The best way to end a relationship

At that time, we walked with our good friends, side by side, holding hands, laughing and pulling hooks is a promise, and always thought that it would be a lifetime after pulling hooks and stamping.

Therefore, in the face of the end of a relationship, immature people will cry, make trouble, entangle, and even struggle.

Even if we have to part in the end, we will cry goodbye and solemnly agree to be good friends for a lifetime.

And when we are adults, a relationship always fades when we walk; Some friends always disappear quietly without knowing it.

No crying, no entanglement, no quarrel, no collapse, no questioning, no explanation, so tacitly, silently, alienated.

From then on, we went our separate ways, and never met again.

But what if we don't meet again?

When the wind blows, the clouds will disperse; You and I walked together, and there is no regret.

It's not easy to end this meeting decently in the way of adults, compared with the relative boredom after stalking.

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All the relationships

Everyone who feels hard is forced

Some people say that life is a grand encounter and parting.

Yes, in the adult world, parting is the norm. After much experience, you will gradually understand:

The best way to end a relationship is not crying and pestering, nor quarreling and questioning, but tacit understanding, natural decline and gradual alienation in silence.

After all, you have your own busyness, I have my own mess, everyone has their own way to go, and no one can always stand in the same place waiting for anyone.

How did we and our former good friends get here today?

Think carefully:

There is no betrayal of dog blood in TV series, and there is no enmity of interests in real life.

Only occasionally send a message, after a few greetings, the other party did not return, and you did not send it again tacitly;

It is just that there is no common topic, and there are new friends and new lives;

It's just that each one has a bright future, and each one has a wonderful life, and it's slowly drifting away.

Tagore has a poem:

"The farthest distance in the world is not the trajectory where the stars do not meet, but even if the trajectories meet, they have nowhere to find in a flash."

That's true. In this life, people will meet all kinds of people. They will accompany us through a certain stage of life, and then suddenly leave at a certain time. From then on, the Jianghu will never see you again.

It's not fickle, it's not widowed, it's just that on the road of life, each has its own busy and difficult.

Life has been hard enough, so I don't want to insist on relationships that need hard maintenance.

It is almost as hard for friends to meet, as for the morning and evening stars.

In adult life, there are always a lot of busyness and self-care.

Work and life in a hurry, family and life in trouble.

We don't have so much time for sentimental parting, and we don't have so much space to set aside the sadness in our peace of mind.

All relationships, whenever you feel hard, are forced. As adults, we are no longer demanding.

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Instead of struggling to maintain

It is better to leave quietly and say goodbye decently

What is the best difference?

Some people say:

The best ones are holding hands and looking at eyes with tears, but they are just crying. They are feeling deep and thinking hard.

Others say:

The best difference is the broad-minded and free-spirited style of "Mo Chou has no bosom friend in the road ahead, and no one in the world knows you", that is, making great strides forward.

There are so many, and so on.

But in my opinion, in the adult world, the best difference should be not to disturb, not to pester, and to leave quietly and say goodbye decently.

As Spirited Away said:

"Life is a train to the grave. There will be many stops on the road. It is difficult for someone to accompany you all the way.

When your companion wants to get off the bus, you should be grateful even if you don't give up, and then wave goodbye. "

Ng Man Tat and Stephen Chow have been partners for 12 years, and they deserve to be the best partners.

But after shaolin soccer, they haven't cooperated for twenty years.

Once, in the "Thirteen Invitations", when Ng Man Tat was asked about his old friendship with Stephen Chow, he said:

"I know him very well and know each other well. We (before) have a tacit understanding, and one eye knows what the other person thinks. "

The host Xu Zhiyuan asked him:

"For you, a friendship that was so close in the past disappeared later. Is this disappearance a great pity for you?"

Ng Man Tat said.

"I sometimes wonder, what is the cause of the feeling that there is a little old age and death.

When you move to another place and have another environment, there is less and less contact with each other, and it becomes as if everyone doesn't know how to break through this mouth.

I'm sure he's thinking too. But no matter what, it is not easy to get to know each other. "

Hearing this sentence, I really felt deeply:

The relationship between people is weak when it is weak, and it can never go back;

The fate between people, say no, no, can never be chased.

The world of adults is really cruel, and even the best partner in the past will inevitably become the most familiar stranger.

Never say nothing to say nothing-silence is the biggest cry when adults end a relationship.

Who is not like this:

Take out your mobile phone, there are thousands of words in your heart, but suddenly you have nothing to say when you open the dialog box;

Open the friend list, no blackening, no deletion, but many friends have not contacted for a long time;

There was no farewell in the pavilion, and there was no farewell in the willow tree. We just broke up without knowing it.

Perhaps, the last tacit understanding between us is to stop disturbing and keep silent.

Quietly exiting and honoring is the final fulfillment of this relationship.

Let everything fall silent and never contact again; Let's make a difference and enjoy each other.

That's good.

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The best end is

Let go of the past and let yourself grow

Philosopher Plato said:

"If you are unhappy and unhappy, let it go. The most regrettable thing in life is to easily give up what should not be given up and stubbornly insist on what should not be persisted. "

That's true. A thought put down, so comfortable.

The best end of a mature relationship is to let go of the past and let yourself grow.

Separation is always painful, but it is better to let go of the past and let yourself grow instead of waiting for the echo.

When Show Lo and Grace Chow broke up, the collapse of the people, the story of dog blood, the love of chicken feathers ...

When netizens were still fighting for Grace Chow, she only said one sentence: "Thank you for your company over the years." Then broadcast live, bring goods, and restart your life.

There is no despair of "I don't believe in love anymore", and there is no question of "why did he do this to me";

There is no self-doubt that "I am not good enough", facing the broken relationship.

This dashing girl chose to let go of the past-get out quickly, stop loss in time, and let herself grow-and start again.

This girl showed me the best way for a mature adult to get rid of a bad relationship in time-let go of the past and let himself grow.

It is said that if you never forget for a moment, there will be echoes, but I think:

If the artifacts are broken, don't repair them again. If you repair them well, there will be cracks that can't be erased;

If the tea is cold, don't renew it. If it is full, it is not the original taste;

People go, don't stay, even if stay, also can't get the original feeling.

In this life, there are no so-called hurdles, things that can't be left behind, people that can't be forgotten, but only hearts that can't be left behind.

Some people are destined to be just passers-by in our life. Instead of insisting together, let go of the past and let themselves grow.

As one writer wrote:

"Life, in fact, is like a road from a wide plain into the forest.

On the plain, companions can walk in groups, push forward and push back with joy, and help each other;

Once entering the forest, the grass and thorns get in the way, and the situation changes. Everyone concentrates on going his own way and looking for his own direction. "

When you walk in partnership, you will share each other's feelings, and when you go each way, you will forget the Jianghu.

There is no need to send you thousands of miles, and there is no need to dwell on nostalgia, just let go-let go of the past, let go of ta, and let yourself grow.

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Blame only people in the wind

It's not up to you and me to get together

In the adult world, it's not easy to meet, it's too difficult to stay together, and parting is the norm.

It's not that we have changed, but that time has changed and the years have changed. Neither you nor I can change, so we have to be different and happy.

The vast sea of people, meet is fate, and parting is only the end of this fate. The next moment may be the beginning of another fate.

When it comes to origin, it is full of joy, and when it comes to end, it ends decently.

Don't worry, don't be disappointed, meet once, and have no regrets.

From then on, the mountains are high and the roads are far away, and each one treasures it.