Love is Love?

Lately, I keep hearing something from the left: love is love. I actually agree in their sentiment; I could care less about homosexuality, bisexuality or any of it. I want people to find happiness, and if a man finds happiness in a man, or a woman finds happiness in a woman, it's no skin off my nose. Yes, I'm fairly centrist when it comes to homosexuality. I could care less who people marry, as long as they are marrying the person who makes them happy.

But love is love? Really? Is that the best catchphrase they could come up with? Are they just not thinking about what they are actually saying? (My money is on the latter by the way) To suggest all forms of love are equal is both insane and dangerous. What about the love a pedophile feels towards a child? What about the love a stalker feels towards his victim? I know it's a television show, but Charlie clearly loved the waitress, and that love he had for her certainly is not equal to the love Barack and Michelle Obama feel for each other. How about the love a lonely man feels for a stripper, or a prostitute, or even his sex doll? Is that pure love?

I understand the point of the phrase, which is why I am not going to follow the logic of "love for person ≠ love for pizza", because I understand that the left is comparing passionate love between people who want to spend the rest of their lives (or the rest of the night) with each other. While I do think the phrase itself does a poor job of explaining this, I won't rant on and on about how love for smoking a cigar or sitting on a beach isn't the same love that a mother feels for her son, or a coach feels for his team. These are all different, and not what the left is saying.

What the left is saying is that anytime two people say they are in love, it is love and it is equal. Well, that's absolute rubbish. A couple who have lives full of crystal meth, adultery and domestic violence does not have the same love that a healthy couple have. Love is supposed to spawn selflessness, although many people who claim to be in love do nothing but use their partner. Not all love between consenting lovers comes with patience, kindness, and understanding. Some love is manipulative, abusive and selfish. You may argue that what they feel isn't love, but can you without making yourself a hypocrite? If love is love, you can't judge someone for who they love, or how they express that love, because love is love. Which, of course, is why not all love is created equal.

Let's further follow the logic behind their argument though. Are apples apples? Well, technically, but they can be incredibly different as well. Granny Smith Apples are nowhere near the taste of a Fuji Apple. While whatever apple is superior is generally left up to personal preference, to argue they are all the same is utter hogwash.

Speaking of hogwash, are all soaps created equal? Are all slices of bacon equally declcious, or are some better than others? Do anti aging creams all work the same? How about cars? Is a '99 Saturn equal to a 2020 Jaguar? If video games are video games, how about you put down that Mortal Kombat 11 and pick up some Superman 64? If music is music, you can replace my Buddy Rich with Brittney Spears any day.

Nothing in this world is equal to its counterparts. Every human may be able to give 100% when attempting something, but depending on the human, what 100% looks like greatly differs. Do you believe in equality for sexual preferences? Well, that is and of itself is a fallacy. Even if we don't go into criminal territory and bring up children, are you honestly telling me that a man who could be described as "vanilla" sexually won't be judged less than a man who enjoys eating fecal matter? If you were hiring for your company, or looking for babysitters, can you honestly say you wouldn't judge someone for being aroused by turds? You know damn well you would. People in general are biased towards the things they enjoy and biased against what they don't. It's just how people work.

The next time someone tells you love is love, tell them they are wrong. But I also think it is important to remember not to get upset over silly things like sexual preference. If we stopped trying to legislate morality and instead protected ourselves against those who wish to do us harm, pedophiles and the like wouldn't be able to jump on the equality bandwagon when equality and empathy are the last things they understand. Homosexuals being able to date and marry in peace doesn't hurt me or my family; society in general oversexualizing children does however. Let us stop confusing what we don't like with what erodes our morality. Whether you are homosexual or heterosexual doesn't define your morality. How you treat your lover, people, children and animals does.