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Quick People Reading: 18 Psychological Tips

How to read someone

By Artur JankePublished 3 years ago 7 min read
Quick People Reading: 18 Psychological Tips
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We are inundated with data when we meet someone for the first time.

It might be challenging to determine a person's personality type. It's crucial to comprehend HOW we communicate for this reason.

Experts claim that our body language makes up 55%, while 38% comes from our real tone of voice of what we communicate.

And only 7% of what we say comes from what we really say.

This indicates that in addition to what a person's looks could imply, we must consider these three variables when meeting someone for the first time.

As a result, pay attention to the following cues when you first meet someone if you want to learn about their personality.

Number 1: Making eye contact

The phrase "eyes are the window to the soul" is used frequently.

The context is crucial in determining the type of eye contact someone is providing you. For instance, if someone is literally fixated on you, that may indicate a love desire.

On the other side, if you look someone in the eye and they are unable to return the gaze, it indicates that they are either nervous or that they have something to cover up.

But, if someone's gaze is making you uneasy while you're speaking to them, especially if they're very motionless and not blinking, then something is obviously wrong and they might be lying.

Number 2: Eyebrows

Take a look at someone's eyebrows to see how at ease they are!

Your eyebrows are most likely to rise when you are surprised, worried, or afraid.

When you're having a friendly, casual conversation with a pal, try lifting your eyebrows.

Isn't that challenging?

If someone is speaking to you and their eyebrows are raised about something that doesn't make sense,

If you can surprise, worry, or frighten someone, it means they're uncomfortable.

Number 4: Laugh

The mouth can lie, but the eyes can't when it comes to smiling.

Sincere grins reach the eyes, causing the skin around them to wrinkle and form crow's feet.

The next time you want to determine whether someone is truly smiling, look for crinkles in the corners of their eyes. People frequently smile to conceal what they're really thinking and feeling.

If they aren't there, something is being concealed by that smile!

Number 5: What They Say

When you first meet someone, if all they do is brag about their beautiful spouse or compliment their coworkers, odds are they're a very decent person.

According to studies, people are more inclined to exhibit kindness, politeness, love, and good manners themselves the more highly they regard others.

The opposite is also accurate, though.

Anybody who backstabs and labels people as nasty and manipulative is more likely to exhibit these characteristics themselves.

They might also have a history of personality disorders or depression.

Number 6: Paralanguage

Nonverbal cues like your tone, pitch, or speaking style are known as paralanguage.

In essence, it's a flowery way of emphasizing that you should pay attention to what people are saying.

something.

For instance, if someone responds to you in a monotone, they are probably detached to and uninterested in your idea.

Another excellent example is the use of sarcasm.

When someone utilizes sarcasm, they usually mean the exact opposite of what their words suggest.

Therefore pay attention to the words they emphasize and the manner in which they express it.

That provides you with a clear indication of what their genuine objectives are.

Seven: Side Glance

Individuals that are kind and receptive to meeting you will turn to face you and make eye contact.

On the other hand, if you've just met someone and they look aside or to the side right away,

This is a subliminal body language cue indicating they are trying to flee.

Number 8: Constant Nodding

Usually, when someone nods, it means they concur with you.

Yet, excessive nodding could be a symptom of concern for approval.

When you're explaining anything to someone and they nod a lot, it's a sign that they're worried about what you think of them or that you have doubts about their capacity to listen to you.

On the other side, frequent nodding could also be unintentional signals to the other person to move on, similar to when someone continues checking their watch or fiddling with their car keys.

Number 9: Chin and Jaw

People often stroke their chins when they are attempting to decide.

They could be gazing upward, downward, or to the side.

They are undoubtedly thinking deeply because of this.

One indication of tension is clinched teeth.

Regardless of what they are saying, this shows a significant amount of discomfort.

The subject of their anxiety may come up in conversation, or perhaps their thoughts are elsewhere and they are concentrating on the stressful situation.

