Modern Dating: How to Appear Interested Without Overdoing It

Dating is a complicated game. It can also be really confusing for both men and women. That's because, in contrast to what you might have learned from your parents, the way to play this game is not always obvious. Most of us have been taught that in order to attract the opposite sex, we should be as available and interested as possible without coming off as needy or desperate. And yet at the same time, it's also commonly thought that being "too available" makes us seem less interesting or desirable than other potential partners who may prove more challenging - or at least less obvious - to win over. Well I'm here today with some good news: You don't need to choose between these two options! You can make yourself appear interested while still keeping some mystery around what exactly it is you're looking for out of dating right now."

Figure out what kind of attention-giver you are.

Dating is a game of give and take, with each partner trying to strike the right balance between giving attention and receiving it. In general, people fall into three categories when it comes to their attention-giving habits: givers, takers, and balanced.

Givers are people who also like to give gifts or affection; they may also be generous with their time if they feel like they're getting something in return. Takers are those who prefer to keep more of the relationship for themselves - they compete for power over the other person and tend to be more selfish in order to get what they want. Balanced people give as much as they receive; this is often what we think of as an "ideal" partner because these relationships tend not only last longer but also have fewer problems than others (i.e., each person gets along with one another).

When dating someone new who falls into any one category above but especially if he or she tends toward being either a giver or taker (or even worse: both), watch out for signs that he might be too self-serving at times! Keep reading below so find out how this can affect your life together…

Ask yourself if there are any other factors at play.

If you are shy, nervous, or insecure - or if you just aren't sure what the other person wants - you may overdo it. Asking too many questions makes it seem like you're trying to get something out of them. You don't have to ask people about their family and pets; just ask enough questions that they feel like their time is being valued.

If someone asks a lot of questions, they may be trying to find out more about you before they make any kind of commitment in the relationship. They might also want more information so they can compare your answers with other people's answers when considering potential partners. It's important not to take this personally because there are many reasons why someone would want to know about your life experience and personality traits beyond wanting something from you!

Apply this knowledge to your behavior.

• Think about what you're doing and why. If you're constantly sending back-to-back texts, or asking them to hang out right after they text you, it may come across as desperate.
• Don't overdo it. Remember that there's a fine line between appearing interested and being desperate - it's okay to be subtle!
• Don't be afraid of asking questions or expressing your wants or needs. You don't have to read people's minds! It might make them feel more comfortable if they know what's going on in yours.

• Don't expect the person you're interested in to know how much time is too much for texting. They probably haven't been on 100+ dates before like I have ;)

Don't be afraid to ask the other person what they want from you.

You may be thinking, "Okay, but what if the other person just wants me to listen and not talk?" Well, then tell them! If you're unsure of how much attention they want from you, ask them directly. If they say that all they want is for you to listen and respond only when asked a question then that's fine too. But if they give any indication that there will be more involved - or if this person has been making eyes at you since day one - it's probably best not to assume they don't want or need anything else from the date other than your undivided attention. If a guy just wants me to sit quietly while he talks about himself all night long? Then he can go find someone else who will put up with him (and I'll happily let him walk away empty-handed).

If both people know what kind of date this is going to be (i.e., whether it's an actual first date or just two friends grabbing dinner) then both parties should feel comfortable asking each other what exactly the other person wants out of this event before committing their time or money on it.

Keep your eyes on the prize.

As you date, keep your eyes on the prize. You should have a clear idea of what you want and be able to communicate it clearly. This can be tricky if your intentions are unclear or if you're being too passive or aggressive, but if they're not in line with what a potential partner wants, then he or she will likely move on after one date.

You also need to make sure that:

• You aren't overdoing it by asking too many questions about his or her personal life or wanting details about him/her (i.e., "What was your childhood like?")
• You aren't being too needy at any point during this process - from asking for more dates before an initial one is finished up calling yourself "crazy" because someone didn't text back within five minutes after getting off the phone with them

Be mindful of how much you're giving and what you're expecting in return.

You want to appear interested without overdoing it, but it's also important for you to be aware of how much you're giving and what you're expecting in return.

If all you do is give, then there's no way for the other person to reciprocate. If they feel like they owe something back, or if their investment level does not match yours (and vice versa), this can ruin both your relationship and your self-esteem. On top of that, giving too much can make people feel uncomfortable with the situation - they might start thinking about how much effort they would have to put into getting something back from someone else if they were in your position! Instead of worrying about whether someone will love me back or whether they will think I'm trying too hard, try focusing on myself instead: am I enjoying myself right now?

Conclusion

Remember, if you feel like you're giving too much and getting nothing back, that may be a sign that your partner doesn't respect your feelings or needs. If this is the case, it's time to reevaluate your relationship. The best thing to do in this situation is try to keep calm and carry on with your life as usual until the issue gets resolved.

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