No Makeup, No Filters

If a man request that you go to dinner with no makeup, no lashes, no wigs on the first date; what is your response, ladies?

This was a question I posted on a social media site and the responses were quite entertaining. Not in the sense of laughter, but it is very fascinating how people think with the information that is provided. We all have our opinions and there is never a "right" response to this question. However, it is totally up the the one who ask and the one who receives this question on their following actions.

Let me explore some responses and I will dig deeper into why I posted the question. I completely understand that women may use makeup for various reasons other than trying to impress a man. This is not what this is about, so take the personal feelings out of the question and understand the assignment. Most women stated that they would want to look their best. Well life is not always about the "best" so why not appreciate the natural flow of a date? Now in most cases, a first date should come after a few conversations and both mutually agreeing that this level of communication should elevate up a bit. First dates can be very stressful and impatient ideas and unrealistic expectations can or may develop from either party. So what is the problem with a casual date and allowing each other the opportunity of experiencing the natural state of someone?

Then there was the response of "that's controlling, why do I have to do what he ask?" I thought relationships were about pleasing each other wishes but I can gather that most women who say this are looking out for self and are they really in a health mental state to be dating? I'm sure there is no problem with letting a man know what type of food she likes and what kind of a restaurant she likes. I'm sure that is a consideration that has to taken, or women don't care and would like to go to Burger King instead. Give and take is a major factor with relationships and there could be problems if a woman has a hard time with a simple request such as showing up in your natural state.

Lets deal with the "weird" statement. Normally this is said when the person lacks valid context and critical thinking and not willing to explore why I asked the question in the first place. Unfortunately the feminist movement has a strange twist on people who think in this manner. Enough said!

Some women replied, no and other said "what time are you coming to pick me up". Again, there is no "right" answer, but allow me to explain my thoughts behind the question. First, after several conversations before the first date, I am truly exploring a woman's state of mental comfort around me. Has nothing to do with looks. If that was the case, I don't think I would of had more than one phone conversation with a woman. I was dating a woman once, and she sent me a picture of her flat-ironing her hair. That was the most beautiful picture I received from a woman. She was vuneralable enough to show me that side of her. What happened to us is another story, but the simple fact that she was comfortable enough to show me that side of her, told me a great deal about her comfort level with me.

Second, I'm seeing if a woman can follow simple request and directions! Yeah, that came out harsh, but if a woman have problems with a simple request on this level and we are only getting to know each other. Sorry, but not sorry; this woman is showing that she cannot be lead in any situation. How many times we hear women say, "I want a man to show me that he can lead"? Well, let's start with the simple stuff first. Why is that so hard to do? Ladies have no problem telling men what they want and where they want to go and how they want to be treated. Can a woman accomodate a man be honoring a simple request?

Third, I'm really seeing if a woman can adapt to change and doing something out of the "norm". Life can hit us with all kinds of surprises. One minute we're on top of the world, and the next we're facing various issues. It is very important that a woman can show me that she can change things up. There will be plenty of time for the high-end dates and formal ware. Can we get through the simple stuff that will add to our foundation, so when trying times come, mercy!

Too many women are in their feelings about makeup and accessories. Relax and let down for a second and give that lace-front a break! Mess around and might be on time for something, just might!

Look, in all seriousness of the matter, this is only an opinion that I (might be other men) would like to see a woman in her natural state not just for me, but also to see if that woman is comfortable enough to relax in my presence. That tells me a great deal about a woman and it should tell woman a great deal about a man who would like to see women in their natural state.

I will address this one aspect of my post and I left this for last because many women think it, but there was one who mentioned it. If someone ever has to reply with and mentioning money or authority, the battle of respect is over. Yes, money makes the world go around, but don't show your shallowness so soon out the gate. Normally, these type of women never get past the first conversation with me. Oh, there was a time, but not today! Money only magnifies the character. If there is a flaw in the character, then money will not and cannot make that person any better. Trust me, there are so many that live in misery and depression. Try not to make everything about money!

After all, it's just a date. If the date doesn't turn out to be ok; then one could say "at least I didn't spend all this time getting glammed up for a disappointing night!" On the other hand, look at all the relaxed fun waiting to happen and the joy that can be found in a easy night out getting to know someone.