The 1 that Got Away

I have been thinking this for years and I told her this some time ago. Now what I'm about to say may scare the little girl away, but will give full understanding to a woman of true caliber. Now we can all debate if true love has hit us at one time in our lives, but I can surely attest that the one who was intended to elevate and complete a man only comes around with not too many opportunities. No this is not love, but understanding that I have learned the lesson about the one who got away. Men are slapped with many chances for love and romance. Any half way decent man can attract a woman if he has manners, direction and goals in life. Sometimes the choices can overwhelm a man, and I for sure fell victim to this situation.

Anyone living in Atlanta, GA during the time of the 96 Summer Games, knew that the women there out numbered the men a staggering 13 to 1. Here is the problem in that number, there was very little quality in that quantity. I can't speak of the men to women ratio in Atlanta today, but I'm sure those numbers are a bit more alarming. However, I am going to present a few reasons why it is so important for a man to pay attention only to a woman who has interest in him. This young woman possesses a great deal of substance. Denzel Washington said it best, "Make sure the same woman who is with you at top, is the same woman who is with you at the bus stop". We all know the story about Denzel and Pauletta Washington on their first date. Even the great Michelle Obama was there for her man, B! A woman of this type of character does not change when the seasons change. There were multiple signs that "she" was very supportive of my current situation. Once we were having late supper in a nice quaint spot in the ATL and the conversation we spoke about was just different. Not to mentioned she paid for the meal that night.

This point as I make it very carefully, She made herself available. By far she was not desperate or in the need of attention. As I recall, there were a few men in the community trying to put there personal jersey on her, but "she" moved a certain way that was uncommon to the average women. I am going to withhold the conversations we had back in the day, but the things "she" displayed gave me proof that "she" was interested. Never waste time with the women that play games and not answer calls or return them. I can go on about the opposite nature of this woman, but I am not here to bash.

The most important aspect of her life was that "she" was humble enough to never put a man in a position of emasculation. A woman of this nature will always give the man a perfect opportunity to display leadership, so following was not a problem for her with a man that "she" was willing to gain security with. I have had my share of the complete opposite.

I can go on and on about this magnificent woman, but I wanted to keep it short and tell you that I was not ready for what "she" had to offer. Yeah, I missed out on this wonderful woman, chasing someone with far less desire and capabilities. As I said before, the ratio was 13 to 1 and my immaturity caused me to miss out on a true blessing. Yeah, I told her how I felt about the situation and how I wasn't mature enough to handle what she had going on then, but I blew my chance with "her".

Now many will not understand and easily think that I will compare every woman to "her", but that is far from the truth. Any true woman knows that nothing can stop her when her desires are set on a man, and I know that if a woman of this caliber crosses my path again; I will not let her go. If not, then lesson learned! I truly believe in telling people how special they are before its too late and this is factual evidence that good women are out there. Unfortunately, I have to face my karma for fumbling a precious gem.

"She" could have been my "Pauletta" to her "Denzel"!