probably the most beautiful state in a relationship. The slow walker should never complain but speed up their own pace.

It is easy to love each other, but marriage is not easy.

This requires both sides of the marriage to continue to learn and grow, deeper into a relationship, more meaningful than building a new relationship, building a new relationship, more in the repeat of the old self, while deeper into an old relationship, it must require people to be renewed.

If a relationship can no longer go on hand in hand, it means that both people involved are unable to renew themselves. If one of them can renew himself, not only can the relationship continue, but often the other person can be guided into the process of self-renewal.

A person who can renew himself or herself often will neither get tired of others nor be tired of others.

Support each other to become the best version of themselves

The most comfortable state in love is probably this: encouraging each other, being with each other, nourishing each other, growing, and then we become better versions of ourselves but still loving each other.

One of the main features of marriage is to encourage your partner to grow, and for the other person to encourage you to grow yourself. Help your partner reach his or her goals and realize his or her potential in the relationship. Try to learn what is good for you and the relationship so that you can have a better life in the future, which also allows you to see how the other person and yourself are and be able to understand each other one step at a time.

Marriage is a long practice. Too many partners step into marriage with sweet love, only to end up with resentment and fatigue. In the end, it's just because human nature is lazy. Lazy to communicate with each other, lazy to exchange and share, lazy to encourage both sides, lazy to grow together.

When we know how to run marriage with heart, care more about each other's feelings, listen to each other's heart, and cherish each other's contribution, the couple's relationship will naturally become closer and closer.

If you just want, to ignore each other to pay, with avoidance and indifference to the other half, then, even if the couple has more love, will eventually be consumed.

It is easy to love each other, but marriage is not easy.