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Moving Further Apart Made Us Closer

I am a butterfly...

By AdrianaPublished 4 years ago 3 min read
Moving Further Apart Made Us Closer
Photo by Kyaw Tun on Unsplash

"So you're just going to walk away from all of this?" is the magic question that has haunted me for years. We were best friends before any of this mess happened. I suppose I should tell you what actually made me walk away. Well in simple terms, she was fucking crazy! I know, its not very nice but its very true.

We dated on and off for a few years. Everything was going smooth until the second she moved in. When people say the "honeymoon" phase ends quick they are not joking. The second she moved in she wanted to control everything. My dog was no longer able to be on the couch or the bed and well honestly, that was never going to fly, he is my baby. It went more and more downhill when I was not able to be myself in my own house. "Am I the only one who has gone through this?" I kept asking myself this over and over. Until I woke up one day and she had smashed my phone because it was vibrating too much too early in the morning.

Now if you have an Android then you will understand when I say Gmail spams your phone with every email you got throughout the night early in the morning. I drew the line, I was done. I told her "you have to go, I don't care where you go but you have to get out." Harsh, I get it but it had to happen!

She looked at me with the most surprised face ever. As if I just smashed all of her overpriced makeup that was now laying on top of MY SINK, on the floor. "You're just going to walk away from all of this? Two years gone?" When I said this question haunted me I did not mean in a bad way. See, when she asked me this, I felt as if she expected me to put her feelings above mine. I had done this for too long, it was my turn to breathe.

"Yeah, I am walking away from two years full of more horrible times than great ones."

I saw her face and for the first time in two years I felt like I had power over my next move. I signed up for therapy after this relationship and it was great. I realized that I had reached a point in my life where I realized my worth. Everyone has this point in their life.

It takes that one shitty moment to point it out that you are a fucking butterfly and you deserve to fly free and if someone want to fly with you they fly besides you not on top of you!

...I flew free, I walked away and never looked back. We met again a few years later. She was married and she had 2 kids and one on the way. I was happy that she was happy! We hugged and we laughed and I went home to my dog on my bed with my partner watching some Netflix and the best part about it... I could see my bathroom sink!

This was not intended to say I gave up on the relationship when it got hard. This was me putting myself first, something that a lot of people forget to do. We base our happiness on other people forgetting that we were perfectly fine before we met them. I never let anyone make me happy after that, I made sure my happiness was there before and after them!

Lesson learned..

(Bless the person who could handle her..)

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About the Creator

Adriana

I started writing in a journal when Covid started, it became a daily thing. I wrote my feelings, my thoughts, dreams, and fears. It felt good! I wanted to share some of my daily stories/thoughts with the world.

Welcome, I hope you enjoy!

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