My Relatively New Healthy Relationships Are My Priceless Treasure

I feel that I wouldn’t give enough credit to the power of healthy relationships whether on an individualistic or an expanded universal level, no matter how hard I tried to.

You might be familiar with this popular belief, “hurt people hurt others”. In the quality of a realistic and unapologetic truth-teller, I need to say it is the case for some fellow humans — many of whom only share the external human form with the rest of us, sadly enough.

Nonetheless, it is highly correlated to the pathway and survival mechanisms we choose to cope with dysfunctional emotional systems during childhood, and to which we are subconsciously attracted during adulthood.

Simply put, being so well trained to abandon our power and turn off our self-awareness and lacking psychological education, we keep trying to confirm our limiting beliefs and seek out the bond that we are familiar with and that we innocently confused with genuine love.

Interestingly, the statement above is very relative. I keep faith in humanity thanks to the beautiful reality that a considerable number of folks were harshly abused and/or unintentionally deeply hurt in their households.

Yet, their free will chose to remain intrinsically good people. They made the choice not to let adversity harden their pure heart.

The relativity of the “hurt people hurt others” concept doesn’t apply to the impact of healthy relationships on the involved parties, it seems to me, fortunately!

Let me first specify what I mean by a healthy relationship if you don’t mind. It is an emotionally safe space where we are listened to actively — in other words, to be understood, seen, validated, offered compassion when being vulnerable and real, challenged, encouraged, and celebrated.

Most importantly, where trust — the glue of any healthy relationship has been consistently built and deserved in both directions.

I am a deep believer those relationships are a gold ticket to drastically help heal life traumas' most challenging scars, and soothe the soul.

Also, I think that healthy relationships energize us to invest ourselves in the greater good from which the whole Universe might benefit even amid our most challenging days.

One needs to seriously commit to continuously rewiring the fear-based twisted subconscious program, though, in parallel.

I know the difference by experience. During the first year following my re-birth, I isolated myself from the world.

The homework I needed to do to align my mind with what my spirit and servant leader in me showed me during my out-of-body experience seemed to be so undoable that I couldn’t spare any time for anything else.

My only assets to raise my bravery whenever the pain was becoming seemingly unbearable were, I suppose:

• The humility to unlearn and learn again, and which kept my heart open to receive the light,
• The principled legacy that I visualized and that goes beyond myself.

I probably need to specify that I had no clue about what a healthy relationship looked like at the time. I only started attracting this kind a year after being saved from ending my life.

I needed to work on the numerous patterns making me an unhealthy person who contributed to jeopardizing her relationships without being aware of it, in the first place.

In other words, having a healthy support system during that first self-introspection period was not an option for me. Little did I know it was anything but the end of this physical existence big traumas!

In the middle of 2020, I discovered a dark secret that I still didn’t reveal publicly for the sake of protecting some cherished folks.

Thus, I needed to go through some radical acceptance grief, and it was more painful than working on the majority of my limiting beliefs was, in all likelihood.

Having a support system that time or what I love to call soul-friends/homes made the whole difference!

Without their Unconditional love, understanding, empathy, validation, encouragement, and celebration, it would have probably taken years to finish that grief process.

They became my most treasured asset, and I know they will have my back no matter what because both parties have been very consistent in building the relationship glue: trust.

Should it feel worthwhile, I explored the difference between trustworthiness and trust a while ago here.