Let the opposite sex more and more like you chatting skills

Do you feel this way when you are with people?

Some people talk and make you feel comfortable, relaxed, and in a happy mood.

Some people talk, but make you very head, originally very good mood, but also by his a few words to mess up the mind.

The same meaning, expressed in different ways, brings people feel different.

For example.

A loved one has messed up something that makes you quite uncomfortable, but not to the point of hysteria.

There are two ways to respond.

"Are you too stupid to do something so simple?"

"This I something you shouldn't do, I'm a little disappointed; I think, with your ability, you are perfectly capable of doing this better, don't you think?"

The same criticism, expressing dissatisfaction, but the latter response method is richer and layered so that others are comfortable.

This is the "sandwich effect" in psychology.

When criticizing the other person, first recognize, then express your dissatisfaction and emotions, and then finally give him some praise and expectations.

So, in the opposite sex is together, how do chat to make each other like you?

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Cultivate trust and familiarity: throw in the towel

Psychologically speaking, people subconsciously prefer to be with people who have a high degree of "similarity" to them.

How to make the other person think that you have more similarities with them?

By "throwing in the towel", of course.

For example.

The boys like to watch basketball, like fitness, like sports and sports; girls can learn a little bit of this knowledge, and chat with the boys, you can find a common topic.

Girls like to watch dramas, follow the stars, and food, then the boys will study more about these topics.

The purpose of pitching in is twofold.

One is to create more common topics, the other is to develop each other's sense of trust and familiarity with you.

The purpose of this is not limited to finding similar interests and topics with each other, but also includes the use of language.

There is a saying that "speaks to your heart".

What does this phrase mean?

To be precise, it means that the other person can figure out your emotions and thoughts.

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Close the distance: praise and support

Deep down, everyone craves praise and recognition from the outside world.

Children want praise from their parents and parents to want approval from their children.

Men long for the admiration and support of women, and women want compliments and appreciation from men.

Even with strangers, your unconscious flow of praise, but also to make each other's face with a smile, instantly eliminates his "wariness" of you

In the process of getting along with the opposite sex, proper praise can improve your relationship.

For example.

A guy loves to play basketball, so you can find a chance to watch him play; then, you can compliment him.

"Wow, you look so handsome when you play, it's the first time I've seen you play."

Believe me, this kind of praise will make the whole guy "float".

The same applies.

How does a boy start when he praises a girl?

Girls love beauty and want to be told, "You look great, you have a great body, you have a great temperament, and your dress with great taste."

Get the picture?

Be sure to be sincere.

Be specific in your compliments so that the other person can feel that you appreciate them from your heart; a generic compliment is meaningless.

"You're beautiful."

"You are really beautiful, the first time I saw you, I felt my heart was struck."

Which of these two types of compliments is more convincing to accept?

"You're so well dressed, aren't you?"

"Your outfit today is so tasteful, the matching of colors, the choice of clothes, all so tasteful; I envy you, with your good figure, wearing such good clothes."

Different ways of praise bring different feelings to people.

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Date invitation: choice instead of a rhetorical question

An example.

You've been talking to the opposite sex you like for a while and you want to ask the other person out to dinner and a movie, but you're afraid of rejection.

At this point, what can you do to increase the chances of the other person accepting your date invitation?

Let the other person do the multiple-choice questions instead of letting them do the judgment questions.

You should say.

"I heard that two new restaurants have opened, one Chinese and one Western, which one do you want to eat, we will go to eat on the weekend."

Instead of.

"Are you free this weekend? I'd like to take you to the restaurant for dinner."

If it were you, which question would you prefer to do?

When faced with a multiple-choice question, people tend not to reject it easily; when faced with a question, people have more time to think and think rationally.

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Dependence and love: think differently and provide emotional value

How to make the other party rely on you, and make the other party like you more and more, or even love you?

If you do all the above points well, the other party will have a good feeling for you, and then like you.

If and want to like into love, you have to "amplify the trick".

Remember.

If you can learn to think differently and have this ability, you have exceeded most people.

See a story.

The king had a dream that he lost all his teeth.

When he woke up, the king was puzzled and didn't know whether the dream was bad or good.

So, the king called for a wise man to interpret his dream.

The first man who came said.

"Not good, king, to dream of losing a tooth means you will lose a loved one."

The king was furious and had the wise man dragged out and beheaded.

The second man who was found said.

"Noble king, this is a great good; for every tooth that falls out, it means that you will live one year longer, don't you think this is a great good?"

The king smiled with joy and had the wise man rewarded with a sum of money.

The wisdom of the second man was this.

He was good at understanding, analyzing, and thinking differently.

Put yourself in the other person's shoes, position and situation; only by doing so can you give them the answer they want.

Why talk to some people, so you feel like a breeze, very comfortable?

The essential reason is.

The other person has higher emotional intelligence, and strong empathy, and can provide you with emotional value; he is downward compatible with you, so you feel comfortable.

When the opposite sex gets along, if you can do this well, the other party wants not fall in love with you are difficult.