Judged & Defamation Without Reason

I’m not too sure how or why it even happened or got started... but from the moment I walked into a bar in a small town in highland, Illinois things were bad for me. I’ve lived in that town off and on since 2004, though I was also born there. My family recently moved back to the area from Granite City. Anyways, I was just getting into promoting and working with bands in local bars in the surrounding areas. I had just got back from California and had worked on several game and reality shows. My mom had told me about a bar called the Corner Keg, that they had bands and such. She had also suggested checking out a place called the 501 Blues.

At first I was there at the keg almost every night after work. I was doing research for my next book as well as looking for bands to promote in my online entertainment magazine at the time called Hoot Owl Entertainment. I was always friendly loved talking to everyone and dance. Well apparently the owner of the bar, named Kent Wiese had warned everyone about me claiming that I was trouble because I wasn’t from there. He then warned everyone to stay away from me, to hide their wallets, credit cards and so forth. I have never in my life stolen from anyway or taken from anyone. I was introduced to a man by the name of Mark which everyone had called asshole. A person who I thought was my friend wasn’t at all. I began to date this guy and he became emotionally abusive towards me. Telling me things like go be with other guys that we both knew. I’m not a whore and I have no use to continue seeing someone who treats me that way. It wasn’t much longer when I began to date someone else which didn’t work out for me. I really wasn’t looking for anything serious at the time as I was still getting my life together. I was working and going to school and trying to figure out what I wanted to do. Anyway, never once had I hurt anyone or jump from guy to guy but even if I had which I didn’t that was my business. It seems like men do it all the time and teat women like trophies, or candy etc and get away with it. I had dated 4 men which three out the four I regret but that is why we date in the first place. To see if we like one another and want more later. With only dating 4 men within a year or two time frame I have been marked badly in the town. I strongly urge anyone going to any town such as this to be very cautious. I never acted out of character and regret ever going to that place. Even after leaving and on the verge of success with my writing and film work; I still can’t go back there without being talked about or labeled.

I eventually left highland in 2015, for Nashville and really made a name for myself I was working on tv shows and writing film projects. Things were going great for me until I went back to highland for family reasons in 2017. I never should have stayed there after I lost my grandma but once again I had met someone. However, he just wasn’t anyone I had really fell hard for him and well it backfired severely on me. Once again I was being criticized, they told him lies about me and I then I got hurt. I never jumped into a relationship that I wasn’t ready for. He had just lost his wife in 2016 so he wasn’t ready for anything he just didn’t want to be alone. I really loved him but it became very toxic living with him. I got hurt bad and couldn’t work, started suffering from depression and other things were going on with me. I didn’t know or understand what it was but it was very bad. Living with Ron was the worst thing I had done in years. He was suffering and constantly drinking and drunk every day. I was hurt couldn’t work and need help with what little bills I had. We were more like roommates because after I moved in things changed. It was too much and even though he helped me he threw it back in my face. We began fighting all the time because all he cared about was drinking and being with his friends. My anxiety and PTSD began to escalate due to being around the drinking. I was unhealthy for two years going through severe anxiety and last year I learned I was suffering from perimenopause. I was going through a very hard time with it and it’s starting to get better.

For years I was very upset and angry about how I was treated but now I’m just leaving it alone. It’s very sad for people to lie about someone all because of them being new to a place or what ever the case may be. Now with the drama from my ex boyfriend he would get drunk and tell his friends and family lies about me. Once again I’m not from there so I’m in the wron and they must be right because why would it be said. This was why I stopped dating and going out due to the messy drama. However it does make for great writing therapy. What gets me is I do what I can I help people maybe I try to hard and make things worse. I know I can be very flirtatious when I drink too much but that doesn’t make you easy or a whore unless you screw everyone. I was just trying to meet people make friends and have some fun which I hadn’t had in a very long time. I had spoken with a lawyer about filing a defamation case against those who caused this and I may still as I have a strong case. I’ve just decided to walk away for good not to return to the town and write about it. I’ve spoken to several people and they had even admitted hearing the stories about me and stated that’s just highland and the people there. They even stopped going there for those reasons. I’m moving on moving forward with my life and not looking back. I’m not saying that everyone is bad there as I do have very few friends there which I will keep in touch with. With that, I’m going to move forward and wait for Karma to meet them one day.