LIFE’S GOALS AND MARRIED LIFE HAPPINESS BOTH CAN HAPPEN

Everyone has his or her individual goal of life that he or she needs achieve, keeping married life happiness intact. It’s required to have discussions on how life’s goals and married life happiness both can happen together.

I have the passion of making notes of many real cases, related to married life. For instance, married couples who are happy despite of so many odds. Or, couples who got separated only because of impatience. Even, there are cases of complete withdrawal of life’s goals due to strained marriage.

Marriage is one of the most important events of life. But, contrast, disparity, clash are experienced in abundance, after marriage. After all, two persons with different upbringing and different ambitions get together and form a family. But, even after knowing this, everyone wants to have a happy married life, considering happiness as a default result, without putting efforts on the baseline.

A suitable balance between life’s goals and married life happiness will be the best policy.

Let’s poke into the following paragraphs related to life’s goal achievement and married life happiness:

A. Setting the Common Ground of life’s goal achievement:

Two individuals who are going to be or are already in a life-long relationship, definitely have some common goals. For example, financial goals. With those common goals, a common ground may be constructed, after marriage. So, both the spouses need to sit together and brainstorm. But, brainstorming is not a series of arguments or fights, but a proven way to find out the common points. Both the spouses can together put joint efforts towards setting the common ground. As a result, it becomes easier to handle the lesser loaded unique individual goals, as some activities will already be covered in the Common Zone.

B. Optimal Utilization of 24 hours of the day, towards fulfilment of your personal and family goals:

There are 24 hours, in a day, for everybody. And, by utilizing that 24 hours, many successful married persons have have made marks in their own lives and have proven that the life’s goals and married life happiness-both can be achieved together. Things which are already proven by many, can well be achieved by you, along with your spouse.

Methodical planning, positive mind sets by both the spouses and the winning spirits make the whole difference, in the long run. In that process, we need to come well above the default perception levels. And also, can not be any question on “If it does not happen, then what?”

As both the spouses need to run the family affairs together, so there can be tentative schedules for the unique individual milestones, based on the necessary engagements for both, in their family. However, neither of you will take a halt on the matter of guarantee or surety, as both are already comitted to achieve your life’s goals and married life happiness.

C. Compromising for family happiness, but without sacrificing the goal of your life:

Generally, we use to hear that either she or he has sacrificed his or her life’s goals, for the sack of the family happiness. But, the situation of going to the extent of sacrificing life’s goals may be avoided with mutually agreed plan and strategy. After all, you need to achieve life’s goals and married life happiness, together

If you can not take up an assignment, because you need to go out of your place and stay away from the family, then remain cool. Of course, life’s goals will not be spoiled due to that reason or similar other reasons. Because, the present world is with plenty of opportunities and with digital edge, the World is like a Village. And so, by staying at your place, you can work at different global locations.

D. Taking mutual compatibility, into account:

Marriage is not an event that can happen again and again.

If you are not yet married, but are planning to get married, then please do not get married just for the sake of marriage. Irrespective of whether that will be an arranged marriage or a love marriage, the foremost thing that needs to be checked is compatibility between the two, not only emotional but also intellectual and the physical compatibility. The following lines may give you a better idea.

1. Some cases of Emotional Compatibility :

i. One is short tempered and is habitual to fight, without putting any judgement; but, the other one is opposite to that. Yet, both are comfortable with each other.

ii. One has the habit putting all the blames on others, in every matter. But, the other one is not like that. But yet, both are comfortable with each other.

iii. One always talks about winning with smart works; but, the other keeps on expressing doubt sand fears, all the time. But yet, both are comfortable with each other.

iv. One suspects the other on every matter and makes wild assumptions; but, the other is not like that. But yet, both are comfortable with each other.

2. Some cases of intellectual compatibility:

i. Whether either of them would be able to understand and appreciate the level of each other’s thoughts or aspirations and support accordingly.

ii. One between them may be with higher educational qualification and the other may be with a basic education. But yet, both may be intellectually compatible. Formal education may not have direct relation with the level of intellect. The important point is how much either of the couple is able to understand, appreciate and support, with mutual respects and adjustments.

Suppose you love talking and thinking about world environment protection and your spouse does not understand, but is engaged in trifle matters like making funs out of the big nose or cross eyes of Mrs. XYZ, then there is an issue of intellectual incompatibility.

3. Some cases of physical compatibility:

i. Whether the blood groups and the genes of both the spouses favourable for a healthy baby.

ii. Whether both the spouses physically fit, so that they can live happily after marriage.

E. Assessing how much the chemistry match:

In addition to the compatibility matter that we have discussed above, you need to assess, how much of your chemistry match with that of your spouse. Are you and your spouse in the same or similar wavelengths or always in North and South Poles apart? That is very important.

Before marriage, if major chemistry mismatch issues are discovered, then it is better not to go ahead. After all, both want to be happy and successful in life.

Similarly, after marriage, adjustment with mutual respect, may be a way.

We have discussed above, how achievement of life’s goals and married life happiness both can happen together. Above all, it’s the determination and joint decision by both the spouses.

LET’S GO AHEAD IN THE JOURNEY OF LIFE AND TRY TO USE THE POWER OF POSITIVE INSPIRATION.