Place 10: Posture

You can get a sense of someone's confidence by the way they carry themselves.

For instance, if someone is standing straight, leaning back, and looking straight ahead, which suggests that they are confident and feel good about themselves.

As someone walks, it conveys a very different message if they are hunched over and gazing at the ground.

Although it may not actually indicate low self-esteem, that is the message it conveys.

Number 11: Touching Hands

It is thought that what the head is thinking is transmitted through the hands.

Often, when someone rubs their hands together, it indicates that they are feeling good about something.

Individuals typically act in this way when they are enthusiastic and hopeful about a positive future development.

Number 12: Shake hands

A handshake can reveal a lot about a person.

They are prone to be weak and sluggish as well as submissive.

They may be dominant kinds if they are too harsh and crushing.

The duration is also significant. It's awkward if it's too long, but if it's too short it could indicate some sort of conflict.

It's possible that the other individual has no desire to form a close relationship with you or simply that they just don't have much time.

Number 13: Leaning in or away

An obvious sign that someone is interested in what you have to say is if they lean in closer to you.

It's also a gesture of respect, something you might not be aware of.

During a discussion, it indicates that someone wants to confide in you when they move near you and lean in.

You experience trust and value as a result.

Yet, leaning back indicates that a person is either bored with the talk or possibly for whatever reason the person experiences discomfort.

Number 14: Holding the baby

Well, this may seem unusual, but it's important to know.

Look at the arm they use to hold the infant if you're meeting someone for the first time and they just so happen to be a new mother.

According to studies, happy mothers frequently carry their infants in their left arm.

Mothers who are anxious or sad typically hold their children in their right arm.

Number 15: Crossed arms and legs

Have you ever engaged in conversation with someone whose arms or legs were crossed?

It's not a good indicator whether you're on a first date or if you're attempting to sell someone a fresh concept.

Physical obstacles like crossed arms and legs indicate that the listener is not receptive to your message.

Even when they are grinning and conversing in a friendly manner, their body language conveys a lot.

Crossed arms or legs psychologically indicate that a person is mentally, emotionally, and

They are physically separated from what is in front of them.

On the same point, a person's foot placement might disclose a lot about them.

When someone likes you, they will stand with both feet pointed in your way.

In contrast, if their feet start to move in the direction of the door, they are ready to depart.

Number 16: Shoes

they may reveal a lot about a person's personality.

We all seem to make judgements on people's shoes, yet research indicates that they are actually fairly accurate.

- Anxious individuals will wear brand-new or immaculate shoes.

- Friendly people wear sensible shoes. - Calm individuals tend to like unpleasant situations

aggressive individuals go for Ankle boots

Look at your own shoes, please.

Do they suit with your personality type?

Number 17: General Presentation

Someone's appearance and mannerisms might reveal a lot about them.

A person may be particularly detail-oriented if they have well styled hair, ironed clothes, and show attention to fashion.

Someone who dresses more casually or has "bed head" could be imaginative or just disorganized.

Take a look at someone who appears unclean and dirty; they may just be really lethargic.

Number 18: Copying body language

It's likely that you haven't noticed this if you've never attempted to read people.

So in the future, pay great attention to it because when someone imitates your body language,

It implies that they are so smitten by you that they wish to sing harmony with you.

It indicates that things are going well and that the other person is receptive.

your message.

As nobody wanders about with the goal to blatantly mimic someone, this is done unintentionally.

But, when we feel at ease around someone, we often follow their lead.

Some of us are quite adept at interpreting the cues that others give out.

Some, though, are so terrible that they require the other person to open up and frankly express what is going through their head.

It's difficult to read people, but if you can, it's a wonderful ability to have.

Everyone differs naturally, therefore it's not always easy to interpret their words and acts.

Be precise.

But maybe these pointers will put you well on your way to improving your ability to read people.

We're interested in your opinions!

What is the first thing you typically notice about someone when you meet them for the first time?

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