The 3 what if’s of Women in an Unfair World!

Not here to talk about the men they already are, but about the women they already not, and why not?

Coming from my Home country, India has faced a lot of Women’s discrimination, gender inequality, and the overall perception towards them that lead to many problems intolerable.

Many Unspoken words are low-key accepted as Reality!

“We need to re-shape our own perception of how we view”

The What if’s of Women I imagined

1. The Cine-industry — Entertainment

Once Upon a time, the Boy loved the girl next door.

He chased her wherever she is. The girl never noticed him.

One fine day, the boy did some stunts or amazing stuff to impress eventually the girl had fallen.

Fin.

So this may sound normal type of love story for many. Even to me, until this type of storyline never changed.

This bothered me like what? why not the girl never is in the first place?

I felt they have feelings too, but society & Cinema have made it to a level where it is just accepted.

What if? It goes like this…

Once there lived a girl who loved the boy next door.

She chased after him. The Boy never noticed.

She flirts and sends poems about him.

One fine day, she proposed to him. Boy eventually had fallen.

Fin.

Doesn’t this sound cute and different to you? But it’s just a normal love story from the other side. This type of story-line is quite a few in the western and rare here. I just thought why it’s not the other way around.

What if? It goes like this…

When a goon approached the woman, it’s not the end but a fight back action movie.

The Women saved the man, despite the hurdles.

This is how I expect it to be and want to be. It subtly perceived movies all over the world as a spark of reality.

If Gender neutrality to be followed in industries that are public to the world, that’s when the real unbiased human race starts!

2. The Wedding day🤝🏻

A day where 2 hearts unite to seek

• Commitment
• Giving
• Respect
• Trust
• Intimacy

No place for superiority or dominance from either individual.

According to Indian Hindu culture, the bridal exchange of bead-garlands is a very simplified form of ritual and the husband ties a knot on his so to be future wife.

I witnessed a lot of weddings from my childhood. Fiance ties the knot with the wife while she welled up in tears of joy and for one more reason.

The Cause is, she has to move permanently to her in-laws’ house.

In our society, it’s considered a shame, if a guy is staying in his in law’s house after marriage (gossips). It is mandatory for a girl to stay in her husband’s /in law’s house. Every girl has to accept this otherwise by society will categorize as arrogant and uneducated.

Right from her birth, she had been told that one day she had to leave her parents’ home. So, leaving her parent’s home is not like “Bolt from the blue”. Girls have a ‘mindset’ for it. I think it is different but not that difficult, especially in the era in which we are living.

What if? It goes like this…

If you told guys right from their birth. That one day you have to leave your home, then it won’t be that difficult for them.

‘Mind-Set’ plays a vital role in this scenario!

unfortunately people think that, more they change the traditional things, more they get modern (out of line)

Let society run in its own way.

3. Why do women still change their names? — Ms/Mr. Surname.

“It is quite surprising since it comes from patriarchal history, from the idea that a woman, on marriage, became one of the man’s possessions”

In the US, most women adopt their husband’s family name when they get married — around 70%

From Ms Willow to Mrs Willow smith. The name just comprised letters but for many, it accompanies with pride!

“The question remains… is this just a harmless tradition, or is there some sort of meaning leaking from those times to now?” — Duncan

Reasons for them to take this seriously:

The first was the persistence of patriarchal power (if that was obvious to the couples). The second was the idea of the ‘good family’ — the sense that having the same name as your partner symbolizes commitment.

What if? It goes like this…

If the husband comes forward to change his name with her wife’s name.

This would for sure to show the No ego category.

It’s like the thought has never crossed the mind of the vast majority of men I’ve spoken to.

“Why would I ask my wife to take a last name that I didn’t even really want to pass on to my kids?” — says the newly married couple

These days many women keep their own name when they marry, and couples are increasingly opting for a double-barrelled or merged name. But men who take their wife’s surname are still quite rare.

If keenly observed, the above said what if’s, Women taken but not given

The indifference I noticed, the discrimination that happened, and the talks that I heard of, forced me to change. The change in one-self matters, so I started writing in what way it should be.

To see everything in both eyes, not one-eyed, is what I believed in.

If you have some questions or what if’s running in mind, comment!

It is a time that we all see gender as a spectrum, instead of two sets of opposing ideals — Emma Watson