Pure Love

A musing on ‘Pure Love’

The spiritual journey severs the ties of dependency. When one begins to seek answers from the inside-out, the spiritual journey begins. Religion is seeking answers from the outside. It’s asking: what can YOU do for me? How can you save me? How can I be redeemed? Spirituality is seeking answers from the inside. It’s asking: what can I do to cultivate more authentic love in to this experience? It’s taking your power back, through the currency of love.

After much witness, I’ve come to see that the things I purely loved, only set me free- the things I purely loved, only expanded my life.. and that’s how you’ll know. To purely love is an act of liberation.

Pure love is when you learn to love in such a way that there is no ‘need.’ When you allow the other person to not need you. When you have so much respect and admiration, that you know they can succeed at anything they want, all on their own, and you have no desire to take any of that glory.. that you don’t feel the desire to be needed by them to verify your existence. When you know ‘they got this,’ and you just want them to know it for themselves also.. you endlessly hope that they soon discover that they don’t need anyone to become better, perfect, great and whole.. that they already are, all on their own.

Pure love is when you don’t seek validation or reward.. because in pure love, the reward is loving someone so fully and so authentically, just as they are, without your touch.. you wouldn’t even feel a desire to disrupt them, because you don’t want them to be tainted or stray from their path. When you love both yourself and another with a pure heart, you come to a place where you may think: it would be great if we were on the same path, we would expand exponentially, it would be even more fun, but it’s no longer a requirement or the end-goal. Pure love is the end goal. And if you’ve found yourself here, that is enough.

The reward in loving purely, is remaining witness to another’s glory. It’s the stark reminder that beauty exists even without you. That life is beautiful all on its own. It’s a remembrance of what LOVE truly is. What LIFE truly is.. and that the two are interchangeable.

It’s like when you see a flower.. if you really love it, you let it grow and bloom, all on its own. You trust the process. You trust them. You don’t pick it for your own vase, because you know it will just wither and die. You love them exactly as they are, and become awe-struck as you watch them grow into the fullest expression of themselves. In pure love, you need not take any claim for their victories. Because it’s about them and not yourself.

In pure love, there is no need to take action because there is no ‘me.’ There is no ‘us.’ There is YOU. You got this. You are amazing. You are wonderful, and you don’t need me. When you love purely, there is no grief and there is no loss.. you’re just happy they are existing.. and you revel in their greatness, even from afar. You think: wow, that being is magnificent, just as they are- in all their states and changes.. even when they leave the earth.. you’re like wow.. I bet they will do great things wherever they go next.. and there is no ‘me.’ They’re great without me. And that’s the truth about pure love; it is the opposite of codependency. They don’t need you. And they are wonderful.

So if you’ve had the privilege to experience a love like this, you’re truly blessed. Because this freedom from needing external validation, is all you need to thrive. This freedom is where the fruits of the spiritual journey bloom.

Mutual pure love can be even more profound, offering endless exploration. When you love with a pure heart, loss transforms into appreciation, reflecting the beauty of the spiritual journey in learning to love selflessly. And when it’s mutual- you’ll come to this place where you know it’s TRUE, because loving them, doesn’t hurt.

Loving them, means loving you too.

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